Hmmm is it really important to be yourself? No matter what?

• kb24

  24 May 07, 11:31

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?
• Eric Cartman

  24 May 07, 11:33

  Originally posted by kb24:

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?

  It's like you're describing me.
• banzie

  24 May 07, 11:33

  It is quite impossible unless you don't want to have friends or you live alone in an island...
  
  I'm a crazy mad man myself so when I'm with others I need to be more constraint. Diplomatic is good at times. Although standing on your ground is good also when times are tested. Important thing is Do what is right I guess.
• Darkness_hacker99

  24 May 07, 11:37

  Originally posted by kb24:

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?

  I am like you, very quiet and low profile. If you want to make more friends, you'll have to be out-going and active in conversations.
  
  But there are pros and cons of being low profile lah. The chose is yours.
• Xiaozzhen

  24 May 07, 11:43

  Originally posted by kb24:

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?

  You can talk very little, but what you say makes you an interesting or boring person. If what you say can churn more discussion, oh boy, what a conversation starter you are.
  
  Being interesting is a skill. Read more and interact more can help.
  
  No need to pretend. But there's a saying " Life is a stage".
• FireIce

  24 May 07, 14:39

  other than yourself, you will have social selves
  ur attitude and behaviour will be different when u are with diff groups of ppl
  like at home, in school, at forums outing, at fren's BBQ, in NS, dating the girl u like.....
• Eric Cartman

  24 May 07, 14:41

  hypocrite
• Eternal-fire

  24 May 07, 14:43

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  I am like you, very quiet and low profile. If you want to make more friends, you'll have to be out-going and active in conversations.
  
  But there are pros and cons of being low profile lah. The chose is yours.

  That's so you! I can verify that.
• Xephone_xenon

  24 May 07, 15:23

  When you start mixing with others you will find yourself coming to like your "new self"
  Trust me.
• eagle

  24 May 07, 15:27

  talk with body language
  
  be yourself. Any changes you want should be done gradually, and not forced upon till it becomes unnatural on u
• SGpork

  24 May 07, 15:29

  i can dont talk n i can talk alot..
  my frens know..
  
  so...if i start to talk..they will listen to me..when i dont talk..they will talk to me.
  
  
  u can try talking abit more everytime..when soon.. u get used to it..if u feel so bad n way comfortable being the old self of u..
  then also good..
  
• Patrik

  24 May 07, 15:38

  I am a misanthrope.
  
• caleb_chiang

  24 May 07, 16:11

  Just be yourself... Sometimes you would open up in different group of person... it is just natural because sometimes you feel more comfortable with that group of people.
• AndrewPKYap

  24 May 07, 16:14

  Originally posted by kb24:

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?

  "You" don't exists... meaning "You" can be anything... it is all in the mind... and some practice...
• Deino

  24 May 07, 18:40

  Originally posted by kb24:

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?

  lol
  
  be yourself a.....
  
  just change your habits.
  
  you cannot run away from nature.
  
  But you can adapt to nature instead.
• allentyb

  24 May 07, 18:53

  almost everyone wear a mask...............
• Ito_^

  24 May 07, 18:58

  its important BUT! u shld also keep some masks with u when u deal with different people.
• popikachu

  24 May 07, 19:02

  I am a odd guy...
  
  I always prefer to be alone...
  But i always fear to be alone...
  
  I dont really like to talk,
  BUT i want someone to talk to me...
  
  Am i crazy
  
  lol i think so...
• Rad

  24 May 07, 20:08

  Since when Chit Chat become Aunt Agony?
• Bontakun

  24 May 07, 20:19

  Originally posted by kb24:

  ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person.
  
  All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends.
  
  So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends?
  
  This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?

  Being oneself is what defines an individual from a group. An identity that is unique to each and every individual.
  
  Be yourself while you try out new things. There is no need to pretend to be someone you are not. If you are not, no matter how hard you try you just can't find the proper fit.
  
  We are all learning as we are taking every breath now and then. What you were yesterday is no longer what you are today. What you will be tomorrow is not the same as what you are today. Learn new skills. Discover more of yourself and find out what are you actually. You maybe quiet, boring or low profile now, but that does not mean you will be quiet, boring or low profile tomorrow.
• yong93

  24 May 07, 21:18

  Mayb this will not sound so nice but there's a reason behind everything ... Ask yourself why are u like that , where can i improve , are those friends loyal and worthy enough so that i can befriend them ?
  
  Still Duno ? Dun forget u are on sgForum , u can always make friends here and look on the bright side of life ^^ Good Luck !!
  
  Always look on the bright side of life teteteteet ~~ !!
• kb24

  25 May 07, 14:54

  wow lots of great advices..
  
  its is true we have to put on masks at times to adapt to diff situations,but one can get very tired if forced to put on the mask for too long.
  its like maybe i can be very interesting for this day,but the next day i get tired and revert back to my old self..so people may find me inconsistent and decided that i'm a hypocrite,this is another risk..
  
  hmm it sucks that some people have this problem,whereas to some it's easier than abc.. well guess the world's unfair huh..
• FireIce

  25 May 07, 14:56

  when u behave differently, they are not called masks
  it is not telling u to fake
  u are still real, just tt it's another side of u
• BadzMaro

  25 May 07, 15:43

  Originally posted by kb24:

  wow lots of great advices..
  
  its is true we have to put on masks at times to adapt to diff situations,but one can get very tired if forced to put on the mask for too long.
  its like maybe i can be very interesting for this day,but the next day i get tired and revert back to my old self..so people may find me inconsistent and decided that i'm a hypocrite,this is another risk..
  
  hmm it sucks that some people have this problem,whereas to some it's easier than abc.. well guess the world's unfair huh..

  Your principles will also determine ur character. We all put on masks from time to time. Pleasing everyone is a tiring thing to do..
  
  i dont know how to explain this situation , but i dont have that problem. Although i do agree that some ppl are just harder to handle and approach then others.
• de_middle

  25 May 07, 16:16

  Originally posted by Eric Cartman:

  It's like you're describing me.