thousandisland, i believe i'm quite aligned with what you are feeling now. Just turned 21 and waiting to get into a university in 2 months. These questions have been drifting in my mind for a quite some time already, i myself have not found a clear direction.

However, I believe the mission in life relates to how your existance in this world is valuable to the rest of our community. It is something that we slowly explore and discover, and gets more refined as we experience and grow. Bringing happiness to your family and friends is just but a way to satisfy emotional needs, it cannot constitue to your personal mission in life. Contribution to others and personal mission has its differences.

Your personal mission has the capacity and potential to influence people at large, because contribution in lined with mission is supported by an endless stream of emotional energy that drives actions, and recharges itself as a consequence of your actions. Personal mission drives you towards success and emotional fulfilment.

I also believe that working for another person will not get you closer to your mission. When you are working, you are providing value to the top management, your value and contribution would always be limited by how the system in the organisation work. The top management are the people who are the one in lined with their missions and bringing value to the community, not you. When you limit your freedom to serve, you limit tremendous amount of potential value you could bring to your community, and thus the community will not reward you back with the big paycheck. Your life will be dependent on the paycheck of your employer, and you will never be free.

However in this society we live in, many will question and challenge the practicality of minding your own business. Many are heldback by the fear of uncertainty and rejection that comes along with serving the community at large. The prospect of not having a stable paycheck and facing rejection that comes along with it is real. But if you are truly keen on finding that path, you will find courage to break away from the main steam ideals, and become the few people in their lifetime to have found durable filfulment; people who can smile in their deathbed because they know they have fulfilled the reason for existance in this world.

I'm personally from a low income family and have secured myself a double degree programme in NTU. However, i also recognise that getting myself a high paying job in the future will not drive me towards my mission.

I believe, to find your mission out, you must first overcome your fears which dictates your future actions. Simply because a mission drafts actions as a consequence to serve, not as a consequence of fears.

eh intro leh.

i wan blowfish burger.

last? i wished it even started.

GG. intro her to some desperate 16 yrs old, tell her age not an issue.

Originally posted by mistyblue:

those within your control. Do it step by step. Don't burn both ends of your candle. Those you cannot control, let it go and tell yourself... always that you had tried your best and be at peace with whatever you wish to change...

thanks, mistyblue. for always being there to provide comfort for me n to those who needs them.

Originally posted by blu_sky:

It is good attitude, but you need to let go at times. Thats why men tend to die earlier than women, cos they always bottle up their frustration or stress, while women know relieve themselves.

haha yeah.

whenever something bad happens to me, i would refrain myself from complaining about the situation and will take responsibility for it. i will think of ways to solve and prevent it from happening again in the future.

i'm proud of being able to initiate positive changes on myself. but there are times when problems all come in a wave, and its not within your immediate control. but i refused to give in, and i disallow myself to complain and whine about it. as a result, this frustration piles up, and affects my overall well-being.

is being too responsible, an unhealthy habit, when taken to the extreme?

jst take it slow. and dun probe about this topic verbally anymore. keep trying now n then to progress bt accept whatever responses she has. dun force it. good luck.

free. saf pay everything. but if u’re paying with ur own money, its arnd 1.3k exclusive of hospital stay. if u goto a b2 ward, its arnd 60 per night.

jst find sth common to talk abt lah. jst talk. wat u need to communicate isnt the words, its the body language, the speed u talk, the tone, the body jesture, the look in your eyes.

hey, i jst had the operation. its called endoscopic thoraric sympathectomy. i warn u first, before u go for the operation, do not go to the gym to train ur chest muscles. i did and my operation had complication, which is very rare, due to excessive bleeding.

there's definitely compensatory sweating, u will sweat more in other areas, bt the palms wouldnt sweat anymore =) its feels now so soft, warm and dry. last time used to be very cold in air-con rm, and sweaty outdoor.

Originally posted by parn:

No wonder you all are puzzled...actually it isn't called love without a reason. It's called attraction without knowing the reason.

You can never love a person at first sight. Reason is because there can never be love without understanding + being comfortable to each others' presence.

Ultimate level of love changes and evolves when people have loved enough people. I would say the ultimate level of love could be similar to the MTV by Ah Mu - You Yi Zhong Ai Jiao Zhuo Fang Shou.

Ultimate level of love is a sad, painful, tearful, lonely path to tread...but it might or never bring about the greatest fulfillment of love a person could ever felt in their lives.

I know it so, cos I'm walking on such a path right now at the present. I think I myself might have fallen into a sub-conscious state of depression without even realising it.

I would like to pose this question to all who reads it.
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Possession of another person whom you claimed so much to "love" is easy, but is that really your definition of love itself?

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And that's how cheap love is nowadays....

totally agree.

Originally posted by wonderamazement:

You said it yourself... SECRETS! If i knew then it wouldn't be considered as one will it?

haha, ya lah.. bt in the forum, you wouldnt realli meet ppl u know, so its not risky as revealing secrets in real life.

as above. care to share?

as above. care to share?

start making the right choice from today onwards

curiousorange.. what’s the third stage of relationship? what defines mature love?

bump

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thanks for sharing. great insights.

dude... do not wait for her.. what happened to you happened to me, if you feel you are feeling miserable now, you will feel even worse after the two years.. and you will find it very hard to pull yourself out of your sorrow because you have spent so much time for her, investing so much time for her while things remains the same for the both of u.

i confessed to the gal(1 yr younger than me) i like before when i was in j2 and she said she wasnt ready aso. I didnt push her and decided to wait for until her 'A's is over while i'm in NS. The wait itself is already very miserable, but the real torture comes after your wait.

U would naturally expect more from her since you invested so much for her. When her 'A's is over, you will try to commit even more effort and time with her to make up for the lost time. And you would naturally expect even more from her due to this. You will find yourself growing dependent on her replies and her attention because you have been deprived of it for so long. Soon, you'll find yourself becoming more and more needy. And soon you'll find her getting further and further away from you.

Besides that, you have already committed yourself emotionally that she's the perfect one for you. Once you have that emotional commitment, you will be blinded and not be able to see clearly her character and her flaws, because everything about her will be flawless to you. and when that happens, you will not be able to understand her clearly, and she will tell you again that the two of you r still not ready to be in a relationship becuase she finds you do not know her well enough.

Furthermore, the your fear of losing this friendship will amplify because you have invested so much in it. And with fear, you will not be able to completely be yourself and let her see the real you because you will do things out of fear of losing her and not because that's just you. That will also create problems.

I do not wish to see history repeats itself.. do not follow in my footstep. i'm still trying to move on after my third confession to her after her 'A's. And her reply is still i dono.. which makes it even harder for me to move on.

DO NOT wait for her. Wash off all your thoughts that she's the perfect one for you. Don't fear losing her. You can still keep in contact with her and be her friend, and she will be yours if she's meant to be yours.. hai.. sad..

give her up, go for other girls. i know its hard, but persisting isnt a solution with your current obsession over her now.

Originally posted by M©+square:

Watch Hitch, you will have a better idea the experience in dating is important.

i went ahead to watch it. yeah, i gained interesting perspectives.

anyway, she cooled down faster than i thought. before i even try to carry out my plan to coax her and make her smile, she has already forgiven me implicitly in her sms. nonetheless, i still carried out what i had planned to do. no big response from her, she jst said its ok, i dun have to be sorry.