Originally posted by snop_coolz:

got meh -.- wat brand u use ?

oh well , the brand logo paint has been disminished !
casio , i guess..

Why is that so ? Please enlighten me ?

Is this a myth or a fact ?

This is not gaining sympathy, a major glitch , you are correct , my friend.

I used to be navie, very navie, sometimes i find myself immature but i am not stubborn. So many incidents, so many of them , too much of them throughly
awaken me from my insensitive dreams.

Too bad, a decision will be made soon , no I wont made the decision . I will ask her the last time. One last time, I ensure myself, I must bite my teeths,
grab my fist no matter the outcome.

I bear no hopes now. She hurt me too deep, stabbing a direct wound on my heart which maybe cant be heal in this lifetime.

Originally posted by ptw:

In a r/s, the word breakup should not be use in any situation if both still loves each other. By using the word breakup, it will imply the reluctance in solving the problems that had surfaced in a r/s.

She still loves u but in a terribly wrong way. She cant be hurting u and on another end trying to please u with gifts or so.

But then, have u tried other means to signal her that the r/s is on alert red?

Really hope that things will work out well between both of u.

Besides talking to her, what more can I do, i rem telling her Its hurting me,
would you please respect me ?

No reply, mum she kept.

Originally posted by ptw:

I believe she has a very strong ego, too strong and what she said is just a mere threaten. She will definitely breakdown if her so called wish for breakup is being realise.

You are correct, I believe she will . I cant understand.

I hope there will be solution/ miracle.....before i ....

Sighz

Originally posted by Bontakun:

This "always want to win" character... Have you know about it before you decided to woo her? If you did, it meant you either did not mind OR you are prepared for it.

I am prepared, sad to say, only her true characters revealed after being so long with her.

Originally posted by Bontakun:

Perhaps a cool down time and seperation might do good for the both of you? From what is written, she seems to be doing all she can so you two can end this relationship. She has already decided, have you?

The relationship seems to be heading towards a dead end. You are not happy being abused, insulted, unappreciated, etc, etc by her and if you cannot take it anymore, you may have to choose the ultimate option.

Unappreciated ? Can I forgo this traits ?

Yes,
She will sometimes , yes sometimes maybe once in a few months suprise me with a small gift.

I really cant understand , she was always in a "want to win" character, full of pride, she must have the all win attitude, in everything, in when comes to love,
something which she can do better than , she will raise her volume at it.

Originally posted by ¡ÚTearsofTheMoon¡Ú:

Although its not my style to encourage people to break, but if you really can't take it or getting very tire of all her nonsense, seperate with her for the time being and let both party calm down and think about the problems and decide with a calm manner whether to continue this relationship or just end it here.

Have you ever try telling her that the way she treat you is hurting you badly, or is she facing any stress resulting her releasing all her stress onto you?

Sometimes things that you did might actually affect her in a way or another just that we don't notice it, some girls tend to be very sensitive.

There many girls out there, if things do not work out well, end it to prevent hurting both even deeper.. Life still have to go on with/without her.

Take care!

Yes I have talked to her that very nicely, I asked if she facing any problems, I negotiate for a ceasefire. She continue her ways repeatedly. I dunno what's wrong with her, picking on me for the slightest details things.

Have she ever gonna respect me ?

Hi everyone,

I am sad, tell me , someone pls, what do you do when you gf is suggesting breakup to you numerous times when you dun agree to that ?

What do you do when your GF is so straight forward and always insults you verbally, your intelligent, your well-being using very harsh words althought you told her numerous times its not correct to do so nicely ?

What do you do when your Gf is complaning and loves to writes complaint letters to retailer on their service on product ?

What do you do when yr gf insult you and yell at you infront of your friends and her family members ?

I know love is a one sided frm me .Its a dual process. Sometimes I find my actions doing more than enough but I hope to play my very best part in my relationship.

she failed me badly, fail her part badly I think. I got only little love from her . I am not being stereo-typed her. That's her impression to me. We been going on steady for a year and 3 months. As days come nearer to today, I feel that our relationship is on the declining stage. I tried very very hard to save, endure ,withstand . Its catching on my limit soon .I am going to suffer a breakdown soon .

NO ! I didnt start this , there is no third parties, no related incidents. This is between 2 of us. It gets a hell lot complicated. She started to insult my parents in our quarrel using the F*ck word. She says there is nothing I can do to when she use this words !

Every little single wrongly white stuff I did, She will yelled at me , in front of her family member and EVEN my friends. I had enuff . She is challenging my ego and pride. Just simple little things, for e.g a detail which I did not asked to the Telephone operator , she would yelled at me in front of her family. I feel like an idiot . our quarrel will always end up in threatening to "BREAKUP".

Today , I am became rebellious. I began to show coldness to her, not carrying her stuff , talked the way she did to me in front of her friends . I got tired of it, I told her I am going off and went home alone without her and her friends.

I want to save the relationship, a lot of times, I gave in although its clearly not my wrong, not my mistake. I hope breaking up is not the ultimate option. But if it is, if it could benefit both of us, I will execute it.

Am i correct to say this ? i dunno

My question as above.

This applies to Civil/public sector and private organization in Singapore.
I would like to find out the opinion and the preference.

Anyone , comments ?

PS : I wish to state my stand first , I am in no intention to discriminate local or oversea graduates obtained via private or public education inistitute thru this thread.

It's all fated .

I might not agree with some guy's view point here though ,all my posts has been reveal and she knows everything about what i have posted. Ironically from my first posts till now, I somehow, instinctively earlier or later she will be aware of the posts .

It takes time, care and some thinking to maintain and cultivate love, it might as simple as you think but not yet so simple for some. Drastically, using words to describe my situation is difficult . I am sure of myself, my own thinking, my own feeling, but i am certainly uncertain of her , of her thinking , of her emotion.

You never try , you never know what's the outcome . I am trying , trying hard , but i knew being forceful bring no happiness . Love is not about being single directional , but mutually to have a fulfilling and lasting relationship.

I love her much more everyday, crazy as many of you will describe , giving up as the rest of you might suguest. One even recommend persistence. I will augment all paths and choose the best for me .

To my gal: I love you much more than you love me , I knew , saying i love you forever is unrealistic, childish and foolish. To count the days we had , the laughter you bring into my life during this period, the happiness that you inject into this period is wonderful . I sincerely hope there will no end to your sunlight which will clear the cloudy skys , paving a clear blue sky . I love you .

hey guys,

this is now blown. it's called sharing :p

consitipation guy please go eat MORE fruits or fibre to improve ur bowels

don't bully my darling and please continue to help him if he post any thread :p

HelOOooo guys,

I discovered the forumn liaoOOoo ....

hahaa

too bad he being too silly use forumn at my comp and didn't close the browser and i read every single thread and discussion board :p

Anyway just leaving footprints to say 'HI'

*waves Hi to everyone*

Ok ciaoZzz happy advising.

and i be watching!!! hahahaha



Unsecured GF

Well , at last , after many battles and 2 rejection , i am finally together with her.

I know my gf have not totally accepted me. but at least i got her at last.

During my 2 monthjs with her, she suggested breakup twice with me , i refused . First time was because her good friend also fell in love with me . I refused to break up.

Second time , she feels that we are not compatible in terms of character , she feels that she doesnt love me as much i love her..

of coz , I refused fiercely for the 2 times..
I love her alot , telling you guys this making me heart pain , i dun want to let go ...really ....I have talked to her alot of times.

I dunno what to do to secure her mind ( her character a bit undescisive at times ) . I am worry of re-occurance.....I need you guys's advice ...

i ask B out for dinner as i own her a favour but she reject defensively....
I dunno , i feel i should have a talk with her....but i think she is avoiding me ...

A and myself dont want to lose a friend because of a relationship ...
I dunno what to do ...dire straits ...at crossroads

Solid advice needed , please

Originally posted by NoTimeToWaitAr:

hmm.. muz Q the intention of A.... how come she agree when she knows B likes u.... hmm... muz Q....

B's good friend circulating the issue.....
I am worried things are not within my control...

Originally posted by Magnus:

Maybe A send B to test you.

Seriously, if 'A' and 'B' are 'good friends', and 'A' doesn't mind 'B' having interest in you, i think 'A' does not love you enough (that is, if there's really love).

The situation whereby you like 'A' is similar to how 'B' like you. All one-way.

Come to think of it, when you said " 'A' rejected first time but shown interest over time because i didnt give up". I doubted that she really accept you whole heartedly.

I was amazed and suprised by all the AA members here, all of you are experienced in handling such matters !

That's what I did , i turn B down , I dun think that A send B to test me , its impossibe .....I persistently told A that I only like A and no one else, there is a crucial point that A want to breakup because she felt terribly sorry to her good friend, she broke down in front of me, I swear I felt panick, scared, worried, pain when she broke down , this is the first time she cried in front of me .......I was really sad ....

I managed to talk A out and we continued. I am not going to let go...I am firm...

those who haven't got into this kind of situation will not know the feeling , I swear this kind of triangular affair is no joke , it will severely hurt every1 ...

Originally posted by Deportivo:

go on with A, go underground with B. best of both worlds.

but on the serious note, the ball is really in your court. It seems that you are the one who is ficker-minded between A and B.

pardon me for being direct and harsh here . I want to stake my stand!

I have NO FEELING FOR B and NEITHER DO I WANT TO GO UNDERGROUND WITH B . I ONLY LIKE A .

Hi guys,

I dont know how to describe this kind of feeling , its sickening , hurts, pain and struck to the bone.

I fall in love with girl A . A rejected first time but shown interest over time because i didnt give up . sounds like a perfect fairytale love story ???

Just when this perfect love story begins, girl B steps into the whole game, girl B likes me , girl A knew girl B's intention ( they are good friends ).

Finally, girl A agrees .

I re-instated my stand to A I doesnt like B and i will definitely love A . I indirectly hinted B i am going after A . B , isnt very happy , i can sense that .
I told A all about it . A is in a dilemma whether this relationship should be continued.

NOW , WHAT DID I DO WRONG ??? I really feel like taking a knife and stab myself . There is no perfect path to choose , did i choose the wrong path ?
I knew from the start if something like this happen, one of 3 has to give up.....

i need solid and concrete advice.

Love at first sight ?

Friends first then love ?

Be protective of her and care for her?

So that she will fall in love with you, everything is perfect except there is no love btw the 2 of you . I doubt if love can be nurtured and inject with vitamins over time .
I dunno .

omg , she was back from holidays , went to fetch her , she gave a teddyyy bear for present ....

I swear i am really very happy , very happy .....

thank you guys. All of you are correct, I shouldn’t be pushing a good platonic relationship into a love relationship so soon , I am going to slow down my pace …

Originally posted by rainee:

No, I swear that I would never do it and I am a person of my word

because I think the more you try to snoop, the more the person will lose trust in you. I rather have my own kids come to me to confide about their problems. Communication is everything in a relationship, and even between that of a parent and child. The parents should understand this and endeavor to ask and understand what the kids have to say rather than going around snooping thru their stuff.

Well, in the future when we become parents, if there is an intention to do this , in fact I feel , something is very wrong . I am not saying I won't do it , but times life-threatening situation might force you to do so ...

Infringement of privacy ? I guess no individual in this forum would like anyone to infringe their private properties. However, maybe , I should re-instate our mums does this from a good starting intention , prehaps in the wrong way .