Originally posted by so_what:

Hey bro...well i thk ur marriage stil can be salvaged. From wat u had written, wat i feel is tat u n ur wife may hav lost some communciation, when is the last time u n her has a heart to heart talk? You have been on biz trip at least twice a mth, so when u r back, u cherish ur time wif ur daughter, so hav u been spent some precious time wif ur wife too...dun forget women r sentimental human. Although she is a mother now but doesnt mean she dun need the caring and "romantic" moments wif u.

What i thk is tat maybe she jus wan to let u do ur husband part when u r in sg. From ur previous post, i realised ur wife is grown up in a westernised env. so therefore u need to balance u n her thinking. Ur posts sound to me tat it's either ur daughter spent time wif u or ur daughter wif ur wife..so when is the last time the three of u spent some quality family time? If u r busy to plan some outinmg lik picnic, maybe jus a meal or movie. Maybe u would think who am i suggesting ideas n giving opinion (I AM NOT MARRIED) however i hav seen countless fiends who are couples..believe me, dad always play the "angel" role n mum play the "devil" role. wat i thk ur wife may jus wan to have a fair role in ur family.

Last but not least, the advise is --- TALK TO HER !

I strongly agreed with the above writer. me not married either but i tink best is u shld at least plan an outing as wad i mentioned earlier on to bring one another together. regardless is westernise or locally, in a marriage, communicate is one that you MuST have in it.

All E best 2 U.. keep us Updat on ur progress!! We're all Behind U..

oops!! =p

Cheers,
Wugui Mei. ^_*

Originally posted by lilfoot:
[b]Today:


To commemorate National Day, a red and white theme Lingonberry & Cherry Mousse Cake![/b]

Wah!! all looks nice and Yummy!! made me feel so hungry!! hehe..

pple here are so cute and funny..

Wugui Mei.

Originally posted by Quiet Guy:

is your wife chio ?

do you guys hav kids ?

who name the flat is under ?

are you rich ?

are your wife rich ?

who support who ?

does this happen infront of friends/family ?

Hi, i strong agree with your quote if i am not wrong. wad a man wan in a gal is trust, and a ger wan in a man is secure.

Wugui Mei.

Originally posted by Xiaozzhen:

I think this thread should be kept top of the list. So that anyone in need can look at the very comprehensive list of numbers to call for help.

Good work Devil 1976!!

AGree with you!! cause everyone is always having troubles & pple don tend to take on the bright side (though is difficult).

anyway, it's GReat!! tis is a great site too.. hehe..

WuGui Mei

Originally posted by reyes:
[b]What I cannot understand is that why do you guys have split financial accounts and end up getting upset over each others lack of financial contribution. Throw everything into a common pool, that is what I do. What is the marriage for if there is such clear delineation?

Why must a wife cook? If she does not enjoy it, get a maid or eat out!

What's wrong with handling the bills? Heard of GIRO?????

You think your daughter enjoys your company more. have you considered that this is because she sees less of you due to your travelling and you always bring her to the fun activities when you are back. Which kid doesn't like it? While your wife may make the kid study when you're away so that the kid can be out with you when you are back? Was your wife on these outings too??? So how much of your kid's joy is soley due to you?

BTW, daughters look up to daddies, proven in studies. My daugther loves my wife, but when asked what she wants to be in her role playing games, she always want to be the daddy, even though I spend less time with her than my wife and I spend at least a third of each month out of town.

She spends all her pay... on herself or on herself and the family? Or does she need to support her parents as well?

If the dog is such a pain to walk, send it to SPCA, then let it spoil your husband wife relationship.

Why do you expect her to stay up and wait for you if you come home late from work???? She is working as well right??? She needs to wake up fresh and energetic everyday.

Your mum buys the breakfast because old folks sleep less and they still treat you like a kid and looks after you and your wife. As long as your wife has not been ungrateful, there is no need to wake up early just to buy breakfast, it will be nice but not necessary. If she happens to be out and buys home food/snacks, does she buy a share for your mum? If she does,.... you do not have a valid point.

Has it crossed your mind that your wife's health may have deteriorated after child birth and hence tires easily??? Tonics?????

BTW I'm a married guy, not a woman.

i respect your comments but i hope as a person you can show respect to other ppl besides your doting wife.

Sorry but we dont link credit card bills with GIRO.
i am not insisting wife must cook all days. in fact, it appreciative if she can cook once in a while for me and my mom and she knows how to do it back in her country of origin.

dog is like a family members. i can do it your way to sent your family dog to SPCA if you think he is a pain. all i am saying is, it is appreciative if once in a while she can walk it. afterall, she should feel close to care for him.

I think you value wife too highly more than your mom. in that i feel sad for your mom. try to think for your mom even though she dont say it. they enjoy once in a while when her daighter in law can take the trouble once a day in a week to wake up 8am to buy her breakfast. anyway, i do it for my mom and family when i am around.

i respect your decision to share accounts that means both of you have a common understanding. base on her spending pattern, i can do it. i had to think for my children future, my mom and retirement.

even though your policy works for you but it isnt a SOP policy that work for every family. i agree, i had works to be done, i will try my best. i am here only show little frustation and if any bros have similar experience.

Chill out![/b]

ME too agreed.. every man have their ways of dealing and 'handling' their wives not all might ve the same ways. above mentioned might not really wana 'show off' but juz kinda concern perhaps.

your wife is kinda bochap.. but anway,, that life.. you can talk it ouT! tell her how you feel and wad you expect.

there are stages. eg. courtship and marriage are difference.

Is a time to b sweet where you won't able to see their negative side but positive.

Marriage is another stage of life.. where u can see the total of the parties.

best way is to talk to your wife nicely. have a family outing once in a while. perhaps you can go marketing with your wife and cook with her too!

Be it is Marriage or Dating.. All it Need is Communication. Agree?

keep us update!!

* sorry i am very new to this but i am glad i've found this site*

[b][b]sorry i don't hw to use this.. sorry. WUGUI MEI [/b][/b]