If one do not get attached, do not get married, there is no such thing as cheating. B4 he or she knew you, he/she might have bed with many, so why don't you called that cheating? So meaning attach or married, his/her body solely belong to you and you can forget what he/she had did in the past, if u can, then y can't forgive as in now? The best is don't get attach/married, unless u r the only one where nobody had actually explore their body b4, if not i find it very hypocrite to shout cheating n act pity. The fact is, is the body solely yours, so meaning by attach/married, the body is soley yours, i think there's no such thing, so if not y get attach/married and later pay a hugh price to divorce? Since knowing swallow a big fish bone might get choke then y want to swallow it at first n act mature? 

Originally posted by Chris1988:

just take a peek into the universities in singapore nowadays and you can see many beauty and the beast in the classroom

dunno if NS changed the guys or guys turn to beast when they age

If she met a beast in bed, she loves him even more. Although first impression counts but normally it is who is the best beast in bed will win the heart.

Originally posted by Calvary:

Guys i like to discuss with you people the procedures of getting married. Please Correct me if I am wrong.

 

1.)Buy wedding rings for your GF and yourself so its 2 rings

2.)Propose to her and the moment she Say "I agree" both of you are known as fiancee (spell wrong?)

 

3.)GO down to ROM when u saved enough money for a wedding to register. If you are doing a wedding service in the church then go ROM tell them u doing in church then book a schedule with your church too.

 

4.) Plan your wedding BUffet who to invite etc, then plan your wedding dinner too on the SAME DAY. Take up those Packages on taking Wedding Pics all that.

 

5.)Lastly invite people to your wedding by sending out cards, book the Restaurent.

 

6.)Lastly execute your wedding on your planned wedding day, go fetch her from her house and get bullied by her sisters at the door.

 

Questions:

After proposal no money for wedding dinner YET, can wait 2 years like that then go down to ROM to get married or in church its OKAY rite? I mean telling people she is your fiancee (Spell wrong?) for 2 years.

 

Guys please add on or comment, or correct me please. Gonna Propose to her soon.

Actually very simple, choose the pure ones out from the rest. Book a date online. Buy rings(not necessary). Book a buffet for the guest after the ROM. Then go home, at night go karaoke sing song. 1 year later go wedding night. So simple.

Although sound simple but the process is very tiring and occassionary quarrel (quarrel about everything including to go for anullment). So both must know what you want and where you heading lor.

Originally posted by angel7030:

then at nite, how??

You mean first night? Put a cloth underneath lor.

Recently i just dyed my hair to white color. although i have not make my throat to master the speaking (messy, funny n confused) voice yet, maybe u want to consider me? But wait, first state what you have to offer me. If nothing, u can even forget about the queueing up. lol

Spent more time with her. If i were you, i will just move in and stay together with her for the time being. Spent more time with her, that's the most i can do as a son. Take care.

Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

....."Love is giving 100% and expect nothing in return."

Heard this on the radio two days ago. The Dj was asking this couple how they keep their relationship together and one of them said the above ....

If one person gives and gives and nothing is reciprocated, one day sure run out of thing to give right...?

...... thought love is 50/50 or maybe 60/40......?

U never see newspaper meh, some give n give until they go bankrupt and the wife say this guy useless n run away with other guy. Communication is 2-way traffic, if the other keep quiet, u better also keep quiet.  So i think it should be 50/50 especially when comes to $. Love is when 2 person works towards a goal that both desire.  Without the same goal, it is just a matter of time they pack up n split.

When Love strikes, i quickly find a budget hotel. Cannot bring home and do, was scolded last time saying the house is not a brothel.

Originally posted by mochou:

Not only IRC ba, many way of getting free ones. ONS from nightspots, frens(yes, these things happens between frens of opposite sex when the right moment comes), IRC and other form of picking up gals from net.

 

Actually nothing is free, there are those you dont need to pay(money), but you need to spend "effort" getting them. Paid sex is where it's nothing but a deal, just pay and you get it.

 

You can say you go pub get ONS, but you still need to pay for drinks, pay for hotel, buy condoms. Let's say you so lucky everything the gal pay la, you still need to spend the effort to hook up with her, lure her to pay everything and sleep with you.

Ya nothing is free, you very experience. Come on la, nowadays where still got people go irc find  one. To be frank, not those ONS ones are not good gals, some are very nice, good n pretty and have a decent job. It is so comfortable and enjoyable going out with them, movies, dating. But too bad, they can be only be gfs but when comes to marriage, they are not even inside my list.

Originally posted by delores:

i tot u already married ........

u bery experience leh ...

If you are hungry and someone offer free Fried chicken, you want anot? It is not that i go n paid for it then i might be guilty bcos i anyhow spend $ la. So when got free, y pay?

Originally posted by Hello Kitty:

u sound lame.

Ya i do think i sound lame but next time u might understand or maybe not, when u getting old n when the time u thinking of settle down with someone. Good luck

Originally posted by MuiMui:

I've divorced for a few years. Whenever I see my ex-hubby's parents, I still call them Pa & Ma. My friends were surprised when they knew about it. But I think its nothing wrong since we've gone through the chinese customary last time, though we are divorced now. I have a boyfriend currently and he wasn't very happy about it too. He thinks that I should address them as auntie and uncle now, as to make it clear that I'm not their daughter-in-law anymore. Should it be in this way? Any advice?

My ex-wife remarry and still calling my parents pa n ma, also celebrate birthday for them. I still call my ex-wife's parent ma n pa. My present wife's parents, i don't even want to address them anything bcos i don't like them, what i know is i like n marry only their daughter that's all. For so many years, we are so used to it to address these ways. Physically we are divorced but deep in our heart we still have a feeling for each other, we are still good buddy. Divorce is the same as bgr breaks up, just that one is officially signing of paper and one is not. So sometimes, i would want to marrying a divorcee with only one man who has seen her body before is better than marry a single who has many man n gone through many r/s b4.

Why so stupid to pay for the service, there are so many around doing it for free, somemore young and pretty. Somemore they can tell me, like me then do lor, no need to commit one.

Originally posted by Gosu.:

 

You obviously are inexperienced as your nick suggests and haven't been in a matured relationship. If your partner is willing to commit as of now and have evidently worked for the relationship; it is sufficient. Surely it will infiltrate the minds once in a while, but instead of avoiding it; it would be better to have a heart-to-heart talk. Firstly to be honest with your past and secondly to reassure his/her dedication to the partner.

 

When a quarrel occurs, only the immature/woman(for having no more points to argue with - I'm kidding ;D) will bring up the past, which has NO relation to the reason of argument.

 

Thankfully my girlfriend and I, our angry confrontations often ransom an explanation and that once said is deemed fit enough for forgiveness and understanding.

Ya u r rite, i am really inexperience and must learn from you. Haha hope it is really a heart-to-heart talk. Although i am inexperience but from my experience, i know lairs will never admit lying even the evidence are there. Gd luck and hope you really mean what u say, haha.

Originally posted by Lefti68:

If u like her, u shld not mind her past as long as she remains true n faithful 2 u now & 4ever.

Yesterday is history.

Tomorrow is a mystery.

Today is a gift.

you say only and it is easy to say than done. i don't believe a couple won't quarrel. When quarrel, those past will be dig out and it is like pouring kerosene to fire. it is either to keep quiet about the past and how many sex partner one had b4 marry, if not when the imagination gone wild, even just talk about holding hands with guys will also make one jealous, let alone the bed part.

That time my ex got married and i attended her dinner. She always tell others those guys are sad when she breaks with them and she is proud that when her ex talks about her, they only have one word about her "good". At the dinner, a dozen of her ex gather one table and when the groom toast to us, we immediately raise our thumb n say he marry a fantastic wife, me too feel that. But when the groom walk to other table, i ask them is the bride really that good, they laugh and say she is good in bed.......

Originally posted by angel7030:

For PRC, any guy accidentally touch them, they also dun bother, sometime they will smile at you and that make you melt, they can talk to anybody and anyone, the culture is different.

 

However for sg gal, unless you are handsome and young and in good shape, if you touches them, you can get sue. Same goes to me, i choose the person i want to talk to, if i see the guy is lousy, i dun even give a damn. That is our culture, the dao culture, head high, chest up, rear in, and walk with an air of hao lian. But sg guys have to understand, cos we are better breed, higher education, virgin, good family and have money. But for sg gal, if you want to hao lian, at least got something to hao lian, otherwise people laugh at you.

That time when i am in MRT, one PRC gal squeeze in and my body and her body contact and still she apoloqize to me, i was thinking squeeze somemore i love it, don't need to feel sorry one. But if that time is a sg girl, i will quickly pray to god, i still have old parents to feed and they pump in so much $ for my education, i cannot go jail just like that and my backside cannot withstand that cane. So i think i like PRC girls also....

Originally posted by moletan2003:

I have broken up with my GF for about 4 months but up til now i still feel very lonely and depressed. I quit my job for 7 years and now i feel god damn sorry for myself for having lost my girlfriend and my job. I just feel very lost. I feel so useless and have been drinking myself to death but i just cannot seem to get over the relationship. Do i have a problem?

Can somebody pls tell me what to do? I really feel miserable and feel so like crazy. Any place i can turn to??? pls somebody help me???

You should thanks god that she is not yet married to you. Going throught the divorce process is no joke! First, get yourself a job, there are many good n nice girls in the society waiting for your love.

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

 

You are so lucky still have pizza with a glass of water! Wake up boy! study hard and contribute to the society, stop pitying yourself! 

Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

.....not only he/she was divorced, but got kids too

A gal who is not married but has had many relationships versus a gal who only had sex experience with her one n only husband, which one will you accept? I just don't understand is it signing of that piece of paper so important. To me, it is still doing 'that thing in bed'. So what you actually mind about a divorcee? Can enlighten me?

Originally posted by angel7030:

Yes, and when PRC gals call their men, they said, "Lao Gong, my darling, where are you? love you ya, i want to see you, i miss you alot, Lao Gong i need you..."

 

And when sg wives call their men, they shout "Hello dear, Where are you!!, what time coming back!!! Can you buy some rice home?? I want to go saloon and facial tonite, you take care the kids ok, buy food for them!! and call my mom to help her on her water pipes,  WOei!, are you listening or not???"

 

And when sg gfs call their men, they said "Hi dear, What are you doing? this saturday, my colleague got a function and on sunday, one of my relative is getting marry, i wish you come along, i also want u to follow me go shopping for a dress.... WHy?? why sunday u not free??? no football matches mah. Up to you, it either you turn up or you can see the last of me!!" bang the phone.

Can add somemore i.e.  when the man (no matter old, young, ugly, fat, smelly or dying man) touches, what will they say.

But if man accidentally touches a sg gal, they get into serious trouble, somemore with caning.

Originally posted by Jezmeister:

the girl deserves better.

Ya of cos, deserves better. A man whose neck is strong enough to support those hats...

Originally posted by angel7030:

No wonder so many local guys come visit my joo chiat and geyland places for sex.

Hey angel, some only go there for makan, a drink or just to enjoy the beautiful faces only . Office so boring, always see those wrinkles face, fat oily face and get night mares, will shorten the life one hor.

I think if you do not let him do the penetration and by already doing petting, your ROM dream will be 50-50. If you let him penetrate, your ROM dream will be let than 50%, anything that gets both frustrated in the preparation of marriage might get the guy walk straight out of this deal without a word. Maybe when i do something, i always got a goal. When the goal is reached b4 i commit, there is nothing for me to carry on.

I don’t mind whether a virgin or not virgin if just sex partner.  But I mind a 2^nd hand when comes to marry. Even small kids also know that “you played my toy already, I don’t want, I want a new one”.  So nobody can force you if you really mind, so being single is still the best.