Originally posted by 4794:

How to get 5 Points?

ECA get A2 and better get 2 points discount.

I used to score F9 for Add Maths. Worse part is my maths teacher rotates Add Maths/E Maths tests once every week. And he took other schools papers eg Raffles Institute, Cedar Girls (all those prestigious schools) for us to do. And i never score more than 33 before. So practically every week i'm failing... However, after some time my teacher know i am not the calibre, so he just ask me to just do 10-year series. I spent 1-month studying from 8pm-2am almost every night...After that I managed to score A2 for my Add Maths. And i didnt even bother about my tb (unless i'm searching for something).

so, if u think add maths really very difficult, just do 10-year series will do...

Originally posted by Parity:

There's Girl A and Girl B. I've known both for around 3-4 months.

I am quite close to Girl A, we spend lots of time in school together, and I can tell that she likes me cause she always me ask to go out together(Just 2 of us) and she drops hints there n there. I feel very comfortable with her and enjoying spending time with her, but everytime I'm with her i can't feel that kind of special feeling for her.

Girl B is pretty distant from me, in sense that i get to see her during lessons now and then, and we do talk sometimes on MSN/SMS, but i can't even say i know her really well. But problem is compared to Girl A who is quite close to me, I feel like i really like Girl B, like i keep thinking about her and even though i'm not even close to her.

Should I just try to stop having contact with Girl B and try to develop feelings for Girl A, maybe someday I will start having feelings for her too?

Or should I just try to ask out Girl B? Which is like super risky(or even stupid) cause i don't even know her well? I thought about trying to get close to her as a friend, but doesn't seem anything i can do without being damn obvious that i like her.

You still in school? Concentrate on studies!

Talk on MSN/SMS doesnt necessary mean anything. Some pple when they talk on MSN/SMS like really very close friends with you, but they may not mean anything u know...Its possible that the way she talks makes u like her a lot...

Originally posted by pinkroses:
sorry guys, i am bothered by something so decided to come here during my break from work to type this.. i just found out that another of my friend [b]blocks me because she feels anti-social. previously, another good fren of mine did this to me too.

its very annoying and i hate it. someone help![/b]

sorry missed out on this. perhaps if u dun have anything urgent to talk abt in msn...go out and directly talk with frens la...no need msn

Originally posted by pinkroses:

well, the thing is, we are good friends and we used to share everything. and i dun annoy them seriously. we used to be good at least in my point of view.. we shared secrets etc etc. real life friends, not friends you meet online for those who thought so.

and yes, like what some of you say, i may suck. yea. whatever. i just asked for advice. you dun have to flame me.. you dun even noe me.

huh? i didnt flame u le, did i? anyway, i also got a fren who is like that. we were good frens and also shared jokes etc...later i left for studies, but still in the same co as part-time. however, she overnight changed & everytime i try to talk to her, she always say she busy...but she always chatting up with her new colleagues around her...

looking back, i think some pple are naturally very close to pple who are around her also...but at that pt u may mistakenly think they treat u as good fren...but she is good frens with those who are around her...if u left, then u are no good fren anymore...its difference in perspective...as u said, from ur point of view. from their pt of view, they may just take it as a form of entertainment. if there are more fun pple out there, they forget all abt u liao.

BTW, she blocked me also...anyway, i also blocked her back...dun demean urself...

of course, there maybe a million maybes in the world...

the best advice i think i can give u is this -
dun initiate contact with them anymore. if they want to talk to u, ok. otherwise, just bochap abt them. life is not only abt these pple, ok?
dun try to find out the reason why. coz u will never know. [period]

haiz...didnt do well for uni exams...no matter how hard i study for exams, somehow the paper always come out differently from wat i expected...

sometimes i really think im not the studying calibre....stuck in a course i dislike also...i did do my tutorials consistently, however, the coverage is so much, that i tend to gloze over many tutorial questions when im doing my final revision...then have to depend on my long-term memory to do those qns...cant seem to recall so much information...then for some subjects its so difficult that i always end up doing rubbish for my tutorials...then the tutor say i never do work...i feel so hopeless...

haiz...really feel like taking a break from studies...perhaps i should go out and work instead or maybe apply to take a 1-semester break from studies? can anyone advice me on wat to do?

Originally posted by pinkroses:

sorry guys, i am bothered by something so decided to come here during my break from work to type this.. i just found out that another of my friend blocks me because she feels anti-social. previously, another good fren of mine did this to me too.

its like they can still communicate with others but NOT me. i confront them and they always say its not my problem. so whose problem is it? theirs? i have no idea why.. is it with my personality that i talk too much or something.

its very annoying and i hate it. someone help!

BTW, some people may also be very popular and say very sweet words until everybody wants to talk to them on msn...but then they dun mean wat they say also.

u want to be like that meh?

Originally posted by pinkroses:

sorry guys, i am bothered by something so decided to come here during my break from work to type this.. i just found out that another of my friend blocks me because she feels anti-social. previously, another good fren of mine did this to me too.

its like they can still communicate with others but NOT me. i confront them and they always say its not my problem. so whose problem is it? theirs? i have no idea why.. is it with my personality that i talk too much or something.

its very annoying and i hate it. someone help!

hmm...what i can say is that the more you mind this, the more they will block you...

life is not only about msning...they maybe sweet talkers but dun mean anything they say also...

you may not be the most popular person in the world...but so what...they want to block then block lo...it may not be ur fault also...

if its really affecting you a lot, then dun msn lo...people dun usually mean wat they say on msn anyways...

Keep your chin up!

Originally posted by anzp:

i have already been studying in ntu for a year.. this year seemed like a very bad year for me.. as usual i have been working hard for my studies but all my quizzes i have only done fairly well.. and i jus got back my maths results yest and i failed.. the rest of the class averaged 70/100.. and quizzes constitute 30% of exams..

i seriously dunno why.. i have been working very hard already.. but the results jus does not come out.. i am starting to think if i am really not smart at all.. feeling very depressed..

and exams are just 1 week away..

Don't be sad. Cheer up. Results are not the most important thing in this world. Just try to pass can already, don't have to get As de...Employers don't only look at grades also...maths? You from which school?

Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

You two are just normal friends now.

But if she sees you as a potential bf,she will try to find time to meet you no matter how packed her schedule is...Yes,even a 30 min rendezvous over an icecream would do.

To what extent do you agree with this assertion?

I agree to a significant extent.

If she keeps saying she is busy,then it's time to move on!

True

Originally posted by boka:

OK WE GET YOUR POINT!
It seems like this forum has become some whinehouse whatsoever!

U guys have any SAD STORIES OR REGRETS,JUST BROWSE THE PAST THREAD AND READ THE ADVICES!

That's why its called Aunt Agony forum mah! haha

Originally posted by kct360:

and we'll be in different jcs by then and it'll be much harder to get to contact her.

friends do move on from time to time...while i was working in this place, i have this friend who used to be very close to me...i really thought we could be friends forever and we had a lot of fun together also...however, later i had to go...and this particular friend started to drift away from me...always telling me very bz..no time to talk...but i do know that this particular friend chats up with new friends and consistently laugh and smile away at new friends next to me...at the same time telling me all the busyness and said a lot of hurtful things to me all the time i tried to talk to this person...hmm...could really tell the person is not listening le...and it has nothing to do with busyness or anything......but i hang on to the friendship due to old times sake, always believing this person still treats me as a friend...but the longer i tried to do that...the more hurtful it is...

BTW, this person did told me that we could have a dinner when time can, that was several months ago...but i also know the dinner will never happen...if i reminded that person, i would receive a scolding, if i didnt that person would say bz, forget...just that the person likes to keep people guessing and let them wait forever lo...

if ur friendship is dependent on u being classmates or colleagues with her...
then this friendship is worthless...i do have some old classmates whom i have kept in contact for over 10 years...while we only meetup about say 1-2 times a year...hmm...i think lesser than that, but anyway, i was always happy whenever i see them...i think this sort of friendship better la...

what u can do for urself is to live well...go to the top jcs and uni...and fulfill ur career aspirations...if fate so degrees, u will meet her again...but by then i believe u would have found a much better gal liao...Take care

Originally posted by dokono:

Very simple, don't waste your time on her again. Arghh...what a patronising girl like so many of them. She doesn't even want to patronise you.

If someone doesn't even want to talk to you, don't talk to her again.

Simple as that.

doko

Agreed!

Originally posted by kct360:

and i dont understand girls...she said lets be friends..and when i try to start a conversation with her, she always dao me or give me those kinda i-dont-wanna-talk-to-you replies. haiz. is that what you do to your friend?

BTW hor...how many times u try to start a conversation with her? If u try too many times she may not dao u or give u those kinda replies u know. she may simply say u r stalking her u know...dun demean urself...

i thought i read in this forum before that if u continue trying in this way no use de...conversely, if u pretend to treat her as invisible, she may think that u are worth her attention really...but if really like that...really worth playing all these games ma...dun let all these bother u...

it maybe her way of telling u she doesnt want to talk to u...nobody's at fault...just dun talk to her anymore...

U r still young...i believe u will meet more suitable girls in poly or/and uni de...

Originally posted by kct360:

haiz. there was this girl that i confessed to like 1 month+ ago and was rejected. now i still cant get over her. everytime i see her i'll still feel the pain. i tried to get away from her, but everytime i do that, i feel like seeing her again. i dont know why..

and i dont understand girls...she said lets be friends..and when i try to start a conversation with her, she always dao me or give me those kinda i-dont-wanna-talk-to-you replies. haiz. is that what you do to your friend?

and the worst thing is that it's o lvls now. and i cant concentrate on anything. i've taken my a maths and chem without studying anything. even during the exams, i was still thinking of her...

what to do? how to concentrate on o lvls? how to stop thinking of her?

some gals are like that de...hmm...if she always give u those type of replies...my advice is dun even be bothered to talk to her anymore...it may be tough for u...but actually it is less hurtful to u overall...u really think she would treat u better after sometime? I believe not...even if she did, i think most prob would just be a one-off only...

hmm...does she always chat up new friends? I do know some gals treat new friends much better than old ones...after she tires of u...then she will give u those attitude u talking about...trust me, it wont change...

this may be very tough for u...but really the only rational choice for u...anyway, do u realize that if ur mood depends on how she treats u, u are really putting urself at her mercy? please dun...what u can do for urself is to study as well as u could...keep urself busy...try not to look at her or her sms or anything to do with her...as time goes by, u will soon forget abt her...

its impt that u put all ur energies into ur o levels right now...u aiming for poly or jc? always keep ur goal in mind and tell urself u must persevere. Good luck!

actually my exams also coming soon...haha

Originally posted by Frustrated_guy:

Good one!

TS, what's ur age?

Yep, no such things as "Friends forever". Some of us have to learn it the hard way. For now, think what you truly enjoy and love to do and GO DO IT! Be it a hobby, travelling and stuff. You'll have a lot of time for that.

i'm 25.

hmm...i just feel that the easier the friendship comes, the easier it goes too...

but its all right, i guess...i think i read somewhere before that life has a way of making you learn and re-learn things until they are learnt. maybe its great that it has happened after all.

Originally posted by 855:

we are colleagues.....

and i dun think that the reasons of her being unhappy with me is because she is busy.... there might be something in her mind that i dunno

i shall say that she seems to be my type of girl even through she is quite hot tempered sometimes and her presence gave me a special feelings towards her

hows ur relationship with her? ask her for lunch or dinner if on the way... as a normal colleague would...then see how it goes?

Originally posted by 855:

we are colleagues.....

and i dun think that the reasons of her being unhappy with me is because she is busy.... there might be something in her mind that i dunno

i shall say that she seems to be my type of girl even through she is quite hot tempered sometimes and her presence gave me a special feelings towards her

oic...

haiz...the feeling of being misunderstood...i understand...

hmm...while i understand love is blind...u just feel very comfortable with her around right? but generally hor, gf must choose those good-tempered and mild one...and not just rely on feelings only...

Originally posted by BadzMaro:

are u a guy or a girl. For them to lose their temper when asked in your situation .. may have a few explanation.

If u are a guy.. maybe u are all touchy feely all gay.. u know. So as guys.. freak out man.. .. its about watching thier backs.. =P

But seriously...

they are guys and gals...im a guy...hurtful cause i really treasure the friendship lo...worse part is, i dun even know wat happened...

Originally posted by 855:

i have been liking for this girl since more than 6 months ago and somehow that girl seems to be unhappy with me for something that i dun know (i didn't disturb her btw)

i was thinking, if that is a crush, i should hv easily forget her long ago but after so long a period i still have feelings towards her

u r colleagues or classmates or ??? if the gal seems unhappy with you...hmm...maybe she busy? i think its best to just pretend u didnt know that and do what comes to u naturally...hmm...maybe u just try to help her whenever u can and see how it goes lo...

wat u like about her?

huh? wat happened?

Originally posted by kramnave:

aww...well, try to keep your perseverance and see how it goes for the next few months ? Else consider making new ones and start from scratch. Friends come and go. However if you meet good ones they'll stick with you for decades.

thanks for the encouragement...

actually hor...if you encounter this experience, pls dun persevere no matter how good ur relationship used to be...

cause i either get scoldings or no replies de...this went on for months...

after that, i dun even feel like talking liao...

i also dun feel like talking to other friends also...dun feel like replying other people's sms or msn also...

when people tried to chat me up, even though i try to entertain them a bit, but in my heart, im still bitten by the experience...

maybe im not a good friend lo, better stay a distance from everyone else...

Originally posted by kramnave:

Hmm, maybe give them some time. Perhaps you have offended them unwittingly ? Its good to think about it. Approach them again in a couple of weeks. Since Christmas is round the corner, it'll be good to send them some cards and let them know you still care. Hopefully you guys are back on talking terms by then .

i've tried that...they just said thanks...and then went off to have fun liao...

when i asked for outing, like we used to do...they said they are busy, will let me know when free...but i waited for a few months already...still no news...

sometimes when i reminded them later, they just suddenly lost their temper on me, after that no contact at all...later tried to sms, no reply...tried to msn them a few weeks later, they said thanks, they were busy, no time to reply...

always see them laughing and smiling away...its very hurtful

i used to be very close with this group of friends. but overnight, they dun even want to talk to me liao. they just say they are busy all the time, but in my heart, i knew. when i asked, they didnt want to say why also and i dun even know what had happened...