Dear forumers.. I have spend very good time reading all your comments.. All your advices, comments, I really appreciate it and read it through not once but countless.. I admit I am a basta### and i apologise if my situation leaves a bad taste on any of you.. One day, heaven will give me the sentence I deserve, no doubt.. I will accept it because I deserve it.. Nevertheless, I really thanks everyone of you from the bottom of my heart.. It is good to hear all your comments.. I appreciate your time to share your views..

Originally posted by lakopi:

i felt bad for ur gf...

even if u end it wif ur gf..u sure AA will accept u? probably she has already labelled u as a unfaithful jerk, currently her "toy boy"..someone to play wif not to get serious wif..

Yes, AA may not accept me to be her bf.. In fact, she has someone in mind.. Her perspective of our relationship, is what you had mentioned.. The prob lies with me that gradually, I find myself being emotionally attached to her.. Sucks.. I will not break off with my gf for her.. I cant handle it and I will never be the same me, if I do it.. The "judas act" will haunt me for life.. Morally, I will not bear to too.. I guess I have lose in the game.. Sometimes, I admire her for handling it so much better than me.. I am suppose to be the guy, to be the one to "do it and get over with".. I may be a big-time basta## in some of yours' eyes.. And I apologise for it.. I am sorry...

Originally posted by Pion:

AA is just a cheap meaningless fling.

You already have something good going, why settle for someone like her?

Yes, to say it cruely, AA is for just a fling.. Due to my "lousy" emotional, the fling is turning to one that I wish for possession of her.. Damn it me.. I am lousy in my emotion.. Maybe I am just not cut up to be a "player".. You know, AA will not feel anything if we end our "relationship".. Its so ironic that me, a guy, will feel sad if i end it with AA.. I guess she handled it very well..

Originally posted by popikachu:

http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=259363

Hope this might help in understanding who you really love now.

I just spend some time reading it.. Indeed it is enlightening.. Thank you for sharing..

Originally posted by Delphian:

Sorry if this may sound offensive, but looking at AA's behaviour, i don't reckon she could be a reliable gf material... She might be too much for you to take if you both do get attached...

And by doing this to your gf behind her back is very unfair to her you know? YOu wouldn't want her to do this behind you also right?

It's your choice, whatever you do, try not to hurt anyone, and yourself ba...

Thanks Delp.. What you had said is really true.. I should not even feel jealous or what, over her contacts with her guy friends.. They can be so imitate be it in smsing that it sort of disturb my ego.. I know I should not feel that way.. As to my gf, yes.. I have sinned big time..

Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

TS, can you feel the genuine love from AA? She have sex with you because she loves you.

Well, I don't really know her background. So there are 2 possibility. Either she really loves you, or she is a sperm toilet.

Hi darkness.. Well, I am certain AA does not love me.. The dilemna is with me.. The start of our "relationship" was agreed upon of companionship, lust, no-strings, no-commitment etc.. The fault is with my heart, for not adhering to the rules of the "relationship".. This should be call emotional weakness I guess..

Originally posted by ispyyy:

Since u r the one tat post yr problems, we should give advice tat is from yr view point...
First thing, u need to clear yr guilt... U have to understand tat there is no right and wrong in this world... U r not the only one in this world tat have such situation... It is just tat this situation are not proud to be declared by others ><
What u dont find in yr gf, u find them in AA... Tat is the reason on y u involve with her... But, is tat what u really want ??? U have to think what u really want

U need to clear yr guilt towards yr gf... Coz, end of the day, u dont be with a girl because of guilt... It will only cause u and the girl to suffer if it is because of guilt. U be with the girl because u love her. U have to think y do u love yr gf???

And lastly, think for yrself... Dont think for yr gf's feelings or AA's feelings... Make decision for yrself... Coz, ultimately the decision tat u make for yrself, benefit all parties...

Of coz, if it is TS's gf post her story here, the advice will be different too...

Thanks ivp for your advice.. I have sinned and I am guilty, without doubt.. This feelings cause me to be haywire.. I admit I wish to possess AA.. Her relationships with her guy frds do make me jealous.. I guess its the work of my ego.. I seriously needs to sort up myself..

Originally posted by 798:

comeon, u r a man. since both of u know this r/s is no string attached. time for u to jump off this running train before it crashes n fall into the ocean. stop being whiny to a gal.

if AA is a guy, alot of us here will term her as a jerk, but since she is a gal n take it as a man. it's time to let go.

furthermore, u have a gf n it's better not to let her down.

Haha.. Ya, I do get dissapointed and disgusted with my handling.. I tot a man should handle this better.. I am just emotionally weak.. I hate myself for handling it so poorly.. Thanks 798.. It does feel good to see all your comments.. Although I cant decide on the course of action to take..

Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:

Why u got emotionally attached is because SHE isn't.

Men always like women that are hard to get. Fact that you can have a sexual relationship with her treating you as nothing more than a f buddy can be in a way rather insulting to ur pride. So to make it into more than a simple f buddy rship u still thinking u want to possess her.

Imagine if its the other way round. She suddenly wants you badly and insist you break off. hehehe would u be happy?

Dont play with fire if u can't handle it.

Thanks Shrodinger.. Maybe I am indeed, too weak to play with this fire.. Seems like she has handled it way much better than me.. I appreciate ur comments, thanks..

Originally posted by 798:

i think u love ur f buddie more than ur gf.

to be fair, is the lady serious about u? if not it's time for u to wake up ur idea!

hi 798, we were nv serious in this relationship.. AA is handling so much better than me.. Ours was a lust and companionship relationship.. Its just me, being emotionally weak.. I hate it over her relationship with her guy frds.. I get jealous and I do wish she gets attach to me emotionally.. guess its ego being at work too..

Originally posted by Uncertain:

U are a bastard seriously... people like me want to have a person to share my life but yet i couldn't find.. U have a gf and yet u got involved with a girl because of lust... u must as well go and find a prostitute to satisfy ur sexual need... U better forget the stupid bitch and treat ur current gf wholeheartedly... it is nv too late to repent

I love my gf and I treat her the best that I can.. I know if I end it with my gf over her, I will nv be the same.. I will be forever guilty, like Judas.. Nevertheless, I admit I am a Basta## to get involve with AA.. The lust makes me sin..

Originally posted by darkhour:

in the first place, by engagin in a r/s with AA ur in the wrong liao. if u say ur good in nature, then ur not suited for this game. ni wan bu qi. u cannot handle the flirtatious nature of it n the 'do n get over' attitude. u shldnt get involved. u feel that u start to haf emotions for AA, coz ur too emotionally weak to differentiate. a person who is intimate with u, u will get emotional with her. sit back n think abt what u want in ur life, what u want in a relationship. ur too innocent to b a player. get out of the game n settle down.

Thanks darkhour.. I guess you really hit me on ur comments.. You really hit the dart in the spot.. I am just feeling confused and I appreciate all your comments..

I put both hands up and agree it is morally incorrect of me, to get involve with AA.. It hurts my conscious and it goes against my own standing on how a person should behave morally.. I am going haywire myself.. I hate the fact that I handled it so badly, compared to AA.. I got attach emotionally and she does not.. AA is handling our “relationship” much better than me..

Thanks rattle for your advice.. I know myself, I am good in nature.. Just the lust that got me involve in AA.. I hate the situation I got myself into.. I love my gf.. I tot all along I can handle it better than AA.. prove otherwise.. I got so jealous of her involvement with her guy friends.. In fact, how i wish she got attach emotionally to me too.. maybe I am a possessive guy.. Argh, I am lousy in handling my emotions.. Thanks rattle..

Hi.. Will appreciate forumers’ comments.. I am 25 yrs, attach with my girlfriend for 2 yrs.. Recently, i got involve with a 20yrs lady.. She is a student.. Lets call her AA.. The lust and excitement got AA and me involve in a relationship.. We meet, hv sex, chat, etc.. She is very open-minded to our “relationship”.. Both of us accepted the non-committment aspect of our “relationship”.. However, I am the one who is terribly troubled now.. I have gradually become emotionally attach to her.. I do not feel good abt her mentioning her guy frds, the dates she had, etc.. Remember, it was me who does not want emotional attachment in the very beginning, and I am the one falling into it now.. AA is handling our relatinoship much better than me.. I know I will never have the heart to break off with my gf for AA.. Yet, this “feelings of the heart” with AA is making me haywire.. Guess it is indeed true with the advice of, “never get involve with having a mistress”.. I thanks you in advance for any serious comments and advices…