The ugliest will be the heart

But this part can oso be the most beautiful part

Originally posted by huy:

it been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...

he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..

recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..

he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..

seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..

i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside..

Girl u should follow wat ur heart tells u...
Do not assume that he doesn't like u...
Have u told him ur feeling yet??
Be brave & look forward
Chances like that don't come knocking @ ur door everyday
Treasure wat u have don't let this chance silp away

Originally posted by despondent:

lostlostlost...

if during bad times she choose to leave u, it shows she lack the understanding of ur situation n she chooses to focus on her own needs instead of on urs...is tat true love??? IMO, she is loving love...instead of being wif u when u need her most at tis time, she choose to leave u...sigh...tis type of r/s cun last lah...forget abt it...

i noe but i believe she is hiding something else

Just be true to her

keep it low first
slowly the r/s will be found out by others

Originally posted by tankh80:

I find my true love liao she is my true love

U go man
Show her that u really love her

Originally posted by royale9:
My condolence.

Most unfortunate to have all these mishaps coinciding.

When u r ready, pick yourself up.
When u r ready, put the past behind u.

Focus on "what can i learn from this misfortune?" "How can i improve the situation".

If there's a solution, find it. If not, nevermind it.

Keep in mind that when the fierce, burning winds blow over our lives- and we cannot prevent them- let us, too, accept the inevitable. And then get busy and pick up the pieces.

The late William Bolitho, author of Twelve Against the Gods, put it this way:

"The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any Fool can do that. [b]The really important thing is to profit from your losses. That requires intelligence; and it makes the difference between a man of sense and a fool."

Take care

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i m trying to live the best i can
But the part abt wanting my ex back is strong

too much has happened this year

too many collegues left, hence overload in my job my, grandpa passed away, my uncle moved over to my place ( my room )

Originally posted by smudgey:

what happened?

i was too into my work..
got lesser time to call & spend with her..
even if we chat, she will talk abt her work stress & problem but i kept mine to myslf cos i didn't want to add to her stress

Originally posted by CannyOng:

Maybe u have some problem in yr r/s?

Care to share so that we can give in a more focus view...

yup something went wrong
we just broke up

Communication
Trust

And wat else??

Ever thought why ur other half left u

Read this:

Once there was this scholar who was deeply in love with his gf

As they were about to get married, she left this scholar for another guy & was about to get married

The scholar missed her so much that he soon fall very ill

The villagers were so worried, so they tried every single method to cure the
scholar of his illness.. but none of the method works

The scholar was on his last few days of his life when a monk came to this village & overheard the whole story

The monk then went over to the scholar side & showed him a mirror

The scholar stared @ the mirror & saw a dead girl @ the shore..

Next there came a man scrolling along the shore, when he notice the body all he did was gave it a short look & walked pass...

Then came the second, he saw the body shook his head & take off his shirt & cover it over the body...

Soon after the third guy came, he was in shock, but he walked forward & carried the body to somewhere to bury it

After seeing all this the scholar was wondering what's that gonna do with him?

The monk said there his gf was the body @ the shore & he was the second man who offered her his shirt to her...

Adding to his words, the monk told him that the reasonwhy the scholar was together with his gf was because that he offered his shirt, so this r/s was so that the girl could repay him back the shirt he offered in their past life

After hearing that the scholar stood back right up on his feet....THE END

So ppl out there how do u feel after reading this??

Originally posted by allentyb:

WTF?

this thread is about one year old already and TS still can't get over her?

o_O

he's the extinct type of guy

Originally posted by tankh80:

what to do guys.....

just follow your heart listen to wat your heart has to say

Originally posted by nightyoung:

twice

u found two true loves

Originally posted by de_middle:

Hey daisie, thks so much yup hopefully i don't fault again & end up hurting the one i love & in the end realise i also hurt myself

I hope, pray & wish for true love & may it happen to all who are in a R/S now

Good luck to u

Hope i get the same luck as u ...

daisie
de_middle

Maybe we should meet up & talk abt it

Originally posted by de_middle:

u really need to talk & let it out of ur chest, my problem was my head keeps playing games with me

And i never breathe a word.....in the end, i couldn't take it no more &

So please talk to each other

So how did ur case go ??

Originally posted by daisie:

I'm currently undergoing an "in-between", meaning we broke up but still maintaining contact. Giving each other time and space to clear our heads and to solve the problem.

Break-up doesn't mean no turning back, I believe. A lot of times, break-up occurs when one party cannot take it anymore and did not express his/her dissatisfaction to the partner. Perhaps a break-up can give both parties a "cooling down" period to think abt what's wrong and to work on it.

Of course, if possible, the best way is to communicate while the R/S is still intact. But humans and feelings are complex stuffs and it's really tough to handle. Besides, we can learn alot from breaking-up too. For example, lostlostlost, now u know what's the problem and having learnt from it, you will better understand the need to communicate your frustrations to your partner instead of bottling them up and thereby avoid pushing the R/S to its death.

How long is the cooldown period??
Cos its killing me
i miss her so darn much

Originally posted by de_middle:

naturally, being in a R/S means understanding each other. To understand, u need communication.
I always hide my frustrations & problems, the end result = break up

Learn to tell ur other half ur problems, if he/she has true love....things will work out.

I hope not to repeat my mistakes & hope everyone who's in a R/S won't

Same here I always hide my frustrations & problems, the end result = break up


Do i get a chance if i work out this problem out??

so solving the problem will increase the chance of saving the R/S??

U have to break the ice

If not u will have to regert not trying

so anymore ppl would like to share ur views??

the more the better

topic

Originally posted by darkhour:

u mean u wanna know whether ppl who r reali in love can break up n get back tgt anot isit?

yup