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alright people thanks for all the inputs that u haf offered. i admit that i had put myself in a bad light in the post.it was on purpose. but there is so much more that u people dunno and i purposely posted it in a way where i did not reveal on my gf 'A''s actions which made me wat i am now,,someone devoid of feelings towards others(not everyone as in others. but more for a selfish purpose). so curse me for all u want. i will never address my gf 'A"s mistakes for i believe that watever mistakes she did i haf forgotten and forgiven.i can take it. haha. there was once where 'A' was the world to me and i never ever looked at other gals .. yes u read it right..not even a 2nd look at any model look-a-like gal on the road.but 'A' made me take notice of other gals and guys. maybe she tot it was something common that we can chat about? but it backfired. i started noticing others more and more often than not over time, i would be the one telling her about who is pretty n who is handsome. but after the first break up.. my world tore apart. i loved her even more than anything in the world(everyone knew that.. i gave up many things including a career which i wanted to take but chose a more secure future instead)and at the most bottom part of my life, she left me due to me being 'boring'. anyways ..u guys calling me playboy? its ok.. because i and the 2 gals 'E' n 'G' know that the relationship was to be tried out. i did tell the both of them that i just had a break up and i never wanted to be in a relationship with them neither did i love them. but they said 'why not just try' and since i am a guy and got nothing to lose, i took up the offer.i tried loving them but i failed. i was never happy. anyway feel free to comment more and call me names or even scold me. because u do not know the REAL COMPLETE story. yes if my gf 'A' comes in she will tell her own version of the story and she will definitely be first to admit that it took two hands to clap to where we are now. she always feels that i am taking revenge on her for all her prev actions tat she had done wrong to me. which is not. so to ppl like ZARK and whoever else haf scolded me vulgar words.. ur vulgarities do not affect me one bit. try harder yeah? coz i asked for constructive comments and not abuses. and for all those comments made without vulgarities no matter against me or in relation to my actions i thank u all. i am probably gonna leave 'A' alone and let her haf a better future with someone else whom she deserves. and i haf to stress that i am not asking for self pity or watsoever in case my posting this somehow leads u to that. i stand by my actions and i believe what i did was right in the past. i never cheated any gal. the only mistake i made was to add frenz on frenster which i deleted it away recently
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tinuviel07--> haha yeah i realised that gals are never logical. i read the book men from mars etc book and realised tat. i am just sad that i wasted 6 yrs of gf 'A's life. also sad that i cant have her for myself because in doing so she can never accept my behaviours and will never be happy. :( in a way i am glad too becoz there are many other things that i have yet to quote like her sudden interest in religion which is causing alot of difficulties between ourselves and her extreme hatred for my mum. haha. i just hope i can get to move on smoothly. it is gonna bedifficult definitely because all my frenz know her and we are always seen together. so when we are not seen together they will go like"wat? break up again? nextweek will be together again just see" etc kinda comments. but i am not going to let history repeat itself again. for the good of her n me. sad but i think i got to take this path. :( just dunno if it is the right path or will it haunt me in future? heh..sianz..
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tinuviel07 --> thanks for ur reply. i shall try not to haf the mindset that A is the one again. i shall learn to let go. but i haveto clarify that i have never been jealous of her. wat i meant was i SHOULD have been the jealous one because of her many male customers constantly in contact with her. but then i trust her and have never once questioned her. in fact i even told her not to reveal that she has a bf in order to boost up her sales. coz i believe that some idiots will not wanna buy ur products when they realise that u are attached. :( so if i can not be jealous why cant she respect me having other female frenz? haiz.. :(
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Hi everyone. i had posted a few times earlier. dunno if u guys remember me. but anyway i am back once again to seek some clarity in confronting my problems. hope i can get some feedback from the different people and their views. :)
Me and my gf have been together for like 6 yrs now. during this 6 yrs we had our ups and downs and we broke up 3 times before. each time after the break up, i got into a rebound relationship where i enjoyed the company of the new gal but never did i love them. nevertheless i did my utmost best for the gals giving most of my time. but each time whenever the one i truly love(my gf let's call her 'A") contacts me, we actually patched back because we missed each other alot. i am actually of a different race from my gf. my gf is chinese and she has been my first gf ever. The first time we broke up was because after 3 yrs of being together with her, she persistently sought a breakup as the solution to our problems. i had endured enough for the 3 yrs and just after an accident i went through, she asked for a break up yet again. this time i complied because i decided i had enough.
A month after this, i had another gf 'E' who i had lots of fun with. she brought a new meaning to my life because i was enjoying getting to know another gal. i had previously devoted my self n time to just 'A' and didnt mix with other gals at all. but i was unhappy deep down in my heart because i knew 'E' was never gonna be the gal i am going to settle down with. and finally 3 months after being with 'E' i mustered the courage to break up with 'E' and reconciled with 'A' after 'A' had gotten into contact with me. (i admit i am a soft hearted person where i can take care of a person and am prepared to live with the person and take care with her even though i do not like her. it's due to my stupid feeling of being responsible for my actions) that's why i say that i mustered the courage to break up with 'E' because 'E' was a very good and nice gal. she never angered me nor showed any signs of bad temperedness that 'A' exhibited. but still i left her n got back with 'A'
After getting back with 'A' i realised that things were never going to be the same. i tried as much as i could but i just took the relationship for granted. i never wanted to see her as much as i used to want to see her. i just enjoyed the intimacy that we had and also the fact of having someone whom i loved beside me. also during the breakup prior to this, i got into contact with many gals and realised that there is a whole wide sea out there. there are indeed so many gals who are better than 'A' and i wanted to make as many female frenz as i could. i didnt wanna be stuck in the same situation as to hafing a frenz circle with no gals in them at all again. so i kept in touch with all the gals i made frenz with. i didnt like them but just u know, keep in touch and the occasional lunch/dinner kinda thing.
My gf 'A' was extremely unhappy that i wasn't giving my all in the relationship. i admitted to her that i couldnt give my all after what had happened and that i will try my best to spend time with her. but that wasnt enuf for her. she wanted me to stop my clubbings(with guy group..no gals inside and my gf A knows my 2 guy frenz). she says that i will be stolen by other gals. to me, i am an average person and being from the minor race, i dun fancy anyone of my race and also the chance of me getting together with ANOTHER chinese gal is extremely slim and so i told her not to be afraid. despite that 'A' was still worried and would follow me on my clubbing sessions. one day on my bday, she got so angry that a gal was dancing with me when i swear that i didn't. the gal who was dancing close to me was a fren who was dancing with ANOTHER gal. this set up another storm of fights between her n me. even my fren who wasnt drunk vouched for me that i DID NOT dance with any other gal. so after those arguments we broke up again.
after this breakup, 2 months later i got involved with another gal of the same race as me. again i felt very unhappy and this gal 'G' had a bf who she was not happy with also. so we spent much time together. i told myself that i will leave when i find someone who i really love and i hope that it had better be soon. 'G' had also told me that she liked this relationship to be open in the sense that either of us could leave anytime and we would respect the other party's decision. 4 months later, G and me broke up because i could not stand the idea of 'sharing' her with another guy because when her actual bf was ard i could not contact her. her promise of choosing either one of us was also taking a longer time than she said so i decided to end it. i felt good about it because i knew she was not who i loved.
suddenly by god's grace, the very next day, 'A' contacted me saying that she was drunk and asked if i could send her home. after like 6 months of no contact, i decided that i shall go and see the one whom i really loved. after sending her home, she confided that she loved me alot (in a sober state of course) and that she has never chosen anyone else despite our breaking up for so long. (she is a very pretty gal being sought after by many many guys) so we got back together. things were fine at first. she really had changed for the better by so much! she was very mild tempered. she was very into her new found religion. but she never trusted me. she was always suspecting that i was chatting up other gals etc. yes it's true that i do chat on the irc and msn. i haf tons of contacts whom i do not know and am just a virtual fren with to them. so whenever ppl have problems i tend to lend a listening ear to them.
there was this once where this gal was having prob and i told her that not to worry so much. even me haf a gf but i am not happy in the relationship. there are many ppl out there who are much better than her ex-bf etc etc. and my gf stumbled about thissaved msn chatlog. we argued abt it and i told her that i was only coaxing the gal. why didnt she read all those other msn msgs where i so happily told to all my frenz that i patched back with my gf n i really love her alot etc etc. from then on after seeing that msg she has never trusted me.
she will always read my frenster msgs and get angry whenever i add any gal. when she asks me why i did tat, i just tell her that i do not know the gal at all. which is true. i just add becoz she added me. is this wrong?.even the status of being 'single' in frenster got her angry. but i put as 'single' becoz we always break up n reconcile. whenever i change everyone in my list knows what happens and my lifestory become public. i hate that and so i decided to leave it as 'single' forever. this one also is wrong in her eyes.!!! anyway after having so much problems with frenster i deleted it away for her. the latest problem was today when i tried to get a client for my brother.(this client is my fren whom my gf 'A' and me and her together with another 5 frenz went ktv singing togther on friday) in doing so, she read a conversation sms i had with another female fren. in it i playfully told my female fren liek this "ya lor.. i msg her coz she wan buy thing from my brother wat. u wanna buy thing from my bro meh? thats y no msg u but msg her instead. no la.actaully i love her i just realised today. thats why i msg her. haha" i and my fren always tok like this.. but my gf upon seeing this sms she got angry. and she started showing me face and wanted to break up again. i started to coax her and i could see that she was really very tired of being in this relationship. i tried explaining myself that if i did have anything to hide i will not even be keeping that msg in my hp. in fact i should be the one doubting her because she is the one who is in sales and always haf customers sending her lovey dovey gdnite msgs. but i have never doubted her nor always check her hp. but she always do this to me.
now i am in a predicament. i dun wanna continue arguing all the time. but i also do not wanna break up. and i am always the playful type who will joke and tok alot to gals infront of my gf. i feel that toking in front of her means that i got nothing to hide. even so, those gals all know that my gf is there with me. and i am really tired of always not earning my gf's trust. she never trusts me and it seems that checking on my email,frenster,hp is becoming a daily affair. so can someone pls tell me what i should do? and she always thinks that i haf alot of gals going after me when in fact most of my free time is spent with her.
is leaving her the right thing to do? in that sense, she will haf a chance to learn to trust another person who might become her bf. because she never trusts me so when we get married this will certainly pose a big problem.
but if we breakup i am damn sure that i will be very unhappy. i dun even think i can learn to love another person again. i just wanna study and earn more money now. btw i am 26 and my gf is coming to 25 so pls dun think we are those small boy small gal dunno how to think and get into love etc.
i thank those for giving constructive points for my complicated relationship.
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Originally posted by ordinaryguy32:The situation's quite messy, no wonder you're irritated.
I think company for company's sake is bad.
It's not love.
Firstly, you're doing your current gf a dis-service by not giving your all.
Secondly, the fact that you don't want to give your all to your current gf is because she's in such a mess herself, triangular relationship is not the type that one can truly invest energy and effort in, and then be truly proud of.
She's clinging on to you because she may be thinking you bring relief to her present r/s with the "real" bf.
Why don't you guys call it off, because both parties are in such a mess?
It's better for everyone. Short-term hurt is better than long-term hurt.
You 2 still can be "good friends", if that brings comfort to her..
As for your ex-gf, sigh... from your text, it seemed that you cannot forgive her, but you still love her very much. I think there's no simple solution to it...
You didn't say what's her wrongdoing, but I gather she cheated on you to some degree..
Maybe she's feeling the regret and is dying to come back to you... No ex-gf will post your pictures for nothing.
Give yourself some time to heal your own wounds, and don't jump into a rebound so fast next time, pal...
wow dude u so understand wat i feel!
its EXACTLY what i feel and wanna do. of all the posts that were replied to me, i'd say that urs is the best becoz u explained what i really feel. thanks. and its true that i duwan to give my all becoz its a traingle relationship..worry abt the backfire if invest too much in it. and as for my ex gf, yup i guess she kinda cheated me and i cant forgive her for that.
and as for angel703..deem me as a playboy? fine..go ahead..i dun wanna defend myself..those gals who have been with me will know i am not one. haha.
ona sidenote u always end ur msgs with '666' ? guess what..that's my vehicle's license plate! lolEdited by yahoo.com 25 Sep `07, 12:02AM
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Originally posted by angel7030:You got so many gfs and also got gf who loves u alot, and you still feels sian.
Hve u wonder those who hv no gfs, lonely, fatty, singularly, and not good looking?
Get a life dude, be what you are, enjoy it, yours is no issue, only sianz.frankly i am not good looking either. but i just feel so tired after breaking up with my 1st gf of 5 yrs. then after that i had one which lasted abt 2 months..and this current one too.. dun really know wat i want because when i am with my current gf, i dun seem to want to be able to do what i did for my ex gf. its more like i am doing it for the sake of doin it which is quite tiring.
i really wish i can break the news to my current gf and tell her that i wanna be single again.. sianz..
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so sianz.. its been like 8 months since i broke up with my ex gf. and now i have another gf but i dun really know what i want. when she is with me i feel so happy and always wanna be with her. but when she is not around, i just dun have the feeling of wanting to find her or talking to her through the phone even. i dunno what's wrong with me but i always think of my ex gf at times. think of all the wrong that she has done to me and the fact that she left me for possibly a colleague of hers perhaps which she always denies.
My ex gf is into religion now and thru her frenster i can see that she puts up my pics with her when we had happier times. and recently my ex gf called to ask some qns about my well being and all. but i know that i will never accept her back for what she did to me although i really do love her alot. when i am with my current gf, i feel that should another person who i really love alot come along, i will just go along with that gal.
Sometimes i feel that i have become a 'player'. I enjoy being in gals' company like that of my current gf. i always looked forward to meeting her when we were not an item. but after being together and 1.5 months later we had an argument, it got me thinking what i really want and if i really love this gal or am i just waiting for someone i really love to come along?
This gal also has a bf who she has been with for 2 yrs. and she is like in a trianglular relationship with me. she loves me much more than her 2 yr bf. and the fact that i dun really know her frenz and family etc after 2 months just futher makes me wanna break off from the relationship and go back to my singlehood lifestyle. but i am unable to do it as of now becoz i do not wanna make her cry(tried it once before and she cried). So i am really confused.
both of are 25 yrs old btw. i sometimes feel that i haf so much time in life to find someone whom i will truly love; someone who i wont mind spending all my time accompanying her etc etc. but yet at other times i feel that i am so old.. and that its just better to stay with someone who loves me instead(like this current one). so confused..and sianz.. sigh..Edited by yahoo.com 22 Sep `07, 10:52AM
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intending to sell my ps2. 2 controllers, memory card,arca de controller(the big controller) plus a steering wheel. plus about more than 30 games..most games are either sports related or action rpg games like onimusha series,devil may cry series, metal gear solid etc etc. interested parties can bid for it? bid starts at $170 and i will only sell when i feel the price is reasonable. thanks people. really worth getting it as i already got myself a ps3. cheers
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Originally posted by XTransbus:Dont think they'll even buy a car in the future lah
They don't have to buy a car next time. They will probably be driving my car around and be my chauffeur and call me "Boss" This kind of people are good for nothings one la.. just ignore them..
The world is round.. u might just see them on crimewatch some time soon..or he might end up in ur office one day clearing up ur rubbish bin.
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those interested parties just reply me.. i know its a promotional item..so for those who wanna get it at half price.. then just wait for some guy to sell it at half price to u or try getting at half price at the shops.
btw i know that hps given out for free by starhub sucks.. thats why they are free.. u seen anyone giving out free 3G hps yet? or any high or mid range model going for free?
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hi all…selling a 20 inch samsung LCD tv. brand new..yet to be collected. this is the same tv that starhub is giving out when u sign up for their price plans. tv is retailing at $999 at major departmental stores now. pls bid with confidence. once delivered to my house, winner will be notified of the tv’s arrival. starting price $800
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