It is good that your gf is able to realise it in a quick way that it is wrong to be envious. So why need to go around the bush? Because there are times when events and things that happen, it is very subtle and not so obvious. So we may need to go beating round every bush just to find the root cause .  I would prefer to call this method of beating round the bush, contemplation.  

Like wat Zarks had said, if u have the money then buy, if u wanna save, then save. But here, it will depend on if the item really brings one happiness or the money saved will come to of great use one day. It is difficult to see the ultimate reality in things and we as sentient beings are quite short-sighted. We can't even tell if buying the bad is good or saving is good.

The most ironic part is that everyone of us seek happiness, but we keep doing things, acheiving goals that are pretty mundane and the happiness is really temporal.  We are beating around the bush everyday as we are only able to see immediate happiness. True happiness comes from a peaceful mind and a mind that is at ease.

Originally posted by 9V-SKA:

No problems..more pics to come..

Bet you do not have the photos of the trains when they were in Valenciennes during testing.

Originally posted by Forrest_Gump:

Does anyone know any real arahants/bodhisattvas in this world?

How does one know a person is a real arahant/bodhisattva?

Well, it depends on what's your motivation in knowing one. Anyway, technically it is difficult for laypersons to know, even practictioners may also find it difficult in identifying one.

However, the easiest way in identifying a Arhat or Bodhisattva is through long time observations or practising under a good Guru.

The most misleading way is of cos, by word of mouth.

Originally posted by FireIce:

my observation was
NEL one kiap liao wun bounce open leh
how come leh?

Hmmm, by right it will bounce back. If it is like an arm or umbrella, it will bounce back. All 24 doors will need to be fully close and locked so a signal will be sent and the train will be cleared to move. Otherwise, the train is still locked in the station.

Originally posted by FireIce:

NEL one no have this intelligence leh
i always see ppl tio kiap
and the door dun bounce back open


tts why i want to do the experiment

Correct, its means the safety mechanism is working properly. When the train door bounce back, it is actually trying to clear obstructions.

Well, why so many pple tio kiap is because on SMRT trains, the train driver through the monitors in his driver cabin sees the whole platform. When he sees it the platform is clear, he will close doors. In NEL, it is all computerised from the trains to the lights and aircon... something like Resident Evil except there is no Red Queen and the system can't see the platform. Once time's up, close doors.

Originally posted by FireIce:

just nice i m planning this experiment on the mrt doors
whether will open if kiap something, on both types of mrt.
whether kiap liao the train will move or not
wat kind of intelligent technology are they using

one to test on NEL
from outside coming in, and inside going out
one on the NS line.... one underground, one above ground
repeat same thing

objects used to test will be an umbrella and my right arm


if u happen to see someone trying to do the above, pls do not be alarmed.
and pls dun stomp oso ok
me low profile one

On the SMRT trains, the trains are operated by train drivers whose duties are to open and close train doors. If the train doors had obstuctions such as ur arm or umbrella, it will not give a "CLEAR" signal and the train cannot move. Same thing for NEL trains, although fully automated without drivers, if it sense obstructions on the train doors, the train will also not move. So its quite safe and will not be a "Final Destination" kinda thing happen.

We are already stuck on an island liao mah. But this island got kopi tiam, kfc, mac, etc...

Originally posted by moletan2003:

Hi, finally i have broken up with my GF but, i still cant forget her even though i intiated the breakup. I have been struggling with myself for 2 months. Trying to study but find myself thinking of the past. Try calling her as friend but she is giving me the cold shoulder. I just want to be friends but she is not willing to. I need help I have been having insomia for 2 months and have been on pills but i cannot seem to get over it.  

Hi TS, just share something with you.

Firstly it is very normal for you to feel sad and a sense of lost since she's someone close to you. 2 months is a short time and you will probably take some more time to get over her. In order not to think of her, you must have some new direction in life like finding another new girl. Although this sounds like a "jerk", but hey, you wanted to breakup and you had done so. So, you should move on.

Also, since you had initiated the breakup, no doubt she will feel much much worse than you. You shouldn't even be calling her. Everytime she sees your sms or hear your voice, she will feel sad. It is difficult but do spare a thought for her.

But if you really wanna be back with her, just tell her you wanna get back with her and see if you get a chance. Being a friend with her at this stage is extremely difficult and hurting for the both of you.

Originally posted by SunZiBingFa:

Wah lao. My Advice: When you 1st step into a relationship, you need to be a PAP. A government of the Relationship (Ministry of Relationship). Enforced the Dos and Don't of the relationship. If u stated these conditions, you will not spend soo much. Do some pampering if necessary if your partner is doing well. Set up Reward and Punishment system if possible. HEHE.. Going Dutch is the ideal solution for those looking for LONG TERM relationship!

Totally agree. But the guy must always remember to pamper the gal. Eh... so far the most severe punishment I had for her is tickle until her tears come out... haaa!! 

Originally posted by eagle:

simple la. She's almost yours, just that she don't want to rush into it.

Respect her, continue with what you are doing with her, and ask again in one month.

And... don't ask via sms. Do it face to face.

Agree. Be more sincere and ask her face to face. Although you maybe nervous but it is also fun. Ask her out over a nice dinner, a stroll at esplanade or something similar. Whether its fast or slow, its dependent on you and her. Hehehe, my fastest was approx 6 hours since 1st meeting up. lol

Originally posted by oldkid:

I think i can roughly understand why you need examples but anyway, I can give you a few. It depends greatly on the type of girl you are dating.

Type A:

Eat anything also can, from hawker to fast food to food court (2 meals, drinks not inculded, approx $7). Plus watch movie($9.50 per ticket so $19 for 2) then la kopi at Starbucks/Coffee Bean(2 drinks plus 1 cake, approx $15). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $41. Sunday not inclusive.

 

Type B:

Bane of wallet. Eat cheap restaurant (Olio Dome/NYDC/Breeks, approx $55) only. Nite spot hangout such as pub/disco/wine place (assuming she can't drink much, approx $60). Send her home on taxi (plus going home yourself approx > $25). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $140. Sunday not inclusive.

 

Type C:

Destroyer of wallet. Eat restaurant (other types of more ex restaurants, approx $80+++) only. Nite spot hangout such as pub/disco/wine place (assuming she drinks alot, approx $100++). Send her home on taxi (plus going home yourself approx > $25). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $205+++. Sunday not inclusive.

 

Type D

Cook own food at each other's place (ingredent's cost approx $20), watch DVDs (depends if rent or download.), send her home (depends if last bus for ur own return trip is available, if not then approx $15). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $35+. Sunday not inclusive.

Type E

She pays for everything.

Type F

She pays half.

 

Do note the above figures are variable and subjected to changes without prior notice. Meaning it can be cheaper one. All figures are approximated with buffer. 

So you see, it really depends on what kind of girl you are dating and wat you 2 are doing. I had tried out the above so I can tell you, but in the 1st place, no one told me such things. So IMHO, you should try it out. At least next time when someone ask u for advice, you can share share. Anyway since you young, it is always good to experience it. But make sure it is not a huge burden for you like Type B and C and dun make a type E out of her. All the best and good luck.

Originally posted by happyharvest:

can give me some examples?

I think i can roughly understand why you need examples but anyway, I can give you a few. It depends greatly on the type of girl you are dating.

Type A:

Eat anything also can, from hawker to fast food to food court (2 meals, drinks not inculded, approx $7). Plus watch movie($9.50 per ticket so $19 for 2) then la kopi at Starbucks/Coffee Bean(2 drinks plus 1 cake, approx $15). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $41. Sunday not inclusive.

Type B:

Bane of wallet. Eat cheap restaurant (Olio Dome/NYDC/Breeks, approx $55) only. Nite spot hangout such as pub/disco/wine place (assuming she can't drink much, approx $60). Send her home on taxi (plus going home yourself approx > $25). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $140. Sunday not inclusive.

Type C:

Destroyer of wallet. Eat restaurant (other types of more ex restaurants, approx $80+++) only. Nite spot hangout such as pub/disco/wine place (assuming she drinks alot, approx $100++). Send her home on taxi (plus going home yourself approx > $25). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $205+++. Sunday not inclusive.

Type D

Cook own food at each other's place (ingredent's cost approx $20), watch DVDs (depends if rent or download.), send her home (depends if last bus for ur own return trip is available, if not then approx $15). For a typical date like this on a single weekend will cost around $35+. Sunday not inclusive.

Type E

She pays for everything.

Type F

She pays half.

So you see, it really depends on what kind of girl you are dating and wat you 2 are doing. I had tried out the above so I can tell you, but in the 1st place, no one told me such things. So IMHO, you should try it out. At least next time when someone ask u for advice, you can share share. Anyway since you young, it is always good to experience it. But make sure it is not a huge burden for you like Type B and C and dun make a type E out of her. All the best and good luck.

Yup, still looking good.

Originally posted by rAspbErryytEa:

hell i'm gonna confess to her but must also wait for the right time ^^ i was thinking by tonight luhh .Just waiting now for the chance to see her ^^

Procrastination is like masterbation. At first it feels good, then you will realise you're just screwing yourself.

The so-called "right time" is anytime as it can be created by you. The best thing to do now IMHO is just to sms her or call her. A sms with caring words can means so much to her, do you know?

It doesn't matter whether you are sissy/pussy/gay. The impt thing is how much do you feel for her, what can you provide for her and of cos how much she likes you. Sometimes women ask for very simple things, such as a shoulder to lean on, a loving heart and strong arms for support.

And yes, be a man, do the right thing.

My personal point of view is, for me I will not wish go to Pure Land. Although it is very very blissful there, it is difficult to practise there. It is like a controlled environment where everyone, everything is totally good. Saha world is still the best place to cultivate where it has the right balance of sufferings and enjoyment. Good place to practise Bodhicitta.

TS, I recognise  your Avatar!! Its White Face Justice Bao. Hahaha

Originally posted by sebosebo:

i think what makes humans the dominant species in this planet is our ability to adapt. i believe if a modern man were to be transported back into ancient times, he would be totally screwed, but i am also confident that he will slowly adapt to his environment (provided if he doesnt get flattened by a giant mammoth).

Likewise, if someone from those times were to be transported to today, he would have great difficulty surviving too. But would definately be able to adapt in no time.

I'm not sure if I can adapt to an environment with no kopi tiam.... Imagine... no milo peng or chai png and have to hunt. Sibei sian.

If I were to be transpotted back to 10000BC and unable to hunt nevermind, as long as got kopi tiam for me to tabao can already.

Originally posted by crimson soldier:

EH TS, it is true that you should give more infomation because you are asking for help AND you need balls as fatum said because that's the only way to know whether a girl likes you.

 

Why do I say so?

If a guy gives a flower, makes present or be cheeky when talking to the girl, the chances are 90% that he likes the girl.

 

But a girl can go with you 10 solo dates, talk with you on the phone, tell you personal stuff but as long as the words " I like you" do not come out from her mouth, the chances of her liking you even after she does those things could be ranging from 0-90%.

 

So yeah fatum is right. You needs balls to ask, but do it in an appropriate way.

 

 

 Very correct Crimson, very correct. Since TS u r a guy, take the initiative first.

你那么爱他 
为什么不把他留下 
为什么不说心里话 
你深爱他 
这是每个人都知道啊 

Well TS, would like to share with you some of my experiences.

Once upon a time, I had a gf who was also like this. We were chatting on the phone and then halfway, she just went quiet and started weeping. From softly sniffing to wailing out. I do know it is also pretty much heartbreaking for you to hear your love ones cry. So what I did was I tried to find out what her problem/reason was. If it is her side of the problem, I will try to find out if there is anyway I can help her out. Usually there are ways in helping, small or big and she'll know and appreciate.

But if you are the problem/reason or somehow involved, it will be tricky here. Try to know why she's feeling this way. To resolve the situation, it is better to talk things over face to face. It is difficult to show love, trust and sincerity over the line.

Have a good talk with her and be patient with her. She'll need your support. :)

I'm currently doing  meditation also but I had never heard of third eye meditation. Does sound risky. If your mind is really that still, you will not be affected by watever thing you see or heard. If you are firm that you are firm, still try to request more instruction from your Guru before trying it out.

Originally posted by Ser~pent:

Did i say that i was worried of seeing "them"? You also dont worry hor! You dont know everything is impermanent! Btw i am Atheist buddhist

The power of clonings

I'm very worried cos I'm myself is very afraid of ghost!! Especially things that go bumped in the night... Guess I watch too much Thai horror movie.

And good thing I can't see them! Phew!!!

Originally posted by Spnw07:

I agree that merit alone is not enough to make one a Bodhisattva. I also agree that the Bodhisattva will go where he is most needed and is guided by his wisdom and compassion. I also agree with the practicality and benefit of your advice in enemy/loved ones/neutral visualisation.

However, my main concern is, if you really can attain the balance in maintaining the thought to even offer help towards your enemy, I don't see any problem with offering head, eyes, brains and marrow to save him now or in the future. After all, if one day you are willing to die to save your enemy, what is stopping you from giving your eyes by plucking them out raw from your sockets?

For me, the best I can do now is not to help my enemy, it's more of preventing myself from wanting to take revenge when I have the ability or power to. That's when the real test comes. When you have no power or ability that can overwhelm your enemy totally, naturally you would say "that's okay, I shall practise trying to forgive, or to visualise helping him one day".

And the word 'enemy' means different things to us. People scold you, you can also think of them as enemy. People ignore you, you can too think that they are your enemy. But that's for trivial matters. How about more serious ones? People rape you, torture your loved ones in front of you, massacre your entire clan or village, then you say you can forgive, and eventually or almost immediately be willing to forgive and even sacrifice when necessary to help him, then I truly agree that you have already achieved the basic standards of being a Bodhisattva.

Well said! Agree. But take one step at a time. From zero to hero is not an overnight thing that will happen magically. Even if it seems to happen overnight, it is through immense training of not only this lifetime but many lifetime of practises. The conditions were just right for Bodhicitta sprout. And also do note that an enemy do not appear out of no where just to rape, torture or kill the entire family/village for no good reasons. The receipient of such evil karma had reap such fruits because of such seeds were planted.

Originally posted by Ser~pent:

I have an image of Ksitigarbha Bodhisattva in my room

So far so good no ghost yet

I also have one in my house. Don't worry, you won't be able to see them even if they are in front of you now. Anyway, they are just different form of sentient beings in a different realm of existence.