Guys see gals as gfs?

• forumer84

  4 Jan 08, 02:48

  Just something to share..why is it dat some guys out there,when they make friends with girls,they will see them as potential targets,and not just friends?
  
  Would u consider them as despos?
  
  Consider a typical cases in sgf :
  
  Guy meets girl. Start going out together as frens. Gal is comfortable with guy. Gal is enjoying his company. Guy falls for gal gradually. Guy doesn't dare to confess. Gal has no idea wats going on. Gal continues to treat him nicely or even be closer with him. Gal goes into "best buddy"mode. Guy thinks gal likes him too. Guy gathers courage to confess. Gal is surprised. Gal rejects guy but still keeps in contact. Cos she does not want to lose a GOOD FRIEND. Guy thinks still may hv hope cos gal is giving him second chance ..and the story goes on..
  
  The prob with the above scenario is that the guy view the girl as a potential gf right from the BEGINNING whereas for the gal, it is just as friend. Period.
  
  i think the prob is dat many guys don noe there is a DISTINCT difference btw how a gal would treat a good friend vs a potential bf/husband,
  and how they would LIKE TO BE TREATED by a good friend vs a potential bf (tis is the tricky part guys)
  Guys need to ACCEPT this fact because it is how girls think.
  And nothing can change their way of thinking cos it is a work of nature.
  
  imo,the general rule is, if a girl feels very comfortable with a guy, can pour out all her problems,woes, and crap, jokes,laughs with the guy and all = good friend material ONLY, typically.
  
  Btw,pple say dat good friends can become couple and they cite the case of the mediacorp couple Priscilla Chan and her fiance. But these sort of cases is very RARE. Theirs could be due to under exceptional circumstances.
  
  Im not trying to dent the hopes of guys out there who hv been gd friends with a girl they like and are trying to bring it to the nxt level.
  Just trying to portray reality and hope it can help spare fellow bros frm unnecessary agony.Reality bites.
  
  juz my 2cetns.
  
  
• gigabyte14

  4 Jan 08, 02:54

  there are two types of guys
  
  desperate and non-desperate
• dumbdumb!

  4 Jan 08, 03:19

  i have a bad habit of falling for girls too easily. its not about despo or not la. it's just a character thing. i give my heart away too easily
• Patrik

  4 Jan 08, 03:19

  True.
  So true...
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 03:26

  Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

  i have a bad habit of falling for girls too easily. its not about despo or not la. it's just a character thing. i give my heart away too easily

  harrow.
  
  the pt is that the girls no wan ur heart...
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 03:42

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  harrow.
  
  the pt is that the girls no wan ur heart...

  ferret, dont so mean lah..
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 03:50

  Originally posted by gLc:

  ferret, dont so mean lah..

  hmrf.
  
  born to be mean, what to do ?
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 03:54

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  hmrf.
  
  born to be mean, what to do ?

  later kena left of the shelf.
  
  
• dumbdumb!

  4 Jan 08, 03:58

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  harrow.
  
  the pt is that the girls no wan ur heart...

  
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 03:59

  Originally posted by gLc:

  later kena left of the shelf.
  
  

  i dun hab expiry date
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:08

  i never said u had one.
  
  
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 04:09

  Originally posted by gLc:

  i never said u had one.
  
  

  i not = processed food.
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:13

  ohhhh okay.
  
  i thot what.
  
  
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 04:16

  go die
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:16

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  go die

  after you.
  
  
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 04:20

  Originally posted by gLc:

  after you.
  
  

  no need be so polite abt it
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:22

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  no need be so polite abt it

  i wasnt, at all.
  
  
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 04:23

  Originally posted by gLc:

  i wasnt, at all.
  
  

  then u can go first
• ^tamago^

  4 Jan 08, 04:24

  whoa 4am liao leh... fighting all day long!
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:24

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  then u can go first

  nah.
  
  after you as i said.
  
  
• Ferret

  4 Jan 08, 04:26

  Originally posted by gLc:

  nah.
  
  after you as i said.
  
  

  u bark i jump ah ?
  
  go die.
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:27

  Originally posted by Ferret:

  u bark i jump ah ?
  
  go die.

  yes.
  
  go die.
  
  
• gigabyte14

  4 Jan 08, 04:28

  
  
  behaving like kids
• gLc

  4 Jan 08, 04:29

  Originally posted by gigabyte14:

  
  
  behaving like kids

  bored at night lah.
  
  okay lah i go sleep alr.
  
  nite nite ferret, giga.
  
  
• FBI

  4 Jan 08, 04:31

  i ain't desperate.. and u've got a pt there
  
  most of the guys have that thinking i dunno y..