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  • Aunt Agony Coming home really late..
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  • Aunt Agony Coming home really late..
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    • 09 Mar `08, 5:32PM

      Hi ppl, sorry 4 not replying promptly.. I dun really goes 2 my com everyday.. Been trying 2 spend more time with her. After talking 2 her & tat guy, I’ve got the whole story (@ least from wat I’ve gathered).. How accurate is still depends on how much they decided 2 keep from me..

       

      They started since last Nov, but she just treated him as only a friend. They talk & occasionally had lunch or dinner 2gather.. He’s the 1 tat keep initiating 2wards her, but she didn’t respond nor reject him (he admitted himself)..

       

      BTW, he’s the reason y I got 2 spend the 2007 countdown alone.. She claim tat no body which including her gal-friends doesn’t know anything abt him..

       

      I did seriously thought of going 2 the lawyers after I’ve found out the msgs.. But she keep saying tat she still loves me & doesn’t wanna end our 4 yrs relationship just like tat.. I do understand tat she’ll get lonely & bored when she’s alone, never did I stop her nor asked abt those phone calls & msgs.. I dun realized tat I’m digging tis grave with my own hands.. I just wanna b fair & giving her the space she need..

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    • 03 Mar `08, 10:31PM

      I've found out 2 day tat a guy has been calling & msging her by the name "Baby".. I've just able 2 get msg from him saying "I love u 4ever".. She admitted tat the relationship has been lasted for 3 mths.. Wat shd I do..? I wanna confront tat fucker in the face but he keep avoiding..

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    • 12 Jan `08, 8:45AM

      Any1 married here tat wakes up in the morning & doesn't know where ur other half is or who he/she has spent the nite with..? 5/6 times a mth.. & u dunno who 2 call or where 2 go 2 find out..

      I really felt like a fool here..

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    • 12 Jan `08, 8:24AM

      Under wat ground can I file 4 a divorce..? Unreasonable Behaviour..? Anybody had any idea how much the legal cost will b..? I must find a lawyer 2 file a divorce petition right..? Any recommendations..?

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    • 09 Jan `08, 9:19PM

      I think the real problem is with me.. Being too naive or really thiunking too much..

      I guess couples tat were 2gather 4 too long will tends 2 drift apart..

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    • 08 Jan `08, 7:49PM

      Tkx 4 all the advice given by everybody.. I’ll try 2 c if our relationship could b further salvaged..

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    • 03 Jan `08, 6:34PM

      We did hv more comversation during her normal days, but tat was after several days of "cold war" after the clubbing nite.. Whenever she goes clubbing, I'll feel lonely & started drowning myself with alcohol.. I just wanna numb myself & stop my mind 2 function as tat's the only time I'll not feel anything @ all..

      During those non-clubbing days, we does live like married couple most of the time.. We'll went hving meals out 2gather, shopping & watching movies..

      After married, b'cos she's new here, I practically gave up my social life by staying with her 24/7.. Giving up on all my friends.. Totally devoted all my waking time 4 her.. I doesn't stop or restrict anything she do thinking tat she'll b stay happy.. Maybe I've given her too much freedom..?

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    • 02 Jan `08, 11:36PM

      We used 2 hv a great time 2gather during our 1st 2 yrs.. We’re practically inseparatable.. We even share the bathroom 2gather during showers everyday.. Now tat we drifting away from each other further everyday, I’m afraid tat the inevitable outcome may come very soon..

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    • 02 Jan `08, 11:25PM

      She mentioned tat other couples r doing the same thing & I shdn't b making a big fuss regarding tis issue..

      When @ home, the only things tat we do 2gather is watching the TV & hving some meals 2 gather.. Her other time would b spent in front of her notebk busy with facebook & MSN..

      Sometime when I'm really bored & lonely, tired of playing games, I'll go watch some movies by myself..

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    • 02 Jan `08, 11:20PM

      She said she's joining her gal-friends & none of them brought their husband along & so she doesn't wanna b the odd 1 out by bringing me along..

      We've had talks after talks everytime we had a row after her nites' out.. She knows tat she wrong but she said she'll not stop as tis is her charactor n she'll not change..

      Wat am I gonna do with her..?

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    • 02 Jan `08, 8:17PM

      No kids, she doesn't wan any as she doesn't wan any responsibility..
      I'm still using condoms everytime.. Sh insisted even when she was tipsy after some drinks on special occasions like birthdays etc.. I comply 2 her as I love her so much tat I dun wan her 2 b unhappy..

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    • 02 Jan `08, 8:03PM

      I've told her 2 cut back and sometime she comply but just 2 go back 2 the same after a wk or so.. We've had a few major fights regarding tis issue.. Even if she's home, she'll just dive in2 facebook or MSN chats.. Some days, we just exchange only 4 sentences a day..

      Does married couples do tat eventually..?

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    • 02 Jan `08, 7:55PM

      I understand tat she might just wanna let her steam off after a day of work.. But its gettting more & more often.. The time she return also is getting longer.. The most recent trip is the count down.. I’m left alone home & she reach home the next day ard 10pm.. In the evening..

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    • 02 Jan `08, 7:44PM

      Hi, I hv a very stupid question 2 ask here. I'm a 30 yrs old guy married for 4 yrs.. She's 3 yrs younger.. Until recently my wife has not been working since we're married.. She's a Thai n I'm a Singaporean. After she's started working 2 yrs ago, she started 2 go out with her friends 2 clubing.. Everything seems fine, but problem is she didn't ask me along most of the time.. Maybe once every 10 trips & only after I've insisted 2 tag along.. In fact we used 2 go out during our courtship..
      She's out almost twice or trice every month. Visiting clubs like MOS, Clinic & St James Power Station.. Returning only after 4.. Several time even until 6 in the morning.. I trust her as she's always out with her gal friends..
      I just wanna ask if this is a normal thing..? Shd I stop her or just let her b..?
      Thanks for the time..