so poor thing, do u feel pitiful for her?
she was molested when she was 6, but realized she was being molested only years later and then became depressed n self multilated herself.
but lucky she had the support of her church friends and then she channeled her energy to being a counsellor at CHC.
http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/printfriendly/0,4139,125600,00.html
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SUN HO'S PAINFUL REVELATION:
'I was molested at 6'I knew something was wrong
SINGER Sun Ho's own youthful struggles with depression and self-mutilation is no secret.By Ho Lian-Yi25 March 2007
SINGER Sun Ho's own youthful struggles with depression and self-mutilation is no secret.
But she has never revealed what triggered them.
It was a secret she kept even from her own mother.
Finally, two days ago, at a Taipei press event, she revealed the truth.
Sun (left) said that she was sexually abused as a child by a man whom she knew. She was only 6.
'I don't remember what he was like...' she told The New Paper from Taipei.
The molest happened at his house when she was there playing with her siblings.
The man asked her to sit on her lap. Afterwards, she felt a 'pain'.
'I couldn't fully comprehend what had happened, but I knew something was wrong,' she said.
She tried telling her mother it hurt, but had no way to express fully her predicament.
So she kept it in her heart.
But that experience left Sun, now 36, with scars.
As she grew older, and began to understand what happened, she grew angry.
'How could someone I trusted do something like this to me?' she said.
Worse, she started blaming herself.
Why did she not resist the man, she asked herself.
The teenage Sun spiralled into depression, which worsened into self-mutilation. She would use a razor to cut her own hands, and even lock herself in her room.
As a 16-year-old, the only people she confided in were her close group of friends, who were all Christians.
They told her to forgive herself. And finding religion helped her see the light.
'How could a 6-year-old have protected herself?' she asked.
It was her experience that led her to start a welfare centre at City Harvest Church later and become a counsellor, to help other victims.
She has even forgiven the man. She said she lost touch with him since her family moved when she was 9.
And her husband, City Harvest Church founder, Kong Hee, was a source of strength. They have a 2-year-old son, Dayan.
'He always tells me, look, what you have gone through has given you the strength to help many people,' she said.
But one fear remained - her mother did not know.
Then, she revealed her story to the Taiwanese press while promoting her new album Embrace. She was hoping her story would help fellow victims.
'My first reaction was, I hope this doesn't go back to Singapore,' she said.
She hadn't kept her mum in the dark because she thought her mum would be ashamed of her.
Then she found out a local Chinese paper was breaking the news yesterday. The paper quoted an inaccurate Taiwanese report that said she had been molested for five years.
As she was unable to get her mum, she called her husband to tell her mum before the news broke. Luckily, he managed to do so. But she was still crushed.
'I never told her because I knew she would have a meltdown - which she did tonight,' she said.
She said her mum called her, crying and admonishing herself for being a terrible mother. Sun's voice cracked several times on the phone. She was crying too.
'I want to tell her, it had nothing to do with her. There was nothing she could do. I am a mother now too. I know there is no way you can spend 24/7 with a child,' she said.
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