Problem With Colleague...............
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I have been with this company for 2 months, in a male environment.
But i am okay with working with guys as my outside frns are mostly male.
All ok lah, used to the crude words and dirty jokes they say, guys mah
All quite ok lah, sometimes make fun of me as i am new but i take it easy
but got one guy he from my 1st day always scold me liao, not in fierce way but ..dunno how to describe, like always want to be very cool in front of me so always try 2 find my mistakes and if there are, will say i stoopid brainless in front of others.But is always in brotherly way scold.at first i juz laugh laugh loh.new person mah so muz try 2 maintain better human relations.
But today, during lunch , i dunno why i burst out.he was saying i brainless blah blah and i walked away angrily and went back office on my own.
No one mentioned this after lunch but i was so bad mood i took leave.
The job itself is ok, but dunno how 2 face them tomorrow.
That guy i know is not a bad person, juz that so many people but he only treat me that way!
should i resign... -
Maybe he actually interested in you?
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stay in the job if u have reasons, quit if not.Originally posted by ButterCake:I have been with this company for 2 months, in a male environment.
But i am okay with working with guys as my outside frns are mostly male.
All ok lah, used to the crude words and dirty jokes they say, guys mah
All quite ok lah, sometimes make fun of me as i am new but i take it easy
but got one guy he from my 1st day always scold me liao, not in fierce way but ..dunno how to describe, like always want to be very cool in front of me so always try 2 find my mistakes and if there are, will say i stoopid brainless in front of others.But is always in brotherly way scold.at first i juz laugh laugh loh.new person mah so muz try 2 maintain better human relations.
But today, during lunch , i dunno why i burst out.he was saying i brainless blah blah and i walked away angrily and went back office on my own.
No one mentioned this after lunch but i was so bad mood i took leave.
The job itself is ok, but dunno how 2 face them tomorrow.
That guy i know is not a bad person, juz that so many people but he only treat me that way!
should i resign...
irritating guys are everywhere. and mayb u're the lesser gender in the company and that makes u more "special".
i would say the guy either think it's funny to keep insulting u or he's too used to it because u give in from the start and gave in for too long.
work wise, we always need to suck thumb and LL work cuz we're new. after the being new period, u need to stand up for yourself liao. it's the same for me though i'm a guy. its the same for anyone, everyone i believe. -
lol, this kinda scene from drama...Originally posted by BeautifulBetty:Maybe he actually interested in you?
i wont really think so cuz he actually was too much. joking and insult draws a line and we should know when to stop.
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its gonna be okay.Originally posted by ButterCake:I have been with this company for 2 months, in a male environment.
But i am okay with working with guys as my outside frns are mostly male.
All ok lah, used to the crude words and dirty jokes they say, guys mah
All quite ok lah, sometimes make fun of me as i am new but i take it easy
but got one guy he from my 1st day always scold me liao, not in fierce way but ..dunno how to describe, like always want to be very cool in front of me so always try 2 find my mistakes and if there are, will say i stoopid brainless in front of others.But is always in brotherly way scold.at first i juz laugh laugh loh.new person mah so muz try 2 maintain better human relations.
But today, during lunch , i dunno why i burst out.he was saying i brainless blah blah and i walked away angrily and went back office on my own.
No one mentioned this after lunch but i was so bad mood i took leave.
The job itself is ok, but dunno how 2 face them tomorrow.
That guy i know is not a bad person, juz that so many people but he only treat me that way!
should i resign...
first month jitters i think.
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Welcome to the working world. He's probably pushing the envelope with you and see how fat he can take things.
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tat is call bullying
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hmm..when i was walkin away from the table i heard him sayin i think:cry cry loh!Originally posted by Leonlum:lol, this kinda scene from drama...
i wont really think so cuz he actually was too much. joking and insult draws a line and we should know when to stop.
did he contact u after? apologise?
After i went back office nobody talked 2 me, after awhile i went home le,no mood work,lost motivation.
BTW I lost my HP so anyway nobody can find me -
LOL.. aiya, this kinda guy f*** up la..Originally posted by ButterCake:hmm..when i was walkin away from the table i heard him sayin i think:cry cry loh!
After i went back office nobody talked 2 me, after awhile i went home le,no mood work,lost motivation.
BTW I lost my HP so anyway nobody can find me
next time no need give face. ignore can liao. just do your work..
help can be asked from other colleagues. he's just enjoying himself with bullying u. dun need give in. make him know wad is "bawu"
muz take care k? -
everyone sides with him cos he is actually a nice person to everyone EXCEPT me. thanks ya i willOriginally posted by Leonlum:LOL.. aiya, this kinda guy f*** up la..
next time no need give face. ignore can liao. just do your work..
help can be asked from other colleagues. he's just enjoying himself with bullying u. dun need give in. make him know wad is "bawu"
muz take care k? -
Work bully. You can ignore that fellow or complain to upper floor.
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i have juz apply a study loan..if i resign now i think the loan wun be approved..Originally posted by Leonlum:lol, this kinda scene from drama...
i wont really think so cuz he actually was too much. joking and insult draws a line and we should know when to stop.
did he contact u after? apologise?
then i will be in deep XXXX -
could you speak to your supervisor?
or another colleague whom you think can speak up for you? at least try to pass on the message to that "bully" that you are getting frustrated due to his insensitive comments? -
i think after the incident 2day, the comments from him will stop..Originally posted by zodi:could you speak to your supervisor?
or another colleague whom you think can speak up for you? at least try to pass on the message to that "bully" that you are getting frustrated due to his insensitive comments?
Problem now is i feel pai seh going 2 work tmr as every one give me the look as if i am petty type.............................how to face them.. -
i dun think losing your cool becuz you were being mocked constantly infront of your colleagues entitles you to being petty type. i'm not really sure how your office enviroments is like, but i think your 'mocking' colleague need to shut the fark up and act in a more professional manner..Originally posted by ButterCake:i think after the incident 2day, the comments from him will stop..
Problem now is i feel pai seh going 2 work tmr as every one give me the look as if i am petty type.............................how to face them.. -
Why paiseh? And if you heard him saying "cry cry loh", it's most likely that one of your other colleagues is concerned and asked him about you. Try imitating him lo. Treat everyone nice except him, then he will bendz his back towards you de. Remember to retaliate (verbally) the next time he picks fault on you, and throw in some vulgarities if necessary.Originally posted by ButterCake:i think after the incident 2day, the comments from him will stop..
Problem now is i feel pai seh going 2 work tmr as every one give me the look as if i am petty type.............................how to face them..
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i wont scold u if u did nothing wrong
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still better than backstabbing
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sadly, u will bound 2 meet this type of people...
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Quit the job and go find a job in a company with many chio bu working in it
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Quit AFTER you find a job...
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Chou Nan Ren !!!
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it seems the whole office is kinda "against" you. it may not be the truth but perhaps the problem lies in you? no offence meant.
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wow then say back in jokingly manner to him lo
he say u brainless. then u also said wow, look whos talking lol