Originally posted by rainee:

don't let him in lor...he bored then bring him out somewhere...talk outside, in the public...

personally i wudn't go with someone whom i have known for such a short time...

another option is to pull along another friend, preferably a girl so that both of u can sleep in the same room...

Why take the risk with a guy you hardly know?

Originally posted by yamizi:

I'm okay with inter-racial marriages. Just that don't understand, say if you marry a christian, you have to become a christian; and marry a muslim, you have to become one.

Why is it usually the non-christian/muslim has to give in? This is something that I cannot figure out.

Why cannot say the christian/muslim to convert out of their faith in respect to their spouses?

It's not even about prejudice to begin with, even if it is, who is having prejudice against who?

This is not true.  As much as the bible has stated that a christian should marry a christian, christians marrying non-christians are still very common, and they will not be treated as outcast.  Unlike Islam, where this is strictly enforced.  If a muslim were to marry a non-muslim, they will be despised by the entire muslim community.

Originally posted by R3D3V1L:

i said before i know what he thinks. now things would be a lot less controversial if i were to convert to say Christianity. you know it. if people are usually able to convert to Christianity, Catholism, Bhuddism, Taosim... why the fuss over Islam?

Do you know why?  cos it is a no-turning back decision.  You have to change your name, your surname which is part of filial piety of the Chinese, even if you refuse to accept that carrying on the surname is utmost important filial piety. 

And by converting to Islam, you have committed your future decendents to Islam too.  Like your gf cannot denounce Islam, your future decendents/generations no longer have the rights to choose their own religion.

Originally posted by RedizAlertz:

Bcos gals love making themselves look pretty thus spendin lotsa time in front of the mirror with all sorts of accessories. 

Now, that guy's behavior is rude bocs he has made the gal look bad in public.  Nobody wants to look bad in public, let alone gals..

True.

Say if the gal has short hair, would it make the action any better?  I do think that  the action itself is a violation of respect.  Or am i thinking too much out of it?

Yesterday when i was in a car stopped behind a red traffic light, i saw a couple 'arguing' at the side of the road.  Suddenly the guy just pulled off the cap off the gal's head.  Her long hair flown down, abit messy.  She got stunned by this behaviour and embarressed i think.

I feel that the guy is rude?  Maybe a bit humiliating or provocative?  Why does such a simple action of pulling cap off another person's head denote such bad attitude? 

Originally posted by viciouskitty74:

lawyer need proofs of them in bed?

 

you got to be kidding me.  serious.

Ya, it is not necessary to prove adultery to file for a divorce.

Originally posted by Elim20:

Its really sad and hurting...

The lawyer says most likely I will get custody of the kids, but i also worry about the outcome. Some of my friends have been telling me they will give 1 kid to each parent. I really worry....

Now the lawyer is giving me time to get the proof. But I really don't know how to go  about it. Getting PI is far too ex. And there is no guarantee that they will get the evidence. And also i will need the $$ for my bb...

Why must he do this to me??? All this years of being together, I have never ask him to buy me any thing, not even branded stuff. But he himself is wearing branded!

He will spurge on things he likes, but never buys for me and the kid. I stick to him even thou I know he has no $. Going thru so much with him and yet he do this to me!

Don't believe what friends say, thats not true, the judges usually will not seperate the siblings.  Like your lawyer said, chances are you will get custody of the kids since you are the mother, even if you cannot prove he has committed adultery.  According to the latest review of the law, you can also apply to stay in your current matrimonial home untill you give up.  Check with your lawyer on this.

Originally posted by shade343:

1) Just wondering, how do you reply your gf or bf when they repeatedly request to borrow money from you? I mean if it happens once or twice and they require some cash to pay off some short term debt is ok, but what if every mth they ask for $10 or more?

 

If this happens every month, as a couple, should have a talk with her/him on why the shortfall every month.  Being a good partner, should help to give ideas to help to resolve the problems.

Originally posted by Midlusionz:

TS know wat he wan .. he just afraid shiet will happen.

Looking at where he picks up the girl, of cos the chances of sh1t happening is very high!  TS should know this.  yet he keeps going on and on about this (for more than one mth), and keep asking others to help him test the gal.  tsk tsk tsk....  It is abit revolting, dont you think?  Imagine you bf/gf go around the internet asking strangers to test you time and again.  Outright revolting.  How can you love when you have absolutely no trust?

To TS:

Gosh.  Please...  if you want to be with her, accept that the inherent risks are high.  if you cant accept it, dont be with her.  Stop being so bo bo ma ma....  worse than women you know? 

And last but not least, learn to respect others.  You know what kind of risk you are putting her into by going into the net asking random strangers to test her for you?

Originally posted by Inexperience01:

Haha u so cute and naive. I wish i could have u as my wife.  Have u heard of missing wife or missing husband but they are seen with other man/woman?

 

So what has happened to Batistabomb6677? Don't tell me he has gone to China to make proposal to the massage girl's parents?

 

 

Missing wife or missing husband that can still be seen?  haha!  that is not really missing right?   at least if you can spend some money, get a PI, you can still find them.

The missing foreign brides are those whom you cannot find!  So many cases, where the children's custody are awarded to the locals, the foreign spouse just 'smuggle' them overseas and disappeared!  HAvent you heard of those?  (if you havent, it is time to read more newspapers!)  That case, even if you are willing to spend lotsa money, you may still never see your kid again!

And btw, think elindra is married. so no chance for you

Originally posted by elindra:

Actually simple solution for TS is what I always offer to Catknight la.

Go buy a Viet/PRC bride. Just pray she dun give you headaches after marriage

Well, thats life.  Free will.  Just make sure it is a decision which one is able and ready to accept the consequences. 

Originally posted by Inexperience01:

 

U thought doing with gfs will not get STD or AIDS meh. The chances to get it also same same one. At least paying only got one step of risk unlike chasing game, need to go thru twice the risk. But still i prefer the chasing game.

If the chances of you getting STD or AIDS from your gf is SAME as the chance of getting from a prostitude, then i really wonder what are the basis you choose your gf or there muz be something wrong with your selection process or there must be something wrong with your judgement!     

Originally posted by elindra:

Err so basically, crudely put, is ai pi ai qi ai tua lup ni  without putting in the effort.

Like that I think the hand is a better companion

haha!  i think the above cant be too far away from the truth! 

Originally posted by elindra:

Good for you.

Faster find a PRC/Viet/Thai/Msian girl and settle down

 

ya, then he scared he kena cheated.  LOL!

Some people just want to have the cake and eat it.

Long long ago, there was a man. 

he needs food, but he thought that farming is too hard, too much hard work.  so he thought of buying food, but he scared people cheat him if he buys food from others.

then one day, his villagemen found out that he died,  he died from starvation.

Originally posted by Inexperience01:

 

I like the chasing game. The harder it is, the more fun it will get. But then hor, there is a risk also, what if the girls not happy and shout molest, my future gone liao leh. Open the paper n read n sometimes u might see such cases leh. So whatever effort, whatever education and whatever hope, my parents on me will be gone instantly leh.  So sometimes, paying is good in the sense that it is much more direct n safer lah.

Paying is safe?  LOL.  well, that is if you are taking all precautions too, otherwise it will just give you STDs or AIDS. 

Originally posted by Zarks:

u dont wan her , let me have her ya..faiti give me her contact number..

call the massage parlour lah...  you think TS is a pimp meh

Originally posted by Inexperience01:

Then you got to ask yourself this question already.

 

Went to Chinatown recently, saw a few pretty PRC young girl, some looks like film star, most of them in their early 20. Saw one with old man who can be her grand father. I was thinking how powerful is $. Some touches the woman, their life finish, their family breaks, their children future also gone and they goes to jail with hatred. But with money, even a dying old man can ‘eat’ young woman openly. What a joke, may be money can also buy love.

 

Actually to me, marriage is also a form of gamble. No matter where the girls comes from, when there is no more feeling and no more love, divorce is the only exit. The more important thing is, you must be happy in the marriage. But if u think carefully, is it worth it, what if one day she left you after getting that PR status and if u lost your mind and u use a butcher chopper(a present from angel7030 for your wedding?) to chop her and u will be given a death sentence. And also STD are mostly everywhere nowadays. So give your love to someone who worth your love or I would rather remains single.

 

Money cannot buy love.  Money can only buy bodies of girls who are selling themselves.

Originally posted by Triple_6s:

Isn't it traditionally the way that men chases after women?  except for the women who can't wait will chase after the guy.

Dude, seriously, if that's the way you think about our local girls I'm not surprised why overseas girl appeals more to you.

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OUR SINGAPORE GIRLS ROXX!!!! some dao like fux, some si eh arrogant and some barks worse than the way they bite, but still they rock!

 

Sure it is traditional! 

Obviously since TS is lazy to chase or cannot make it to chase. that is why he has chosen to go for a pay girl.  Pay money can already, no need to chase.  Very fair lor   No need to scared of rejection

But then hor, he wants to come here whining, on whether she is faithful.  Of course she is faithful, faithful to S +11 = $$ 

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

nah.. it's just not me. i can't just see people doing hypocritical things and just let it be. especially when it involves someone's dignity

Perhaps you are still young.  Give you some years, perhaps that part of you may change, perhaps not.  We'll see

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

and i said you're going to be even sadder if your daughter gets married to someone she doesn't love, and he doesn't love her either. but only doing so out of obligation.

ya la, you may have a son who gets a girl into trouble. heh heh.

Yes, i may.  Or i may not even have children.

So you see, there is no end to it.  how about live and let live?  Live each day to the fullest.  What come may!  Let's handle it when it comes! 

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

no la, but you got say smth abt if next time ur daughter comes back pregnant, you will make sure she gets married or you'll break that guy's hip with your walking stick or something

ah...  i said i will be really sad if that happens to my daughter if she is going to be an unwed mother.  But seriously, 'next time', god knows how long that will be later.  god knows how the world would have changed to.   i may not even have a daughter!

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

haha you suggested differently before. i'm just too lazy to go find lor!

im sure i never suggested ONS! 

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

oh i so agree. but i'm not talking about married couples, after the flame died, then just happily divorce.

i'm talking about forcing a marraige because of an unplanned pregnancy, especially if it is from a one night stand or something.

Of course i agree that no one should be forced into a marriage.  Of course one should only marry if he/she is willing to love and honor the other party.  Thus one should really abstain from ONS and sex with people whom they dont love, rite?

Originally posted by dumbdumb!:

haha i don't know. i think getting married in a loveless relationship might be even worse than singlehandedly raising the kid. i said b4, anyone can be a father, but it takes a really special someone to be a dad.

like my friends.. the mum's a single mum, and the husband is from marraige. the child isn't his, but he loves the kid like his very own. takes the family to zoo thousands of time, dance with the kid in church during worship, takes them out for meals, does homework with the kid... and cheering when the kid could count to 10 on her own.

he may not be the father, but he's definitely the dad.

i think it might be better that way sometimes, than to force a marraige then the father don't fulfil his duty of love to the kid.

anyway i agree with you. the family structure is very important for a healthy society.

Marriage is not just about love, it is about responsibility and commitment too.  Yes, i do agree that it is pretty meaningless to stay in a loveless marriage, but before one calls it quit, he has to consider all factors including the children's and spouse's welfare and feelings.

Our feeling is not the only thing important in this world.  We need to be mindful of the welfare and feelings of our love ones too.

We digressed.

Originally posted by Zarks:

can pm or not ? sien la

dont read then.