Originally posted by da-cheese-freakk:

Feels like I'm incapable of getting guys' respect
I'm not chio, I do not deny it -- but why must guys always judge by looks?
Recently got told by a guy that he never took 'our relationship' (if you can call it a relationship) seriously and that he was just using it to pass time 'cause he was bored.

What's wrong with guys these days? :(
Or is it just me?

First, let me tweak your mindset a little. Attention doesn't equate to respect, or rather respect is much more than 'attention'. And as for whatever is wrong with the guys nowadays, I'd say such superficiality already existed since civilization.

Like jojo said, that guy was obviously out to have some fun. It doesn't matter if you're physically attractive or you look like a corpse, if his intention is still the same, the relationship is doomed to fail. If it helps, just take it as you've paid one bad karma debt and you're closer to the one true love.

You could perhaps help yourself by being a li'l more confident, a li'l more loving to yourself and without a doubt, someone new and better would come along. Remember, delay is not denial. Don't lose faith just yet

Originally posted by parn:

Ya...probably due to stress/depression.....forgotten about your 8 panadols which should have made you drank like a hippo.

Or maybe you've spent overly long hours playing some computer games!!!

I don't play much computer games! You falsely accused me

Probably due to stress and anxiety...

Describe your worst headache! Your turn!

Originally posted by parn:

Then must be not having enough fluid in your body, not consuming enough plain water?

Not true, I drink like a hippo

Probably due to the stress  

Originally posted by parn:

Have you been having too much eggs for the past few days prior to your migraine attack?

If so, then stay away from eggs. Preferably take one egg a month, but if you can't resist...then one egg a week.

 

=( No, I don't recall binging on eggs

Originally posted by Ferret:

thats why i said bad luck....

but bad luck for them equates good luck for the caterer..

provided that the guy don't play same stunt again lah

Describe your worst headache (literally) experience.

For me, it was just 2 - 3 days ago. The migraine attack lasted for about a full 48 hours and it was made worse by my sleeplessness (Was hurting so much, it wasn't possible to even get a 40 winks)

It felt as though somebody was consistently thumping the right side of my head with a giant mallet... And I tried every possible means to rid of the pain... From 8 panadols extra in 3 hours... to trying to convince myself that my pain can't be compared to the pain others are suffering

Ended up..  I just lay silently on the bed and surrendered till I felt asleep... On the 3rd day, when I woke up.. Looked in the mirror.. Wah as pale as the sheets..  

Originally posted by Ferret:

this kind of thing cannotch play play...

 

besides, i dunno huai TS wan to warn caterers... notch as if the ppl are gonna wed again... right ?

Notch true leh, if play stunt like dis ish lealli damn suay..

dey mite break kup then marry other ppl~ lik dat gotch 2 more marriage liao

Originally posted by Ferret:

fwah liddat the marriage damn bad luck one leh...

 Ferrie mei mei is damn pam tan

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

You are a detached lover.

Cheers

That means I'm hot

Good decision.

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

In a relationship, derived from struggle between masculine and feminine roles, self-centrism on positioning often contributed to the root of BGR dissatisfaction because either side will formulate a structure of what they deemed as an appropriate patterns, personalities or behaviours required from their Significant Other (SO), while demanding the manifestation of this ideal. Almost like a mannequin, with no life force - one must understand that every human being is unique, hence it's difficult to fashion their style and personality into a structured model.

Of course there are ways to do it, but that's another topic for another day.

This give rise to incompatibility, which are often unrevealed until the birth of the relationship and later. Most people coped with such indifferences with various degrees of adjustments and compromising, but there are bound to be cases where major discord will materialize through the latent dysfunctional effect of incompatibility. Many times, it crippled the relationship until gradual death occurs or it simply grants instant annihilation.

Your man presents a classic male chauvinist in Love - the insecure male constantly exerting implicit pressure on their other half, through the eyes of his distorted perception and fear of competition from the other more seemingly 'competent' males. The actual concept of competency doesn't matter in this case, in fact everyone will appear to him as a potential contender. A male chauvinist often finds it a burden to change their attitude because he rationalize his personality as 'fixidity' and often claimed that his possessiveness and jealousy are 'natural behaviour' of being boyfriend. Thus he is unmotivated to change himself (being causal in his dressing, unromantic, or whatever) and choose to mask his insecurity by coercing his partner to demote her beliefs to his values.

Finger pointing and believing that his woman is the cause of the strain in the relationship.

Big dreams? Ah, hack it - your place lies in the kitchen and tending the kids. Forget about having a social life too. If you don't obey, you are the strain of the relationship.

In this contemporary era, the evolution of Love also changes as society transformed itself. The patriarchal perceptive, roles and function of what a relationship ought to be is waning and there is a greater calling for mutual respect and consideration in what's better for the relationship as a whole and not some specific parts.    

First Law of Love states: it is we who chose our partners, not the other way round. You make the decision to be with him two years ago and now you are lamenting about this drastic incompatibility you are finding yourself at odd with - wouldn't it question the identity of the relationship and the reason that give birth to it's existence?

A male chauvinist is almost an affliction for life - they usually don't differ very much away from the formation of this personality because of cultural, social and reiterated self rationalizing - a faculty of the distorted mind and not from the pristine quality of the heart.

Understanding this, you probably need a session - not to trash - but to decide how you want your relationship to move on from here. By dragging a relationship to continue in the original fashion probably only suggest delaying the inevitable. If there is something in the relationship worth fighting for and still relevant enough to remain, then some kind of agreement needs to be cast in stone and be adhered.
It would be wise to communicate first, before you decide upon departure.

For everyone is entitled a chance to understand the alternate perspective of the relationship from their other half before any ultimatum is slammed upon them.

Cheers

*takes hats off*

Now, tell me what kind of lover do you think I am?

I'd say none of the above.

My perspective might be warped, but I consider sex and love as discrete entities.

Originally posted by kiseki:

 I've always wondered why they're forever chewing off straws. Picking their teeth?

I can't let you in the secret

Originally posted by kiseki:

Just saw this reply. Hehe. And I like the song, thank you! (:

I've not heard of the singer before though!

Only an old schooler and a country boy like me would have heard of singers like them

*Put on straw hat and bites a straw*

Well written, amigo. For once, you're definitely no social retard, you expressed yourself well  I'm certain if you try hard enough, you'd be able to articulate and get your points across to people tactfully in reality. 

Now, let's try to tackle one problem at a time. 

Pertaining to your financial plight, have you tried communicating with the management to let you clock more hours? Do let them know that you're tight, hardly surviving and request for extra hours; I'm sure the management would aid in this area. Otherwise, you may need to get an extra part-time job to set your finances straight - of course, this is no long-term solution.

I can understand your cynicalness; you probably tried to blend into the world before, but people and things continue to disappoint or even disgust you (unfortunate, really). I can't give you much advice on this, for this may be the way you chose to live your life. But I hope you will try to open up yourself, take baby steps and learn acceptance. I'm certain that you'll be a happier person when you learn to come to terms to things

You mentioned that you lacked a decent certificate? If it's no too personal (you may pm me, if it's not convenient), may I ask your qualifications? It's my belief that education is the surest way out of poverty, have you considered going back to school? Is there any subject you're interested in? Cite a few examples "journalism", "mass communication" and "business"? I'd encourage you to pursue something you're passionate about while you're still young and all.

It's commendable that you do not want to partake in the rat race; I'm heartened that the ways of the world doesn't have that great an effect on you  After all, 70 odd years is what we have, life is too short! Then again, it's not unusual you sometimes would think bout the 'comfortable and stable' lifestyle, it's not spilt personality - don't worry!

The first step out of our comfort zone is probably the most difficult, but I'm sure things will be fine bit by bit. First, work on your short-term financial problem. Then, it'd be time to think of the big picture, sit down with yourself and plan out your life. Baby steps, friend... and I'm sure you'll get to your destination  And remember, the people factor will always be an obstacle, if you don't open up yourself and accept them.

Good luck!

Like what I've always been saying, "delay is not denial".

Originally posted by Fatum:

so which of the above were you ? ...

10 char

If something's not right somewhere, he's probably not the one.

Jokes aside, I'm rather shocked you still managed to think that 'everything was fine' after he confronted you. What even more flabbergasting is that you could still question if it's really your fault.

A love relationship is fundamentally a recipocal emotional relationship between partners, who besides lovers are also best friends. The couple should learn and grow together; spurring each other on when the going gets tough. Also, it's a lot of acceptance - you know your relationship is doomed to fail when he can't even accept your lifestyle and you, his dress code!

Do you want to date a guy who: (1) doesn't respect and accept you as his equal (2) put you down all the time (3) is jealous and possessive - Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous  (4) doesn't share the same vision and dream as you - how can two walk together unless they agree.

If your answer to the above question is an unwavering yes, then by all means go ahead.

Tons of cards in a shoebox to sell ;)

Also, 1 championship deck 2007 1st runner up - Dragonstorm. Selling entire deck in mint condition, never left case nor protectors.

Well said!

That is why I always say "cash is king", I'd rather have an ultra fat wallet (like I always do ), do without the whatever services and discounts and be debtless at end of the month!

TS, do update us regarding your friend's plight.

WOT!

20 views and no reply, this gotta be my most successful thread ever.

Came across this story just couple mins back and want to share with everyone!

An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow fin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, "only a little while."

The American then asked why didn't he stay out longer and catch more fish?

The Mexican said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs.

The American then asked, "but what do you do with the rest of your time?"

The Mexican fisherman said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siesta with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos, I have a full and busy life."

The American scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat with the proceeds from the bigger boat you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually NYC where you will run your expanding enterprise."

The Mexican fisherman asked, "But, how long will this all take?"

To which the American replied, "15-20 years."

"But what then?"

The American laughed and said that's the best part. "When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions."

"Millions.. Then what?"

The American said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siesta with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos."

Thanks for the warning.

If you're still keen on the PSP, there're several shops in AMK I could recommend - just drop me a PM.

As for the scums who injured you, it's good to file a civil suit.

We're straying from the original topic

Originally posted by Hello Kitty:

can choose to know, selectively, anot?

i'd made too many mistakes in my life.

Can notch.

Don't worry, everybody makes mistakes. The past is long gone, and should only serve as a reminder, a lesson.