Originally posted by Typhoon:

How about now? (you may want to eat your words)

LOL!!! Chio ge lan.

Originally posted by itsasecret:

There is this guy who keeps asking me out and I have rejected him a few times. I thought it might be obvious enough that I am not keen to go out with him alone. What other ways can I drop hints that I don't want to go out with him?

Yr tone u use when rejecting him is critical to make him leaving u alone....

Originally posted by jaezai2008:

i can understand where TS coming from .. i am who i am today because i've been through that many rejections. to spite, will be your motivation, but when you get there, you'll be too happy with what you achieved to even care - that person who started your journey of self-improvement would by then be insignificant to you.

if you're thinking of doing something stupid like finding a chiobu to walk with you like couple, or to buy something flashy .. i tell u now, it won't do jackshit. because she doens't care. imagine, a really ugly girl confess to you, you say no, then the girl walk with a yandao, what's the first thought? "wah fuck, a handsome blind man, so rare!". so yea, improve yourself in the long run.

when i was in high sch, i liked at least a diff. girl every half year; every single one rejected me. back then, i was still young - baby fat all over, immature - in short, no looks, no brain, no charisma. thankfully, God must have taken pity given the many heartbreaks i went through, and i transformed with my efforts and his good grace - like extreme makeover like that. i started running, and the moment baby fat lost, everything else kinda fell in place .. my features actually v. pan-asian and sharp - didn't come through before because i was so fat. started studying really hard - stopped thinking of girls after i hit 16 and just focused on my getting that sports car and salary.

few months back, at 10yr high sch reunion, i met some of these girls. had a few laughs over how stupid i was then. next thing i knew, i received an sms from one of them saying she wished she saw "my character" yadah yadah bshit back then (i know it's shit because i spoke to her for what, 20mins? max.), and would like to try things out. when she told me that, i thought "YES! HAHA TOO BAD" but then it quickly went away, and i realised how the "hardships" i went through as a teenager shaped me today. quite frankly - she's not a girl i would even consider asking out on a date - not even ONS material, much less gf or possibily wife.

Yup! What can't kill u makes u stronger. I been thru that and knows how it feels. Everybody think rejection is a total bad thing. Yes, the feeling sucks but it proves to be a important ingredient to make u have a stronger desire for yr future success..

Turn negative into positive. TS, start character cultivating. Learn how to date but not for sake of revenge but making u a worthy partner and a great date!

Originally posted by Jacelyn20000:

sigh that day i went to see my love life , the master told me my love life not good sigh. den they told me those guys who like me, they actually want to tell me they like me , but before they can tell me they go off le. sigh. den i cannot get married early cos i'd run away from my husband, and i keep liking wrong guy..sigh. i already so many years no bf le. everyone find the right person i keep on cannot find..i am quite pretty lor duno why like that sigh.

Pretty doesn't mean u will get the right guy or good guy. Yr character and virtue, I will say is even more important than yr look in getting a good partner.

If u think just becos u got a pretty face and shall deserve a bf. U are horrible wrong and can keep waiting....

Originally posted by deluded:

i would like to hear especially the opinions of guys.

what's your take on someone who went all the way to where you live to meet you once, but converse not regularly over the months thru sms and msn, who told you that he's obviously attracted to you and that "i shd know", one who articulates well, has experiences of friends to share, one who says he didn't like to be contacted via phone calls due to the nature of his prev job where he had to be on phone for long hours and that his health "suffers", but ask "why didn't you call?" on the topic of "women have needs too", asks me whether it would be the last time he sees of me, yet never set a date & time to ask me out.

Though he did once out of a sudden sms, ask me to go along with him the next day for something he needs to handle & due to the confusion of all these mixed signals, i didn't reply. And hours later he suddenly told me that he couldn't make it either. Days after, he told me he had gotten his stuff done already. And when i assume that he had forgotten all abt wanting to meet me for the 2nd time, he gets offended and said dun ever think that he's forgotten abt it all. He sometimes takes hours to reply a sms and sometimes never replying at all. After several weeks of non-contact, he initiated contact thru sms passing on a forwarded joke when he had previously told me he's not one into such impersonal stuff as he "type all the messages personally" himself. And then after some exchange, he sms "not to expect anything from you but you have not been forgotten".

Tell me, what kind of guy do you see here?

If u are not sure of him, why not u try to see him out more and understand more of him? Rather than not sure and thinking of jump or not jump?

Hint him out for dating. Or MSN him and communicate with him more to understand more of him.

Quality talk and not quantity talk....

Originally posted by youyayu:

Is there one in singapore?

I want to join =.=

SAF BMTC school... Tell SAF u want to sign on for 3 and half months.

Btw, don't keng and don't dwang. Sergent scream at u , u better hold it there. When u run out of breath, let the sergent kick yr back side to push u on... Inside camp, u can't get to eat any rubbish. Only breakfast , lunch , dinner and night snack.

 I took just 6 weeks from 85kg to 64kg and I get six clear packs!

U need to psycho yr mind!  Tell yrself there is nothing to be afraid of the customer u face. They are not going to eat u up!

Prove yrself as a man..

Action speaks louder than words..

Haven't enjoy honeymoon period already like that. Haiz! How to survivie in the long run?

Are u still in army? or going to U soon?

Why u suffer in such state is a total lack of self confident and lacking socialising  attempt.

U keep on revolving around yr own comfortable  times in the past and never willing to take the first step out  to try other thing. Go and do some of yr hobby, something u are good and build up more of yr confident. That gal u like is happily living with other guy. If u really care for her.U shall feel happy for her. Then u will attain the ultimate lvl of of love..

Let other gal have the chance to share yr this ultimate lvl lof love...

Everything is in plan.

The pace is just nice and everything goes according to plot.

Not to rush to expose the desire and try making it looks all natural due to fate.

One by one the jizzle puzzle pieces fall into the whole picture to complete plot.

But so far, i find it too smooth according to my plan, a bit of worry. All info and ooportunity I want came to me without even me need to ask(too smooth sailing is not a good sign,right?).

Using my past experience and mistakes learn and implement into this new one to perfect it.

Patience and exercise right move are very critical in these stages!

Hope everything turns out to what I expected.. :)

Originally posted by NoobUnited:

You ask her out right? Then you have to pay mah. If you want her to pay for your dates maybe you can simply just wait for her to call you instead?

Don't bullshit la. TS don't be a carrot head. A good lady will offer to pay her share! It this lady never say anything. U can forget abt her!  U must be too mesmerised by her beauty, right?  Wake up! Wake up!

Originally posted by Stucktoes:

I have heard and seen girls complaining that local guys are not gentleman enough, they dont give up their seats on the train and bus to ladies unlike OTHER COUNTRIES.

 

I was on the train to work one morning. As usual, trains after 6am will be crowded like mad. I was sitting down. This young girl was infront of me standing among the crowd. Looked damn sleepy and tired, even fall asleep when standing. So tired to the extent that she almost just fell and concus on the floor. Before she fall she will open her eyes again.

I stood up and offer her my seat, since shes so tired to that extent that she might just fall into the arms of some random uncles or tikos. (she almost fell on me too).

Instead, she shaked her head and continue standing. And this fat indian man quickly rushed over and take my seat. People were all staring at me when they realized I wasnt getting down with the "you are so crazy, more crazy than paying $7.20 for a packet of M&M" look.

At first I thought cos she was getting down soon, ended up, she got down more than 10 stops after that. I looked at her in the window reflection after the indian man sat down, she was smiling, but dunno at who.

 

I wasnt angry la, just a little unhappy. In the end I stood all the way to my workplace for nothing.

I think the singapore gal complain of most sg men not gentleman enough is still valid with u this kind of guy around..

"What makes those MM think they can have the best of both world and enjoyin it?"

 Ignorance is always a blessing...

Many lady will tell the partner they love 'If u want to cheat me, make sure u cheat me forever!'

Married Men always think they can do a clean job. While go home still treat their wife nice and sweet.

Why men still go out and seek new love but in their heart still placing their wife in number one position?

Cos courtship is always the sweet thing and most exciting part. Very satisfying. Men like new experience...

If u ask me to choose which is the most exciting things to a men?

1.Travel around the world?

2.Racing in a F1 car?

3.Flying in a fighter jet?

4.Become a superheroes and save the world?

5.A billionaries with endless money to spend and buy football club to play?

6.Make a lovable gal heart melt?

Nothing beats chasing a gal skirt!!! It is the most exciting and satisfying thing to a men.

I will not hesitate to choose the last option out of so many!

TS, u guy or girl? If guy must be goinng to ORD, is it? So happy???

Ask her to suggest a place to entertain u!

Change liao chnage liao , ok? Haha..

From what I know, He is still quite young for a defender. If he retire, sounds sad for him.

Originally posted by ghast.:

Does holding hands and hugging mean that he is interested in me and wants to take it further than friends? Or am I just a fling to him?

Haha.. Openly declare yr love for u. ANd if he say no. Give him 2 tight slap and cursed him as playboy.

TS, open yr heart and learn to let go!  Learn to accept other gal and widen yr social life,

From what i know they are quite a rich club. And selling of Berbartov, they can finance their other sigining..

He shall bring a chestboox  of cash  and meet her.. It will defintiely works!

Originally posted by cherrycola:

Somehow, I still believe that there is only one guy/gal meant for everyone. Otherwise, wouldn't relationships get chaotic?

Commitment and principle!  Btw, there is no perfect girl or guy in the world.

I 1.58m tall guy but got $10 million dollar in bank  and drives a Ferrari, lives in a mansion.

One Supermodel wife who stands at 1.8m and 34-24-32..

TS, u 1.78m tall got what???

It all depends on how u view the thing. I believe there is no such thing as only one guy or girl suits u in the world. Cherish what good things u have now