What is the reason for ur parent not getting their flat?

Originally posted by Hello Kitty:

2 couples so got 2 men rite?

nwadays, men all ah guas izit.

go get one of dem to sit alone lah.

they scared others wil tackle dem izit.

u all go there are to offer ur blessins one.

nt to go there yaya papaya n make trouble one.

Men are ok, but women are not

Men scare trouble, women will not scare

we are on talking terms with host mah, so we went..but how were we know that the rest of the ppl are like tat..make us look like a clown..u know..i had to sit sideways, back facing the bit-chy family.

i so sad, all thinks is my fault, i dun wanna go home..lonely xmas for me...
mayb i will work till i die in office today ..

i m so sad now cos everybody thinks is my fault..what should i do ?
feel like dying..so frustrated .. help ..i need to work tomorrow..i cant concentrate now..

not close relatives, only see them when there is funerals, weddings etc . . wonder when is the next time i will see them..do u folks think i m too much ?
parents & spouse think i m..cos i walk off, make them maloo

they are relatives, cousin + uncle/auntie..told them to shift, but the pretend nvr hear..then we get the host..and they shift reluctantly bcos i show black face. i tell them "ya, i m fine to be separated with my hb"
and i walk off..only came back when the wedding starts..but sit sideway and back face them..idoits !

is over..thanks !

i think all these problem came to one conclusion => MONEY !!

Scenario 1 : Stay for the sake of MONEY !!
Ya, difficult to find job outside now..

Scenario 2 : Work Harder for the sake of MONEY / FREEDOM !!
Cannot sent to folks to home lah, one mth is ard $1400++ for one bed in old folks home !!

btw, scenario 1 & 2 happen in 2 different pple, not same person lah !

Scenario 1: Let's say in work u don't have frens ..u feel the office is so 'cold' but you stay on because of HIGH pay (20% more that what you get outside) ..bcos u got house, non working parents, car to support. What will you do? Will you do stay on such miserable work life ?

Scenario 2 : Let's say you are living with your in law not by your wish, you got no choice bcos they have no house (they nvr save for rainy days , only live day by day, happy go lucky) and you feel so 'cold' in the house with them.

For first choice, still can hop lower pay job..but for this case What will you do ? divorce? Don't ask me to move bcos we got not $$ already.

Originally posted by TXian:

Like I said, we do not know the whole story. So don't be so quick to shoot others down.

I totally agree that children should not be treated as a form of investment. it is very sad that some parents have such thinking. Parent to child love is the most basic humanity, and it is lost here.

Hi TXian

Yes, that's my point. Parents shd not treat their children as a form of investment. I find that the more they hope, the more disappointed they are.

Not that the children not unwilling to support them but just not comfortable in staying with them cos he got his own lifestyle with spouse & in laws etc.

You know when his frens or spouse side relative come, he has to pre-inform them so as to make them feel at ease/comfort but then the parent will go hiding. Which makes him feel guilty and awkward/dilema between inviting & not inviting

Originally posted by Isis:

I think..both sons should share the financial burden of taking their parents. Even though the parents are not staying with him, he should at least fork out some money for the parents monthly.

By right, parents take care of you since you are a vulnerable baby t an adult who can support himself, they should deserve to be taken care of.

Anyway Old people also can work mah.

Hi Isis

they are not working, stay @ home watch TV, nothing else..
oh yeah, they sometime too lazy to eat, will skip lunch..
so i doubt they can take care of grandchildren too..

Originally posted by TXian:

Parents asking for support is one thing. Parents insisting on staying together is another.

Support can come in many forms. We don't have to live together to give support. It's only right to support them financially and be there for them when they need you. But I am not for staying with in laws. Support them, fine.

hi TXian

ya, parent HAVE to stay together, not insisting, but no choice. Cos they got no house.
I find this pitiful What do you think ?

Originally posted by Kachui:

My parents have no savings. They did not have high education but worked their ass off to support my brothers and I through school. I am glad to be able to support them in return now. Not sure what you are trying to say with this thread...

i mean dun you find them pitiful that they do not have any savings, house. if both son dun want them, how?

Originally posted by cApitaland:

sounds like the situation tht might happen to me...

which situation are u referring ?

duno good or bad news, the evil dil is pregnant,hopefully pil dun brg her bb here

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wah, u so cruel !!!!
i not no sympathy , but why must these kp slow down to see,,wat is there to seee? dead bodies ??

buan tahan all these kp..cause a massive jam there!! i thot wtf happen..
curse that idoit !!!!!!

what happen at BKE this morning ? which idiotc caused the accident?did anyone died??? waste time jamming down there..wtf...

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

Nowadays the interest for normal saving a/c are dirt low.

Unless you are talking about fixed monthly saving.. The interest rate is abit highly nia.. Not enough for one kopi..

heard standard chartered has one which offer 1.5% to 2% interest..but no atm card, passbook, purely internet banking..called eSaver
http://www.standardchartered.com.sg/cb/deposit/dep_esaver_ac.html

hi misty blue..

ur mil sound worst..do u hv any children? why dun she stay w her elder children ? does she has any saving ? if yes, u can ask her buy her own flat .
how abt ur fil ? what abt ur hb? why did u allow them to stay with you in first place?

Originally posted by Cool-gal:

of cos got every kind of human in this world.
if not, there wont be poor ple oredi.
its life.

that mean in this forum there is no such person
only the couple i mention..wah, they champion !!
btw, the son who stays with them wants to downgrade and sell house due to financial stress...but dunno where to house them..so he stuck..have not yet tell them his plan..so poor thing

Originally posted by caleb_chiang:

Stressful also must support. Who supported you while you are young and not working at all?

i already say is no ME..hahaaa
i still haben got an answer

i just want to know whether got this kind of people exist..they have totally no savings at all..pin all hopes on the sons..i mean they are taking a very HIGH RISK