Hi, I have come across a lot of cheating cases or people suspecting that they have been cheated in my blog www.aluvguru.blogspot.com 

There are many reasons why people cheat on their relationship;

1) For excitement

2) Can't decide what they want

3) Can't control their emotions and feelings

4) Think they can handle both sides and enjoy the benefits of having 2 gf or bf 

5) No sense of responsibility and commitment

6) Tired of their present relationship

7) When 1 party is away for work or studies

8) Enjoy the feeling of being loved or admired by another person

9) Didn't know it's cheating until things get too far

10) Not satisfy by present partner in terms of sex, money, care and concern etc. 

Hi,

Firstly I have to say that you love your girlfriend a lot thats why you are getting jealous and paranoid. 

However, behaving in such a manner might possible push your girlfriend away to other guys.  You have displayed that you do not trust her and that's not very healthy in a relationship.

I agree with some of the comments.  Since she was frank and honest with you about going clubbing and posting photos on friendster, it does show that she has nothing to hide and she respect you by telling you.  In the first place, she can don't tell you anything and don't post any photos and you won't know anything, right?  If you continue to suspect her, she will not tell you anything next time, do you want that? 

Put yourself in her shoes also.  She also needs a life when you are not around.  It's kinda boring to always stay at home so occasional clubbing should be alright. 

So, put more trust and faith in the relationship if you wanna see the fruits. 

Let me know if you have more questions at www. aluvguru.blogspot.com

Good luck!

The first thing you must under is that girls and guys think very differently, so much that sometimes we don't understand each other and misunderstandings happen. 

For all instances, we should always try to think in the other party's shoes.  If we can understand how they think and why they react in certain ways, then maybe we can reduce a lot of conflicts. 

Try and let me know if it works. 

If you got more questions, can ask me at www.aluvguru.blogspot.com

Sometimes its not so easy to explain love.

If everyone can be so rationale then it will be much easier. :P

A lot of men are like that. They do not like to say such things after getting married. They didn't think it's a problem cos they thought that the wife will understand.

Try talking to him and telling him how you feel. Things can only work out if both of you communicate with each other and understand each other better.

Originally posted by Fatum:

though the thumbs so small ... this nattelli got potential leh ...

Why never include Lina Ng?

If someone only treats u better after u gave all money and assets to that person, then I don't think it's true love.

Tonight got Jie Qi on air again?

Hmm. I think none of us here can give advice on whether the baby should be kept or not. Even though it's a life, but giving birth to a baby unprepared and not being able to provide a good family to me is just as bad. You have to weight the pros and cons.

No matter what, most important is to find a good doctor if abortion is the decision. Your sis life is very important and abortion can be dangerous if not properly done and it might even affect her future's fertility issues.

Please consult a professional consellor if need be.

You have to try to blend in with the rest in order to survive.

Do not isolate yourself from the rest. That will create greater distance between you and the girl.

What CCA is this?

Holiday training means you train during holiday not that it's gonna be a holiday.

Originally posted by yong93:

Haiizz , now i am so sian lar , now out of no where i received a call frm sch tell me go back do CIP ...
Its like in the middle of DotA match ppl call then u no choice leave game...
I so fed-up wif this CCA ler , its call holiday training when i dont even see the word Holiday , early morning Monday , suddenly call then do this do that like me slave lyk tt ..
Now training is like so #$^&ed up lar , from mon-fri and then weekend i got tuition and language class , now i don't even see the difference between holiday and sch day , some more i'm in a sport CCA , training from 11-7 is too much ler lar , we run and run and train and train and train for like so long then wan tok kena scolding ...
Then if go holiday also kena scolding then boh bian liao ...
Sometimes i wonder if i joined the wrong CCA , this club has bad organization and team mates arent even close , they are divided into many groups ...
sometime i go out after cca see ppl walkin in shopping centre so happy can go out wif fwens lar ... Then we leh ??

Any suggestions on what shuld i do , training is everyday leh ...

Hi woho and darkness_hacker99,

I will consider myself as a doctor or psychiatrist but I have been helping friends with their relationship problems and giving them advices.

That is the reason why I set up my own blog to help others out there. If there's anything I can be of help, please let me know in my blog ok?

www.aluvguru.blogspot.com

A Luv Guru

Originally posted by woho:

anybody knows of any professional love/relationship "doctor" in singapore? i would love to go for a consultation

Hi,

I have posted your question and my answer on my blog. www.aluvguru.blogspot.com

Please see and let me know if there's any other questions I can help.

Take care.

A Luv Guru

Originally posted by digi_destiny:

thx for all of your comments... but something just happened to me again today. i just realised the class has organized a class outing today and guess what i not invited. i m now feeling angry and depressed at the same time. i tink the next year would still be pretty the same for me. haiz. i have other frens from other classes budden i do not see them often u see...

If you ask me, yes I would think it's more or less a dumping ground but it's certainly of good standards. Just that maybe cos the intake is of large numbers, it makes it much easier to admit and thus the perception of dumping ground.

If you are totally not interested in engineering, then I would advise against studying that as it would be a torture for you and for your career as well.

Choose something you have interest in, even if it might not be your desired varsity.

All the best!

Correct!

Everyone needs to eat or drink or just go somewhere and do something. So, there's always a time to meet for a short while.

You can even sms or call when you are using the toilet (though u might not want the other party to know).

So if not, she's just not interested.

Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

You two are just normal friends now.

But if she sees you as a potential bf,she will try to find time to meet you no matter how packed her schedule is...Yes,even a 30 min rendezvous over an icecream would do.

To what extent do you agree with this assertion?

I agree to a significant extent.

If she keeps saying she is busy,then it's time to move on!

Haha. That's funny.

I only answer questions regarding relationships.

Hi all,

If there's anything that I can help, please ask your questions on my blog and I will try my best to answer you.

www.aluvguru.blogspot.com

Thanks!

Try to have a sweet or gummy so that you have something to chew or suck on. That will take away the habit of biting your gums or mouth.

Hi,

You should try asking her out then it will be easier for us to see if you have any chance or not.

You never know if you don't try.

Good luck.

A Luv Guru

Hi MISI,

In the first place, there's no such thing as someone don't deserve another person just because the other person might not be as good in certain areas. If you love the person, he or she is what you loved.

Also, I feel that everyone should be able to excel in something. You need to find your strength in a certain area and excel in it. If you can't do sports, what about singing? dancing? writing? dressing? cooking? designing? drawing? I am sure there's something you can do well.

As for sports, you can look at sports that are more skills-based and not so much those that requires physical strength and stamin. Sports like bowling, pool might be easier for you than to run, swim or jump.

Lastly, don't feel bad that you lost a match. It's not your fault. Since you were placed in the team, there must a reason for your existence. If you can't do well in the match, try being the person to link your team together. Make sure everyone is happy and harmonious and be the person that everyone likes. This is another way you can contribute to the team as well.

A Luv Guru

Originally posted by MISI:

Hello. Well basically, I’m in a Secondary school.
I have this relationship with a boy one year older then me.
We’ve been together for 3 months. He was my first love.
Well, I’m the sort of quiet type person, average normal looking girl.
I’m not good in sport or studies, no talent whatsoever. Which make me feel so bad about it, which result in low confidence?
I and my bf are in the same CCA.
Just a few days back, I got a match and I lost.
I heard some senior not far away passing unkind remarks about me.
Saying that I’m not good in sports or I dun deserve to be in the team.
Plus they say my bf dun deserve a girl like me…
Some of my team mates (my age) were also near them… wherever they look into my direction, I dared not look at them. And the feeling was terrible.
Thinking back what they have said, I do really think that my bf deserve a better girl unlike me… their words hurts me till today...
Can anyone regain my confidence back? And advise how to be a better person who can excel in sports? Thanks

Hi 855,

Sometimes it's all in the mind. Did you give other girls a chance or deep in your heart you are still thinking of this girl day and night, especially u see her almost every day.

If you keep telling yourself that she is good and you can't forget her, then no way you can forget her and vice versa.

So if you start dating other girls and keep reminding yourself how bad tempered she is and all her other "not so nice" characteristics, it would be easier for you.



A Luv Guru

Hi guys,

Not meant to "snatch business" from the forum but I already set up a blog for this objective as well.

Maybe I can answer some questions here and post it in my blog as well?

Have many relationship problems?

I hope I can help in my new blog.

www.aluvguru.blogspot.com

Hi candyx30,

Can I post your question in my blog and provide answers there?

Originally posted by candyx3o:

My bf & I are in different schools. We are only able to meet up once a week or so. He's studying in a co-ed school whereas I'm in an all-girls school. I somehow tend to be jealous & concerned about the girls he mix with. Is this kind of feeling normal?
Is it also normal to be jealous of the girls he once used to be with? I don't know who they are & whether my bf & these girls are still in contact. I would not want to ask him, because it would seem as if I do not trust him. Is there any way to not worry about such things? It's not that I do not trust him but I just have that feeling of jealousy in me. Is there any way to overcome it? Please advice. Thanks.

Hi protollium,

Can I post your question in my blog and provide u some answers there?