intimate dancing?
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i seen many guys and gers who haven't a clue how to slow dance la... but is a good xcuse 4 groping n rubbing.
That is y it is called "erection selection".
Do gals avoid slow dancing at disco n how do they feel at being groped n rubbed?
i think most gals enjoy it !!!! -
Bengboy:
I dunno what gave you the idea but to slow dance is not about groping and rubbing. That's so .... I dunno what to say.
To slow dance, now that's and art form. Feel the sychronise movement of the 2 body in motion to the music. Feel the closness and proximity of the soul of your partner. Feel his/her soft breath brushing against your face. Listen to his/her heartbeat getting faster and faster, heavier and heavier and heavier.
While all these is happening, for the guys, gently hold her by the waist and dun apply pressure least she feels any discomfort, if the 2 of you are pretty close, hold her close, hold her near your body, use thy body to support and provide a sense of security. One thing, NEVER grab the Butt! Not only does shows your lusty side, it also shows how much respect you have for your partner.
For the gals, put your arms around his neck, slowly pull him closer, just resting your arms around his neck, no need to grab, if you feel tired, rest your head on his chest, listen to the sweet nothings that he is whispering to you, enjoy the peace, enjoy his heartbeat, enjoy the warmth from his body. enjoy the moment.
*snap fingers*
Ok so much for that. anyway, I never thought of slow dancing as anything obsence, in fact it is a very romantic experience. Anyone have similiar thoughts?
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Just my $0.02 worth
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Ok
I suah Ku
I never intimate dance b4...
But juz reply in order to catch up with anyone...(i know i can never catch up with wansai now that he is 600++ and increasing)
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It takes a moment to have a crush on someone,an hour to like someone,and a day to love someone,but it takes a lifetime to forget her. -
To bengboy:
I don't see that there is any problem to be close together and do slow dance. In my side of the world, everyweek I go for my ballroom dancing classes, I have to be close to my partners so that we can do the spin turns with the nice waltzes... I think that it is the immature mentality of people to think of these dances as something else... -
Well DaKaR:
I think you have to post like 100 posts per day to chase up that 600++ posts of Firewire and the worse is that you have to write only one-liners... -
I am more thinking of 50++ post per day since i already applied to do my job at home coz i have to look after my grandpa
so i am doing dataentry at home
so i will be online 12 hr a day
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It takes a moment to have a crush on someone,an hour to like someone,and a day to love someone,but it takes a lifetime to forget her. -
I dun see anything wrong with slow dancing though.....even in clubs u see strangers doing it with a slow song comes on.
But the feeling......of being close to someone.......of sharing the space...the air.......the air of unexpectedness that something special might happen.......is difficult to describe.
<guy hormones off>
Well if I see a gal i like I wouldn't mind slow dancing with her......provided she gives the right signals.
<guy hormones on>
Its all part and parcel of having fun. -
I agree... slow dancing is more of a chance to be close (physically) to a guy. Moving to the music... etc. Never done it before myself. I think it should not be said as a chance to grope your partner.
But sometimes... I think it's whether both parties are willing or not. I mean, I can't imagining asking a guy to slow dance with me in a club?? Unless of course, it comes naturally for both people... -
To RaYcHel:
If you have done ballroom dancing particularly waltzing, you will realize that it is possible to have a partner close to you... -
very correct......when I do that I always look for signals that she's ready and not scared of the proximity.
Guyz the groping idea is just silly.....the gal trusts u enough to be close to u and u betray that trust by getting all groppy....definitely a thumbs down.
Raychel if a guy has introed himself and he's not disgustingly repulsive or anything....when u wanna slow dance a simple tug of the shirt will do......it works on me! -
HAHAHAHA.. bengboy.. u damn jialat man...
Callan, u sure are a romantique... captured da spirit of slow dancing in juz a few sentences... good job!! its all about intimacy not sex man... -
tet:
I can wear heels for you, if my services were required. *winks* -
Tet:
Mind if my body is still attach to it? *Laffs* -
ah boy:
What is in your mind? Seriously speaking, how old are you???? They are very classical dance and dun insult the dance. As callen told you, it IS very romantic to dance that!
callen:
hmmm, I NEVER know that you are THAT romantic! But then again, haven't seen each other for over a decade so everyone grows up differently!
tet:
hmmm, I dun think u are taller than me, so I guess I can offer my shoulder to you for a while.... very comfie to lie against leh! The best thing to hug, next to garfield!
prodigal my man..
u learning that!!?!?
Coolz...alwayz wanted to learn but no time and money for it!! ahahah, when u come back, teach me some of them leh! What have you learn?
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why, bishamon? why bish?
coz he's God of War!!
But I'm a peacelover! -
To bishamon:
Yup, I am presently learning ballroom and latin dancing. In ballroom, we have waltz (my personal favourite, since I liked to use Chow Yun Fatt's line in Anna and the King when I dance with Ang Moh gals,"I am king, I shall lead" *evil snigger*), jive, cha cha, quickstep and tango... We do a little rumba at times and turning waltz... -
prodigal my man..
aaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggghhhhhhh...
dun tempt me liao...u MUZ teach me when u come back liao...hahah!!! me really too poor to take up lesson coz they are normal very exp one!
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why, bishamon? why bish?
coz he's God of War!!
But I'm a peacelover! -
Prodigal>>
I loved the way they danced in Anna and the King!!! Wish I could learn how to dance like that. Only thing is... I'm afraid I might have 2 left feet!
Why are you taking up lessons anyway?? -
SuperSonic>>
I think I would never be in the situation to be slow dancing with another guy. Where am I going to find a place which plays slow music... and at the same time... a guy to dance with???
I suppose... If the guy's not like... I have to puke every 5 mins when I see him... then it's ok....
If it's a guy I like... I'd like to be able to gaze into his eyes, or lie my head on his shoulder.... -
I'll dance wit u Raychel if u let me grope u.
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Raychel:
I can help you arrange that. How about my house? As for the guy why not you make a guess who it will be? *LOL*
Dunno what got into me today, just feel like flirting with everyone *LOL* Must be the New year.
But seriously, my first slow dance was quite of a comic. It was a D&D, and as she is looking into my face, I was kind of feeling uneasy. And I ask her the stupidest question.
"Errr... hope you dun mind, but I think I am sweating on my back."
Well, she just kind of back off after that. *LOL*
Bengboy:
Hiaz, you just dun get my message and insist on being the disrespectful gentleman, I am talking about, aren't you?
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bengboy:
You're really something
Maybe you haven't tried slow dancing with someone you like. Maybe that's why you got the idea that slow dancing is about groping.
From my experience (dun make too much of it), slow dancing is really romantic, especially if you're dancing with someone you love or someone good-looking! The chance of holding someone close to you and dancing to romantic music *starts thinking back on the few times I slow-danced with guys*
And just sharing my experiencethere was once when my bf came for my school concert, and after that, we went to one of the dark corridors and danced to no music... and I found it really romantic and sweet... -
Raychel:
Wellz sometimes it doesn't need a lot u know? The times I did it in a club were when the gal and I really had good eye contact....and just happened to be close together when the slow track started.
I look into her eyes.......she looks back.....she smiles this shy smile.....I smile back knowingly........and I just hold up my hands to the height of her hands.....bingo.
Anyway the one I liked best was when a gal had this fat guy dancing beside her.....and I'd already had quite a few good looks from her already.......she pulled me by the shirt and there it goes.....mutual attraction I guess.
So Raychel if u really dig a guy(if only for his looks) the secret is in the eyes.....if the guy is receptive he'll know what to do. -
Raychel girl,
well I personally like the eye gazing thing better....it feels much more precious that way. If the gal doesn't mind I'd lend her my shoulder, but that still ranks second(good for whispering stuff to each other though).
As I said this takes experience.....for both guys and gals.....to know what to do(no groping) and just enjoy the space.
Hmm as for places that play slow music....don't u know that even with dance music you can dance slow? It all depends on the individuals.... -
I like Callan's description of how to do a slow dance......spot on.
Just add: Most of the time guyz we have to lead her into it....and not act nervous or anything....cuz most guys are kinda nervous when they're so close to gals.
Not being nervous conveys a sense of security and leadership, which in turn will make her feel comfortable.......
Helps if the gal is at least a little shorter than the guy...so that his neck is easier to grab.
Wow better not write so much leh....sounds like a jioying galz manual liao.....better not tell all my secrets! -
Hey Raychel why don't u attend the outing tomorrow? I'm sure many of the guys would love to show you what I mean.......
Well if u really wanna know I *might* be going.<hint>