Originally posted by Rednano:

go to www.ns.sg , the pre-enlistee section... got so many info... even got automatic enquiry... just input ur NRIC and date of birth...

Hihi,

I don't have a SingPass thingy. They said I have to wait dunno how many working days for it. Is that how it works?

Originally posted by Rednano:

go to www.ns.sg , the pre-enlistee section... got so many info... even got automatic enquiry... just input ur NRIC and date of birth...

is there any way that i can request that i go for medical check up + enlist with my friends same time?

Originally posted by MaNyZeR:

dont worry... most probably means you would be going in batch 2 lor... that is probably about 2-3 months after the 1st batch (which ya frens are probably going to).... you guys will still be in Tekong after all... just that when you go in.... they would be pop-ing... thats all...

which i don't understand why this thing would happen -_-

We're all from the same school and year why different batch -_-

hi guys, thanks for the replies.

But my friends say they have to register by end of oct and its alrdy mid oct le. and i did recieve one letter in Year 2 and i defer.. and i called the hotline they said i defer to october which i dun understand what it means.

means october my defer ends? or my defer started? may i know how long is a deferment period?

i'm kinda worried cos of this...

sorry if i sound like i'm thinking too much but i usually tend to do that..

Hihi,

I'm a year 3 poly student finishing my poly course next year. My friends they all recieve the NS letter to register for the medical checkup and one of my pals choose 12 dec. However I didn't recieve the letter at all and I'm very puzzled by it. Does it mean that I'll enter NS in a later batch?

I tried calling the hotline but they say don't worry they send in batch. So long liao yet I've not recieve the letter.

Any advice from people that been through this please?

Originally posted by parn:

First of all, what kind of support do you need from your friends?

They won't give you the support you need just because you demanded/expected them to provide you with what you want.

Friends doesn't lived for you and certainly doesn't need to breath you to stay alive. And I hope you would also do the same too. Being overly dependent on your friends will only make you the burden in the friendship both of you shared.

It's true that an ideal friend is supposed to be always there for you through the highs and lows, ups and downs. But some people are just not brought up with that values in them. Not everybody can be a good partner in relationship, Not everybody can be a good parent to their own child/children, Not everybody can be successful, Not everybody can sing well, and Not everybody can be an ideal friend.

Since you have expectations for your good friend, then you should also behave on par and at the same level by fulfilling his expectations of you too.

Friends are more attracted and likely to befriend you if you're independent and confident of being yourself, that included girls too.

Supporting you doesn't means babysitting you, and the change that you need should come from within yourself. You know that there's nothing your friend can do to help you to change. You need to seek your other friend within your soul.

Individuality is the best value that you can offer to all your friends in the relationship called friendship, and you should be comfortable with who you are and about what you think. Cos if even you also don't have any confidence in yourself, people around you will always have even lesser confidence in you than yourself. Cos Nobody else will have more confidence in you other than yourself.

Believe in yourself first before you expect your friends to place their confidence in you. If you can do that, you will sure meet and know some real friends in life.

erm well, support as in those listening ear when the going gets tough.. and help with hmwk? and maybe during games can play together.

I have to admit I didn't behave up to the expectations i have of him.. and thats why i want to change now but I hope there're still enuff time to let him see the change in me...

There're alot of points i agree with ur post but i dun really know how to reply to them.. but really thanks alot parn bro, ur words really are very full of wisdom..

Originally posted by parn:

OHHHHHH.........................I read wrongly.....Sorry.

Ok...let me reply your post.

haha, its okay~

Hope u can suggest some points that I can change for the better

Originally posted by parn:

 

Your friend is quite spot on I would say.

If you're not crafty, then why you create this stupid clone to come here and post?

You ashamed of your main nick is it?

 

I say you're crafty cos you chose to hide behind clones....I despise clones. And you can ask your clone buddies to advice you further.

huh, this is my main account. My email is daigooro@hotmail.com

I didn't create a clone to post this

Originally posted by youyayu:

skythewood get lost.. you are not even helping him.. don't post things that are stupid get lost



Dude.. just how old are you in the first place?

I have a friend.. who is like gaylish all the time too..

After he got a girl he like he suddenly changes.. towards us he is like more straight now won't say gay things

maybe u need a girl u really love =)

It may help.. But it doesn't cure the root problem, the problem is in me and I really wish that I can change..

Originally posted by maskedangel:

IMO, the most basic thing in order for us to help u is , we need to know ur age group and gender. .

Next, wth is he angry with u for no actual reason?

did u steal his/her  bf/gf or sumthnig??

more detail if u wanna be help

19, poly year 3, male.

He's angry with me cause of my fucked up attitude that picks arguements with him.

I didn't steal his GF, but there's one time he liked a girl and I think the girl wasn't suitable for him and he wanted to wait for a long time to change the girl's mindset. I was very against him waiting and keep on asking him to move on.. Maybe he hates me for that? For spoiling his dream..?

I really don't know. And today in the morning I called him, he says i'm a very crafty person that thinks very fast and almost always have a backup plan. So this type of friend will backstab u in the future and hence he don't really care if he have me as a friend ornot..

I really never plot anything behind his back, and I really treat him as my best friend -_- so why must he say those hurtful words sia.

Originally posted by skythewood:

when god gives you lemon, you make lemonade

when friends ask you change, _______________

fill in the blank

I'm not trying to sound rude but I really don't get what u mean sorry..

Originally posted by skythewood:

when god gives you lemon, you find a new god.

when friends ask you to change, find a new friend.

this one is very chim.

Why find new god?

Shouldn't I change for the better?

Hi all.

I didn't want to use a clone account even though I know many of my friends, and those that dislike me surf SGF, cause I'm really sincere in changing myself.

I had an arguement with my best friend. And he asked me to change, first he said I should ask myself what to change and when I ask him, he said a whole lot of hurting words that are crude and harsh.

I told him I feel offended and I'm really sincere in changing but can would you mind using a less harsh tone? He said, this is the way he is if I don't like it than we be normal friends.

I told him, "hey I'm really sincere in changing, but please don't use so crude words can?" 

I don't understand which part of my sentence sounds offensive and maybe it's due to him not feeling well today, but his way of speaking just gives me the feeling that he's venting out whatever unhappiness he has in him.

And one bad habit of mine is I like to say I love my friends alot, like I <3 xxx ah, etc etc and he says he hate that about me. He finds me ah gua-ish and being sissylike. Ok, is that something I should change too?

I don't know what to do now, my life's is in a big mess and now not having my best friend to lend his hand when I need support is something.. demoralising for me..

Can anyone advice me what to do please, or recommand some counselling centres that I can go for that is hopefully free.. I don't have alot of money to spare also.. And lastly is it very sissy to ask for help online.. I rarely see guys ask about friendship but to me I treasure friendship more than relationship cos they'll almost always last.. But this already make me start to lose faith in life and I'm really depress right now.. Just now almost want to take the razor from my cupboard but my mom saw me..

Thanks..

I managed to find one site offering custom make cakes @ 110 dollars.

any guys here have any other suggestions?

Pls help!

www.7thmanna.com/cat--customcakes--customcakes.html

Erm, I checked S.Secrets out alrdy, it's imprinting of the picture..

I was wondering if any shop in SG will MAKE the cake, and not imprint them.

Or does anyone knows where to find a domokun cake? ._.

Originally posted by Fantagf:

If I am not wrong, Sweet Secrets has this service.   

Hihi,

Do you have their number or smth? Or is it possible to google their site out?

Thanks for helping! Was about to lose hope alrdy....

hihi all,

I've a friend whose birthday's coming soon and I was wondering if there's any cake shop in Singapore that provides custom made cakes etc like I give them a picture of a particular cartoon character and they help me model a cake with respect to the character.

anyone knows of such services??

I think you're a very good friend.

I would do anything to have a friend like you during those days that I really need one.

On Topic: Maybe you can try giving him a call and asking him out for an outing? Just the 2 of you enough liao, suicidal people tends not to like big group gatherings cause they feel inferior to others and hence not liking the company.

Pay small attention to what he does, like what drinks he like, passing him the popcorn during the movie, or simply being an assister to his hero in dota ( that is if he plays ). These actions would make him feel that people do infact notice him and trust me, it's something he would greatly appreciate.

It's going to be long and maybe tiring if you want to help him to get out of such thoughts. Be prepared to help him all the way and not back out halfway. If you back out half way he would go back to his previous thoughts again but this time it would be more difficult for him to trust another people liao.

Gooooooooood luck!

Originally posted by SquarePants:

I hate gays, especially gays that is below 18 years old.

Heng i not below 18

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

Social conformity and gender scripting.

The society we live in reward behaviors that appeared to be gender-appropriate and punish, in various aspect, behaviors that does not go in sync with norm are often criticized. Eventually, much as we would like to live according to our own ideals, it's difficult to eliminate the negative response exuding from our environment that tries to shape us to what the majority is like. People love to judge accordingly to what they perceive in their own limited understand and knowledge of what they think you, him or your relationship is.

Do you agree or disagree? Because that answer will determine whether you bother about whatever entity outside yourself believes in.

Apparently, social pressure is something very real. Likely, it isn't just about the relationship; it could be such that (1) you might display unconscious effeminate behavior or (2) your emotional attachment to this guy is beyond what an average guy would normally give to another guy, thus that could possibly give rise to such a conclusion by people around you - that you two are gay couple.

Whether this is true or not, actually it matters little. Because as long as you are clear about your own sexual identity, being heterosexual (unless you have resolved an identity crisis and clarify that you are actually homosexual), that's all that you need to know.

I know this guy, who is quite effeminate in his mannerism and once thought he might not be straight, but hell, he is getting married later this year. 

Sees this as an opportunity to expand your social circle. I mean, it's good that you have a good brother/friend that you can trust and count on, but you are still young and it's essential that you learn to socialize with other people, than to cling merely onto one person for companionship. Have a healthy mix of both girls and guys in your social circle and people with similar interest or ideals.

It's not the end of friendship imho, just a transition that you have to manage.

Cheers

I do not agree.

If there comes a point of time where the roles are reverse and I hear people speaking bad things about my friend I would gladly tell them to shut it. If it still continues all I would do is show the middle finger and tell them to STFU.

My views on friendship maybe different from others, but I do know how to identify and treasure good friends; for I have lost many in the past due to the similar mistakes that I may have made.

Sad to say there are still more that Singapore has to progress as a nation in order to be truely what we believe we are.

Your post have shed much light on my recent woes and I sincerely thank you for it.

PS: SquarePants- Get a life ;)

Cheers,

BigBear

Originally posted by SingaporeMacross:

i guess if your friend is not willing to put down his pride and ego, there is little you can do. sigh, a good friend is hard to come by.

yea, i wonder how many friendship was broken cos of pride/ego

it's an unfair world we're living in, but it's the only one we got

Originally posted by SquarePants:

fuking gay. big bear ... pukes

:(

I gay wor.

:(

Originally posted by Q.C.Pak:

Any person who does not let their ego/pride to be swayed by rumors are bound to be bind in an obstacle. If he does not overcome this obstacle, he would not find happiness in life. Have a good talk with him..if he truly cherish you as a friend, he will try to change...if not...

I tried to talked to him already. I told him to reconsider our friendship, whenter or not it's worth changing/puting down his pride for it...

He said he cannot change...

So any advice on what to do next..? Cause i really ran out of ideas le

Originally posted by Daisuke-kun:

i swear that's not my clone because of the Dai

aiya.

both of u just get a little bit apart so that seems that u guys are not gay lor.

nvr lose anything.

hahahahahaha, i not ur clone lol

ya i told him we just avoid hanging out for the time being...

i'm just very sad caiuse friendship can be this weak.... not going to believe in it anymore