As the title reads. My Live Messenger has always been set to "Remember Me" and "Remember My Password" so I rule out the possibility of typos in my user ID/password.

I'm worried 'cos I've emails sent to/from my former boyfriend. These are pretty confidential. And I suspect that the person who logged into my account is one of his ex-gfs. Hence... Ya.

I've reported the problem to Ms Live Account about 10mins ago. I don't reckon they will get back to me anytime soon(ok I just received a reply from them).

Anyone can help me? :(

Originally posted by jackdaniels:

TS what do you mean by he gave up sex for you? And now you would like him to give up on smoking? What's next, give up on alcohol? *gasps*

This is horrifying...

No.. As in he doesn't force me to have sex though I know he wants it. I'm alright with alcohol..

You people are making me feel like I'm so selfish to make him quit smoking! It's for his own health anyway..

Originally posted by vivasg:

rathcycle
well said. I think the TS cannot accept the fact tat y i put at my previous post
Human have a tendency to lie to themselves especially for those always find ways to escape from reality.

Hi Redhairband
all ur reply had shown the true answer.
i think i do not need to reply that answer.

But i really wonder, if you mind a guy smoking y u want to be with him?
after you choose to be with him, y try to ask him quit?

Well, he had given up many other things for me. Just to name one, he gave up sex for me. May be he feel that as long as he doesn't smoke in front of me, it won't be harmful for me hence he feel justified to smoke?

To your question, I guess I have to admit that I'm selfish?

Originally posted by BadzMaro:

Maybe if his mum or dad suddenly dies of lung cancer because of smoke or second smoke then he will change. So for everyone it may be a different case and a different reason. Just be there n slowly guide him. Just dont force the issue too much lo. If he u marry him , make sure he buy health n life insurance. U be claiming the moolah sooner then u think.

Choy! Touch wood!

I don't want that to happen, so I'm doing all I can to prevent it. Guess I will have to try out the pretend to smoke idea.

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

That picture is extreme make up.

Yea, far too unrealistic. Don't see anyone with that mouth walking around.

Originally posted by BadzMaro:

When a guy wants a girl , he will do whatever it is to please her e.g stop smoking. N most of them time after they got the girl.. they smoke again due to stress la..etc etc n tries to bring in an understanding of why he smokes. hell i did it.. when i wanted to chase my this ex.

That's roughly what he said and did. During the courting stage, he did tried to quit but after we got together, he started smoking again when we quarrelled and the school stress started coming in.

So does that mean that he wasn't being sincere?

Originally posted by rathcycle:

i am not mean
but im just saying
he dun quit = he dun love u
cuz he even sacrifice such a small thing for you
he should go die...
i have seen tons of like that cases...
guys who really love the girl, will quit no matter wad...
once.. there was this ah beng lah..
who made a decent girl like him... and this ah beng also like her..
then this ah beng, siao 1.. 1 day can 2-3 packs....
the girl told him.. if u really love me, you quit.
guess what, they quarrelled, but few days later, the ah beng apologize and then say i will quit for you.
the ah beng suffered withdrawal symptoms and keep on vomitting and have no appetite... but he persevere cuz of the girl
therefore, i think if a guy cant even fcking quit cigs for a girl... that guy just dun love that girl...

I hope this will just be a passing phase. May be things will brighten up soon.

Originally posted by ispyyy:

I have met lots of girls around yr age and they said that their willpowr is strong and so they wont smoke... But in the end, they still smoke ><

I'm encouraging him to stop smoking, how will I end up smoking myself? I don't want to have that rotten mouth of the woman in the ad.

Originally posted by rathcycle:

he don't love you. period.

Why are you so mean to me?

He had proven that he loves me through his actions. Of course, there are things which he had done that didn't make me happy. But overall, I know he loves me.

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

For acting purpose Practice sucking air into your mouth without it going into your lungs.

How to suck without getting the smoke into the lungs? Uhmm. Can practise it using straw and some water?

Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:

If your friend is already addicted, it is better to accept him for his smoking then to fight with him constantly.

In other words, it is more important to be friends than to ensure that he quits.

I guess you're right. No point straining the relationship for that. But I still hope that he will quit nevertheless.

Originally posted by rathcycle:

you pretty sure...
but u got insurance telling u meh ?
100% meh ?? if they guy really love you, he would even die for u... not to even mention about quit smoking...

he dun quit = he don't love you = dump him = find a non-smoker as bf.
and if he influence you to smoke, that means he is not a responsible and good person.
i bet he must be real dumb not to know how to treasure you....
leave him, you deserve someone better.

he's willing to do many things for me. erm, just not quitting smoking.

Originally posted by coffeeortea:

ok this is serious though the rest of my posts were crap so u can ignore.

try reverse psychology, like one day u ask him. "Hey Bf, let's share a pack how about that i'll pay for it."

my friend's dad did pretty much the same to him and i swear he quit smoking.

He sometimes got the lobang to buy contrabrand ciggs.

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

yea~the potential director to-be

How issit does it works?

Haven't got the chance to try this yet. But I never smoke before. Do I just suck from the cigg or what?

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

Eh, weren't you the one who asked me to pretend to smoke in front of my boy?

Originally posted by coffeeortea:

i know u wont get addicted, i mean she might like smoking because she thinks its cool or something.. i dunno man.

Nah. I won't. My willpower is strong.

Originally posted by de_middle:

a big NO

In case I wasn't clear, I meant that even if he smokes, it doesn't mean he doesn't love me. Right?

Originally posted by vivasg:

I agree too.
The fact is u love him more than he love u.
otherwise he would had quit.

Sometimes, human always try to lie to themselves

No.. I'm pretty sure he loves me more than I love him. He's just a tad stubborn in this area.

Originally posted by de_middle:

i'm also thinking of quitting........and i'm gonna do it becoz of my other half

wish me luck in quitting

Good luck!

Mind sharing what made up your mind finally? Did your girl do sth that make u decide to quit?

Originally posted by rathcycle:

if he loves u more than u love him, he would quit for u...
if he dont, it just proves it.

But is smoking really representative of his love for me?

Originally posted by rathcycle:

let him fuc[b]king die if he just cant think
how old liao... if cannot think for ownself then don't he don't deserve any care or concern... let him die...
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Why are you so worked up about this? Well, we all have faults. Perhaps smoking is just one of his 'faults'.

[quote]Originally posted by rathcycle:


and go find another better guy.

eh.. I think he loves me more than I love him.

Originally posted by Bontakun:

I supposed that incident is a point you may have to confront him about. I do not know... If he still want to smoke, then respect his decision bah. For now just try to list down what you can do within your scope of influence.

I did confront him regarding that incident. He said that it was the reason why he had started smoking but now, he smokes because he enjoys doing so and it's somewhat an addiction already.

Ya, may be I should just try to respect his decision. I tried respecting that before and kept quiet about this habit of his for a few weeks. But after that I couldn't take it and started nagging again.

Originally posted by DC+:

Tell him you dont like kissing an ashtray

We had set the rules, if he smokes and has the smell, we won't kiss. But ah, he always manage to get the smell off and I couldn't detect a thing. -.-||

Originally posted by mancha:

First and foremost ask him if he wants to stop.

Then ask him if he is willing to let you help him.

If both the above are in the affirmative.
Only then proceed.

He doesn't want to quit, and he wants me to stop "forcing" him to quit. Seeing a hole ahead of him, I can't possibly let him fall in, can I? He said that he appreciates my concern but he just doesn't want to quit yet.

I tried stealing his ciggs whenever I could, but always got caught.

Originally posted by ispyyy:

Example :
If scientific research proven that cars and bus cause great health hazard. If u have been introduced to cars and bus as a transport, will u do away with it ? If u have not been introduced to cars and bus as a transport, will u continue to walk? Try to get point A to point B without motorised transport ><

HUH??

Originally posted by ispyyy:

Well... if u r able to make him stop once, means tat he is a determined person, he can control himself and that is not a worry at all... But sadly, most smokers cant control themself...

Dont feel it as a failure that u r unable to help yr bf to quit smoking... It is normal... Respect his area of interest... And hopefully, he will respect yrs by not influrencing u to smoke or causing any health hazard to u

If all things fail, I guess I just have to learn to respect his choice and live with it. But I still want to help him now!