Originally posted by FireIce:

my fren de gf oso like tt one
he tell me they go hospital more than they go see movies
he like grandma like tt, always nag her this one cannot eat, tt one cannot do, must sleep early, must take med, dun work too hard....
but bo bian lah..... is 天生 one loh
can control a bit but cannot fully recover one
and doctor oredi said, will die early one
so now is see 天意 lah

her insomnia seems to be the main problem now... coz lack of sleep affects her mood, her concentration, work, appetite... everything...

we're working in the same dept, was quite hectic last few months, but recently levelled off and getting abit better.

i think her diet is crap, irregular meals and usually eats very little, at night even if 9pm go to bed, also cant sleep... until like 1-2am.

she used to visit psycho for her insomnia, some other specialist for her other probs, but after working, nv visit for quite awhile already, discharged. So now if wana go again, need to get referral letter, wait , etc...

damn painful to see her suffering like this. granted it cant compare to what some are experiencing, but i want to see her healthy instead of not being able to fully enjoy whatever she does...

hi... my gf and I have been together for 3 months.. she has a very poor constitution since young, and keeps suffering from a bunch of ailments, especially recently:

- severe insomnia (can be unable to sleep for days straight, even sleeping pill sometimes has no effect)
- prone to knocks and aches
- low blood pressure/migraine
- prone to constipation (and when she has gastric flu/infection, she vomits instead of having diarrhoea)

i'm reaching my wits' end... it's to the point where she's plagued by at least one of the above every time we meet, every day etc...

i love her and it hurts so much to see her like this, while i cant really do a thing about it, other than being with her whenever possible, and protecting her.

what can i do to help her?

Originally posted by deathwish:

May be you can try making a cake for her birthday cake. I think she will appreciate it more.

actually her birthday is over already, but we spent it on an overseas trip, so this is something overdue... understand that making stuff myself is the best, but maybe for the next occasion bah...

Originally posted by FireIce:

1) go city chain and get sovril

2) mango cake nicer (cos me no like durian). just go breadtalk or polar and get can oredi. it's just cake.

thanks FI. looks like citychain will be the place to go.

she likes mango alot, so wana get her something thats good... =|

Originally posted by deathwish:

City Chain has some nice designs u can try. Personally i like kenneth cole.

thanks... on the few occasions we passed by city chain she did comment on how kenneth cole watches look decent...

Originally posted by charlize:

Why not fold her 1000 paper hearts?

 

Better than any watch or mango cake.

 

Really.

i understand... =/ but watch coz she needs one now..

Originally posted by angel7030:

Rochore road, beside the Kuan yin temple, inside sell lots of watches, my bf brought me there to buy Cartier.

 

As for Durian or Mango cake, go to Angie cake shops, many outlets in Singapore.

thanks for this tip... :) as for cake, think i'll try my luck at emicakes.

:( please help

hi all, just wanted to ask for help on the following... for gf's 24th birthday:

1) ladies watch - little casual/dressy? will be wearing it out, to work (budget up to 200-300)

2) mango or durian cakes - anywhere to get good ones but at such short notice?

appreciate any help i can get, treat u guys lim kopi okie? :)

- CTC travel voucher
- 5N New York free & easy for 2 (return tickets) 
- Northwest Airlines 'V' class (topup to 'L' class if required)
- Accomodation at Edison/Wolcott
- Transfers, breakfast, taxes/surcharges (~$450/pax) not included
- Must depart by (before?) 30 Jun 08
- $2k, can be negotiated (if problems getting preferred dates,etc)

Tricky part is ticket availability (departure,return dates), will try my best to check with CTC for interested party... currently checking for a colleague.

Originally posted by BadzMaro:

Never let emotions affect your work . Especially if u are the leader. It will affect ur judgements and the ability to apply your skills . Get a pillow and go into ur room and yetll into it. LOL! or go down into ur car n yell.. ARRRGH! hahaha..

 

but anyways yeah. =P i did that..  because i hated this manager from another company n i try not to let my emotions affect our business , so i went into my office room grab my pillo.w Yes i got one in the bottom drawer. small one. n yelled into it. then went back out again. o.k. hahaha. I normally dont get affected by emotions , but that guy is one of those exceptions that u just wanna stab them with anything when u see themhaha.

 

ok... actually work itself is not affected, but there's this guy in the same dept, he's more of a lady's guy... maybe more open and talkcock/chit chat with the ladies more often. And recently the two of them have been goin for breakfast, lunch together (I missed lunch quite alot due to the workload... just slogging in the background trying to help the team...)

So the times when I've joined in, I become totally withdrawn. It's stupid but I cant' help it... they just have like alot to talk about (from previous conversations etc) It's now reached the point that now I'm trying to avoid going out with the 2 of them... go alone or jio another colleague to go. And just kena say that I'm anti-social.. which is true to an extent, looking at my behavior.

Sigh, silly me. Alot of things perhaps I can make an effort to change, to think differently...but just cant seem to do it. Times where I wish there's tons more work so that I can
spend less time thinking over such things..  and heck, it's not like she's single.

Originally posted by justcantstop:

yea same case. same dept working closely everyday...

anyway...does she know u like her ?

Most likely not. Any signs of me showing extra attention etc I guess people can attribute to me being a mentor to her.

I only know her for 2mths+ though, could be just a crush. But it's totally affecting
my work and mood.

Being a leader, I shouldnt let my emotions rule me, but I just can't help it. Even other guy
colleagues are 'closer' to her. Im just a colleague... who's there for her whenever she
has questions, needs help.

Screw myself man.

you confessed and maybe you have gotten some answers. good for you.

im in the same boat, liking someone at my workplace who's attached. And we are in the same dept, working closely everyday.

been in room 9 for awhile, not expecting to check out in the near future

try ordering a mille feuille

would it be an ok idea to put together a bunch of small-ish, assorted mini stuffs as a 21st bday present (girl)?

any ideas on what to include? plushie thing, choc, voucher(?), etc

all individually small sized but varied enough and of use in different ways. TIA

Originally posted by Master -_-:

got a feeling it will be baos

need 600k usd to be sg master franchise

Originally posted by dahliamorie:

i like it homemade. unsweetened and cheap.

homemade is cheap (but tedious without milk maker), and not so 'gao' like the commercial ones. can sweeten to own preference too.

preserved mustard greens in braised sauce with pork belly, garlic

Originally posted by turbo_drift:

Actually you can..It just that whether you wanna go for it.. Don't let the opportunity go.. Once you've missed it, you'll ask yourself: "Why did i missed it when the opportunity comes?"..

No matter what, your family members will support you..

Cheers..

think im more of a entrepreneur 'follower'... no real ideas of my own but wish to do something more satisfying (hard and may not have much success, i know)

so, who are the would-be entrepreneurs?

i know it's not easy to succeed but i dont really see the opportunities coming along...

what to do if parents have no savings at all... and cpf also quite little? (used quite abit to move house 3yrs ago)

short term... bills... etc... still ok...
long term...

Originally posted by sillyme:

Firstly you need to sit down and write down your current financial situation. Write down your income, and expenditure. Look at where you can cut expenses. Remove the non-essential spending.

Once you have done that, tell your parents about your real financial situation and the family's. Find out if the family is over-spending unnecessarily. Discuss with them if it is possible to reduce your contribution. Seek their understanding. Reducing $10 each will probably help quite a bit already.

my non-essential spending has been 0 for quite some time. Nv change pc for 6 yrs, hp for 4 yrs, etc etc.

i will start giving them a fixed amount monthly and pay for all bills except utilities. Should i continue working at my current temp job (new 3mth contract) for 1.6-1.8k? 1.6 sounds like v. low lor, deg holder, grad last yr. But then if dun continue, will be some more 0 income days until i find another job. If they somehow decide to offer 1.8 ... still ok i think, with chance to convert to perm after the 3mths. sian.

Originally posted by browniebaobao:

take charge of all the bills at home.

besides utilities bill, still got what?

phone?
s&c?
...anything else?

did some rough calculation... if i pay all the bills... then monthly it'll be like:

$550+ (all bills + GIRO loan deductions)
$200-400? (give parents)

assuming i'll be getting at least 1.3k nett soon (at least 1.6k gross)... im left with 350(!!)-550 /mth