The truth of antisociality
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As a matter of fact, this is NOT ANTISOCIAL behaviour. Being alone and being antisocial is DIFFERENT.Originally posted by freedoom11:Hi people,
i have faced alot of pain as i grow up. I had grown up feeling disappointment with both myself and people. I had stopped opening my heart up for a long time, perhaps for.. 7 years..till i met a fren who i really treasure alot but recently, we break up as friends. I still have friends who are there for me. However, i can't bring myself to open up/warm up to new people and people who are nice to me.
I was bullied in primary one, then was kind of taken advantage of in secondary school as i haven't met the friends that could appreciate me as who i am,. When i am in jc, i had grew even more antisocial. I was kind of outcasted in jc and had developed a kind of " don't talk" with people anymore, whenever i am in a group. Fortunately, i had met frens in society club that i can count on during my jc.
My mother has a very strict and unloving influence on me. I had learnt to be unaffectionate with myself and people and it does not lead happiness. I am not a very friendly person. People say i look fierce.
I feel pain.. cos i have met new friends who are nice.. and i could really like to get to know them better but i always felt this distance with people. I, on the other hand is also tired to deal with " ren " /people but yet i want to get to know them.
Antisocial means rebeling against the norms of society. While liking to be alone means introverted character and that's how chinese originally are anyway.
It is sad that Singaporeans like to apply false labels and mix things up, and always tease others that they are 'antisocial' and I assure you what they say is UTTER RUBBISH. Bad english.
When a typical Singaporean comes up to you and say 'Why you so antisocial one, why you don't like to mix with people?' This type of Singaporean is the RUBBISH SINGAPOREAN WHO IS BRAINWASHED AND CANNOT ACCEPT WHO YOU REALLY ARE. These rubbish people use the word 'antisocial' to attack people's honest integrity, these attackers are the real losers.
Think through it, in Korean, Japanese and China's culture it is GOOD TO BE ALONE AND INTROVERTED. Because that is how yellow skinned people should be by nature! This has some influences from Confucianism and Taoism.
Speaking of antisocial, gangster and hooligan behaviour, coupled with causing harm to others is called antisocial behaviour, and a quiet person is definitely not antisocial, get this straight from now on, Singaporeans! -
totally agree
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Sorry for being harsh but sometimes Singaporean's perception is so egoistically narrow and sounds so hilarious that I have to say that what you say is rubbish.
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true ...
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part of it is true!
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Nice one, TS. Yes, I've noticed that there are really a lot of Singaporeans who cannot accept the slightly more "different" people; this is especially true for the teenagers (I'm one, so I'd know quite a bit.) If you don't talk much, you're "anti-social". If you answer the teacher's questions in class, you're a "mugger" and probably "anti-social". If you don't really like to hang out after class and reach home late, you're "anti-social". Stupid, isn't it? And these people are supposed to be the "future leaders (and peasants) of our society". Sheesh. You'd think Singaporeans would be smart.Originally posted by Fire Star:Sorry for being harsh but sometimes Singaporean's perception is so egoistically narrow and sounds so hilarious that I have to say that what you say is rubbish.
And why is being an introvert not a good thing anymore? Introversion just means you draw energy from yourself, from being alone. I've heard my mom always lamenting about my being an introvert, and honestly, I'm sick and tired of all these myths about introverts. -
Bah, just another form of labels....
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reminds me of jokers being labelled as "lame"
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I admit that my command of English was never as good as you do. Thus, 'antisocial' to me, simply means being quiet and doesn't want to mingle with other people. I believe that most Singaporean has use this term as I did and freedom11 has the same perception of antisocial. Therefore, you cannot say that we are attacking the integrity of others and putting false labels on them. You can, however, chid us for our command of English. But thanks to you, I now understand this word which I had often use wrongly.
I think its foolish to think that it is good to be alone and become an introvert. In whatever we do, we just have to associate with people and it is definitely not our culture to be introvert. Back in the kampong days, everyone within the village just know one another and what they do for a living! And you should also realise that there is no way a person can avoid talking to another person. Therefore, whether you are by nature or force by nature to become an introvert, its better to try to talk to others than to hole up in that small world of yours. -
my friend always say i anti social...
i remember got 1 forumite ask me how many ppl in my msn..
thn he judge frm there too..
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true...but i dun tink that ppl actuali mean what they say(if they actuali even knw what they r saying) when they say that ppl r anti social...its juz a word to use when ppl prefer to b alone...i mean as singapore culture, we always use the shortest form...rather than sayin 'y do u always prefer to b in ur own world than being out with us'. they say 'eh y u so anti social'...its kinda a word to summarise everything...its basically part of singlish culture n yes its bad english...but then again singaporean's general english was nvr very good in the first place, esp when it comes to words with similar meanings...Originally posted by Fire Star:Sorry for being harsh but sometimes Singaporean's perception is so egoistically narrow and sounds so hilarious that I have to say that what you say is rubbish. -
There are many definitions of antisocial...most would refer to you as not opening yourself to join a different group of people when asked to...i.e. gangsters calling you to join them but you dun wan....but the truth about it is that being in one of these category itself could also mean that you're an antisocial becoz you're not open to another side.......hmmm......instead maybe being an open individual would answer the problem.....that way you won't belong to any category but instead open to make friends and understand different views and stuffs....hmmmm
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i also same problem..everytime ppl talk to me i tend to give short answers...so after awhile the person will feel kinda bored talking to me..
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i like being alone....
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wah... sad case..
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agree lol.
im one of them too, cos i dont really like to join a big group of ppl, while i dont do that, some of my friends called me anti social.
but at the same time i know theyre not referring me to "anti-social", they just meant "why do i like to be alone by myself"
i think this is alright, just that see how you used it, if you understand what the opposite meant. -
Thanks, I hope more people would read this.
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hmm..depends where u go also..
when i'm abroad in friendlier countries like hongkong, bangkok, japan, i enjoy interacting with the people there and making friends cos generally i think it's worth it as they are geninuely kind-hearted
but in stressed up and kiasu sg, i don't see it worthwhile to make so many friends here, just for the sake of impressing people that u have a wide circle of friends -
Had a quarrel with my colleague, and was labeled by my boss as anti-social too. Only sicko people label others as anti-social.
Going back to the topic, I tot anti-social = not able to / not wanting to socialise. Hence is not = introverted -
i like to be left alone and is anti social too...
what am i ? -
the guy sounded like he plucked some cheesy lines from animes sia...
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i am both.
i am introverted, because i dun like crowds.
i am anti-social, because i like to kick nuts.
there u go... next time people get mixed up, just quote this as illustration. -
im sooo glad you brought this up =)
im also really appalled by the careless and cursory way singaporeans use the term 'anti-social'.
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/applauds